Oh fuck. I think I’ve just found an affair phone

[FuckyDuzz]

Well it’s not really an ‘I think’ really, I just have

There was an unfamiliar beeping coming from the coat/shoe cupboard so I went in to investigate and found a phone in DPs coat, a cheap little Nokia with just one contact - a woman’s name

I am home alone with 4 kids trying not to cry but honestly I could throw up right now
Wtf

Really sorry OP! If it had been me I'd be putting into WhatsApp to see if at least I recognise who the person is. And also into Facebook to see if it brings her up, but I'm investigative by nature and wouldn't cope with not knowing nor be able to not bring it up. Sending you hugs and wine, as you'll need it

OP, something just doesn’t stack up here. If it was an affair phone, he’d have it with him at all times. If he’d left it at home today, he’d have panicked and gone straight to it after work. Also, he wouldn’t ever have it on volume for it to have made noises. And smart phones are now too easy to hide things on, meaning it just doesn’t make sense to go around with a different phone for only the sake of an affair.

I’m wondering if it’s possible he’s rejected somebody and they’ve planted a phone on his jacket at work or something like that.

I’m not sticking up for him, I’ve felt genuinely upset reading through this post, but it just didn’t add up so I wondered if there’s any other explanation.

Totally understandable OP. Hug those babies tight. They're so precious. Tackle 'him' when you're ready and tonight is not the night. Feel more sturdy in yourself first. But use the time to get things in order for yourself too. X

@TokenGinger I agree. Something just doesn't add up here. Why on earth would he leave something so incriminating where it could be found with the sound on? And why go out without it tonight? Why was there only one message in the inbox but loads in sent items? There is either something strange going on or he is incredibly stupid!

I'm not saying he is innocent OP but I think you need to look into this further before you make any decisions. There's been some really good suggestions from PP along the lines of calling or texting the number. I think ta worth thinking about.

@TokenGinger ...the phone was on silent. The battery was low which made it bleep

I think you aren't leaving room for the fact that some men are just incredibly stupid when it comes to affairs, Token.

That sounds like a really good plan for tonight OP. Take your time and do this the way you feel is right.

I’m so sorry OP. Having a second phone is very odd. That said in our house we have a lot of old phones kicking about. Some with old messages on. They’re uncharged in a variety of places. Were the texts recent?

Have a quiet night with your kids. I understand why you didn’t want to bring this up and make it a reality tonight.

Do try to google address and phone number. Not now, but when you are ready so you are a bit more armed.

You are such a strong good woman and mother to your babies. We are behind you every step of the way. Good luck xx

cricket and token dont be so ridiculous. this isnt a TV show, its someones life and family. some men are just really that stupid and sly.

You take your time. Whenever you are ready to deal with it the MN Massive will be on standby to offer support. Nobody expects to find themselves in your position but sadly many of us have been through it, and survived. You sound like you have your head screwed on and some fantastic RL support in your mum, and you will survive it too.

Remember: everything will be alright in the end. And if it's not alright it's not the end

Nothing useful to add OP but just sending support and . The wonderful women of mumsnet are full of good advice, so just take your time, do things at your own pace, and hug those babies of yours.
Fucking prick - how could he risk his family's happiness? Grr.

Totally understandable you don't feel able to deal with this now OP. Take some time to process what has happened and what you want to do. We will all be here to support you when you are ready. x

What have you done with the phone?

What an absolute cunt 😡

Put the phone back after you've got all the information you need. If you take it you will blow your cover. You need time to think and plan.sorry for your pain

I don't have any words of advice im afraid but just wanted to give you

I hope that when the time is right for you, that you find the right RL support to not feel so alone. I am sitting here willing there to be some innocent explanation - you sound so lovely!

You've got a lot to deal with now. Don't feel you have to update until you are ready.

But I would make an appointment at the GUM clinic soon.

How old is he fuzzy?

My first thought was that it could be an older child he’d fathered. That’s probably because I know of two instances of that happening though, and I know nothing about punting.

I hope you’re getting some wonderful cuddles from your kids. Matilda is my DD’s favourite too.

Love and strength .

Take care OP

Sorry, fuckyduzz, not fuzzy. My phone got very confused by your username!

That said in our house we have a lot of old phones kicking about. Some with old messages on. They’re uncharged in a variety of places. Were the texts recent?

As @kate said is there no chance this is just an old phone? My DD loves playing wirh really old phones.

Hope you're doing ok

I hope you are ok OP. Entire thread is behind you. Do nothing now that's not in your interest first. You owe him shit.