Oh fuck. I think I’ve just found an affair phone

[FuckyDuzz]

Well it’s not really an ‘I think’ really, I just have

There was an unfamiliar beeping coming from the coat/shoe cupboard so I went in to investigate and found a phone in DPs coat, a cheap little Nokia with just one contact - a woman’s name

I am home alone with 4 kids trying not to cry but honestly I could throw up right now
Wtf

Good luck

Just read the thread. So sorry for what you’re going through. You can do this! and luck

Hope you're ok, op

Hope you're ok op x

Hope you are ok

When you confront...a good way is tell him you know he's been cheating on you.

You want the full truth...when it started...who she is (if you want to know). Tell him any denial will be the end of your relationship...His one chance to save it if possible is to come clean.

However...if you've no intention of leaving for whatever reason...I dont see the point in confronting.

If you've managed to get through tonight with no confrontation, well done. You are a better woman than I!

If you can, think long and hard tonight about how you are going to deal with this over the weekend and get him out. You are so much better off without.

And if I can say, you need that access to that Nokia phone only the once . So same applies if you can access his regular phone for 5 mins

Omg this is awful, you poor thing

Good luck op, stay strong

Tell him you can't talk until the kids are in bed, but if he goes out before then, he needs to pack a bag and know that he won't be coming back. Refuse to discuss further while the kids are up.

Hide the phone and make him wonder where it's gone and if you found it..

Good luck OP 💐🍷

What happened OP?

I hope there is an innocent explanation op but it definitely does not look good! Thinking of you.

RestingBitchFaced give her a chance!!

Just read the thread and something really jumped out at me. There were only a few messages on the phone with short and to the point texts. Short and to the point isn't really how most women communicate but how guys communicate with each other. I wonder if the OW could actually be an OM?

Regardless, it sucks for you OP. A lot of us have been there and it's so earth shaking we can truly sympathise with you. I would try and bide your time before confrontation. Don't give him any time to come up with excuses, stories and blah blah bullshit. The gaslighting will start right away and you will be convinced you're the one going crazy. My ExH was the master Gaslighter and when everything finally came to light it's downright feckin scary the cruelty of being gaslighted! I confronted right away and was one of my biggest mistakes. It gave him too much time to come up with shite, and gave him time to attempt to convince some of my friends and Mother that my mental health was at risk and he was worried about me. Because I kept 'imagining' all of these things were taking place. It was so sick and warped. Please don't let this happen to you. FWIW, I'd get my backside over to that address and sit around the corner and discreetly watch to see what the truth is.

I saw a few posts up that he is now home so please let us know how it's all gone. Big hugs x

Fucking hell RestingBitchFaced, he's only been in half an hour! At least try and pretend you're not treating this like the most recent episode of Eastenders waiting to find out what happens next

I'm so sorry FD. Whatever you want to do is fine. Just look after yourself and don't trust him without proof.

Hope you are okay OP, stay strong for yourself and your kids!

yankee its also how alot of sex workers communicate

Good luck op, so glad to hear you have all your ducks in a row