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Oh fuck. I think I’ve just found an affair phone

999 replies

FuckyDuzz · 03/08/2018 15:57

Well it’s not really an ‘I think’ really, I just have

There was an unfamiliar beeping coming from the coat/shoe cupboard so I went in to investigate and found a phone in DPs coat, a cheap little Nokia with just one contact - a woman’s name

I am home alone with 4 kids trying not to cry but honestly I could throw up right now
Wtf

OP posts:
ACatsNoHelpWithThat · 03/08/2018 18:24

Texts could be short and to the point because they're texting during snatched moments during the day? And longer more detailed ones deleted.

sexnotgender · 03/08/2018 18:25

Just seen he’s home, hope you’re okFlowers

RestingBitchFaced · 03/08/2018 18:27

I'm not demanding an answer right this second am I? Jesus 😒

WalkingTed · 03/08/2018 18:28

you've had some good advice here... hope youre ok op

cricketmum84 · 03/08/2018 18:29

Good luck OP, really hope you are ok!

dogletsrock · 03/08/2018 18:31

Thinking of you, good luck op xxx

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 03/08/2018 18:32

Don't worry OP, what to do, will become clearer, as the night goes on.
Be kind to yourself, you've had a nasty shock.💐

MyGastIsFlabbered · 03/08/2018 18:32

Thinking of you OP. What a shocking discovery to make

Donthugmeimscared · 03/08/2018 18:34

To whoever said women don't communicate like that. I do but that's because I hate texting. I hope your ok op.

Iputthescrewinthetuna · 03/08/2018 18:38

Op, I hope you are being strong!

RatRolyPoly · 03/08/2018 18:39

In sorry OP, to me that's not an affair phone, that's a punting phone. To have a whole secret phone but only text perfunctory things that could easily be hidden on your normal phone? And it's not usual I would say to text someone your address without any conversation around it; not if you ACTUALLY know them. Less so if you're having an affair with them.

Flickerfromview · 03/08/2018 18:40

Calculated and calm. Bids your time to give him no wriggle room and to ensure your finances are tightly arranged. Pleas take him off your account.

Flickerfromview · 03/08/2018 18:40
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iklboo · 03/08/2018 18:42

DH just had a thought - could it be for drugs and the 'woman's' name is a code (or she could even be the dealer)?

Sorry if it's been mentioned before - my phone keeps freezing when I'm trying to scroll.

gingeristhenewblack43 · 03/08/2018 18:42

An absolutely awful situation to be in. I've been there, although it wasn't a phone, it was a receipt for condoms in his wallet.

Foodylicious · 03/08/2018 18:44

What a shit.

Hope you are doing ok

Lweji · 03/08/2018 18:44

Punting or affair, does it matter?

Guest6565 · 03/08/2018 18:46

Exactly Lweji

Strawberrybelly · 03/08/2018 18:46

I really feel for you Op what a shit he is.

TopBitchoftheWitches · 03/08/2018 18:48

op please do not feel pressurised by posters on here. Do what is best for you right now.

Flowers
RatRolyPoly · 03/08/2018 18:53

Punting or affair, does it matter?

Sometimes it does, to some people.

Gojira · 03/08/2018 18:53

What a shit he is.

I hope he's not trying to worm his way out of it with "oh yeah it's my mates Gary's phone" bollocks.

MayhemandMadness01 · 03/08/2018 18:54

It may not be an affair but to buy drugs or something else

esk1mo · 03/08/2018 18:56

Lweji having been cheated on with both escorts and non-escorts, to me there is a huge difference.

AtSea1979 · 03/08/2018 18:57

Good luck OP