Catlady and Mini: Our new beginning (Support Thread)

[CatLadyToddlerMother]

Previous thread here from AIBU

Told to start new thread over here for support. TL:DR as previous thread is almost full: On 4th March this year my husband attacked me and threatened to kill me in front of our then 2 year old. I spent 10 days living on my mums sofa. Am now back in the flat we shared but planning to move soon on the request of my lovely over involved Social Worker. DD is now 3 and despite a few developmental issues is coming on in leaps and bounds. We also have a cat who is fussy, selfish and snobby lovely.

Mini and the cat have been the only things keeping me going sometimes, I've been so down even though everyone thinks I'm doing ok, sometimes I wonder if I'm too good at hiding it and I actually am loosing my mind.

Will post all updates here from now on.

Just wanted to say what a great job you are doing x

That’s DD down to theatre, I’m sat in reception trying to eat a sandwich. Ward was too hot for me to sit waiting for her plus there was no WiFi up there.

She was so good going under though, she didn’t cry or fight the doctors at all

Fx for you and Mini, she's a little star.

We're home.

She was so good. The staff let her take her favourite elephant with her, apparently he had to sit on a special table in the actual theatre but he went with her to recovery.

She was already awake when I got to recovery and was a bit upset I wasn't there I haven't told ExH that as he'd get upset she was upset but as soon as she saw me she wrapped her arms round me and had a snooze with her arms around my neck and her elephant tucked in against my chest. I had to sit on the trolley bed thing and be wheeled back to the ward with her asleep on me, which was actually a really lovely few moments as I was able to talk to her and kiss her and give her lots of hugs. And of course when she woke again she wasn't upset because I was there holding her.

On the way home she spotted the Tesco sign and demanded a donut don't most children demand mcdonalds or something not Tesco? So we stopped and she of course chose the biggest, chocolatist donut krispy kreme she could find. She deserves it though

So proud of her. She's just watching ITNG, and will be off to bed soon.

Bless her little heart! You must be so relieved tonight - lots of cuddles for the both of you over the next few days.
for you
for Mini (when she wakes up)

Sorry I wasn't around while you were waiting, but I'm glad everything went ok. Funnily enough, I really fancied a chocolate Krispy Kreme when we got the shopping on Sunday, so I got one too!
So sweet that she fell asleep with her arms around your neck, bless her.

You can breathe now!

Its so lovely and heart warming to see how well you and mini are doing op.
Have commented on thread earlyer but had a namechange and havent been back for a while.

Chocolate doughnuts are the best. Mini has good taste

Oh I missed her op, I'm so sorry!

Really glad to hear she's OK though, and you! Love the idea of a special table for elephant in the op theatre.

Some days are write offs for me too. It doesn't make you a bad person, and it doesn't ruin anything. Congratulations at beaing able to just start again the next day. Great attitude. What a fine example you are to dd.

Poor Mini really missing her friends. She;s been really ill.

Not really eating much (which is really unlike her) sleeping a lot, and she just looks so pale. She asked to go to preschool this morning and cried when I said she wasn't well enough "I want friends" and rubbing her eyes.

She's spent most of the last few days watching TV snuggled under her blanket or sleeping

Also very nice of ExH to stay out of contact with me...a quick text asking about his DD wouldn't have gone a miss. I text him all Wednesday with updates and got replies then so he knows he's allowed to ask, actually I'd love him to ask. If her Nursery can manage to call me this morning and yesterday (they left me alone on Wednesday as they didn't want to intrude which is fine for a Nursery) he can manage a text or two...

And breathe.

The thing is, you're expecting him to act like any decent person would, yet you know he's not a decent person. He only cares about himself.

Poor little Mini. Is she well enough for one of her little friends to visit? (I'm assuming her being unwell, is due to her surgery, rather than something infectious.) Or failing that, perhaps a Skype call so she can chat to one of them?
I hope she's feeling better soon.

She's not really well enough for visitors, she cried when my mum popped over with bread milk and cat food earlier. I think she could have an ear infection due to the surgery but it's not contagious. Can't take her to GP or anything until Monday though as until then it could just be pain/tiredness from the surgery.

She’s still clearly not well, she’s been asleep since 2.30pm. It’s weirdly quiet without her.

Poor little scrap. It's so hard when they're poorly when they're so small. Hope she improves quickly.

Fuck sake I missed the op as I was dealing with school stuff and my own shithead of an ex
I hope she's feeling better soon, I've found a hot flannel on the ear you think is infected helps, DS gets chronic ones

Queenofthestress I do this when I get an ear infection it really helps. She's actually been sitting with the left ear (which I think is the infected one) on the cats fur and she seems better with that.

She's awake now, but is already ready to go back to bed.

Bless her, I'd keep her up an hour than pop her back in bed, both of mine have caught the cough going round so it's going to be a lonnnnnnng night

Cats are so therapeutic, and the buzz of purring round your head with the lovely soft fur and warmth of another living creature - oh there's nothing like it!

She went back to bed about 9pm after playing with her dolls for a bit and watching the first bit of finding nemo which I've been promising her she can watch for ages.

She seems a bit better today but is still grumpy and a bit clingy. She's having a nap on the settee so I'm on my laptop next to her drinking a hot cup of tea (makes a change!)

Just back from OOH, couldn't bare to leave her in pain any longer.

Good job I took her. Temp of 38.9, screamed when the doctor put the probes in her ears to look and take her temp. My poor baby , no wonder she's been so sleepy.

Doesn't look like she'll be well enough for Nursery on Tuesday and Wednesday.

That should say "No wonder she's been so sleepy, she has infections in both ears"

Poor thing. My daughter often got ear infections, it was horrible, you feel so helpless.

Hopefully the antibiotics will kick in soon and give her some relief.

Think I'm in a for a long vomit filled night, poor baby isn't at all well

Oh no.

Bless her xx hope she feel better soon and take care of yourself also

Finally seem to be coming out the other side (hurrah!). DD seems to be looking a bit better than she was and has eaten a bit of porridge this morning! First food since Saturday night.

She's still having calpol 3-4 times a day but we're making progress. Hopefully she's able to go back to Nursery on Friday.