Dating Thread 137 – Sausage Party at the SUC

[Kinunir]

Dating Thread 137 – Sausage Party at the SUC

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

wishy good news about the date, I had never been on a date in my life before last year. I was only nervous for the first one, after that I didn't get nervous about first dates because I just thought of it as meeting people for a chat to see if we get on!
Sorry I can't remember who mentioned a therapist, I do see someone for my asd, 'normal' therapists don't work for me because of the way my brain works. I need a specialist, I don't get to see her as often as I would like though.
I might look into a life coach, i feel a bit overwhelmed with life right now in general and don't think I make the most of it. I'm constantly worried about money although I don't really need to be that concerned and I get obsessed with things and forget about everything else!

Thanks cake
Out of all the ones lined up he's the one I see least potential with, he's fairly attractive but there just has been very little conversation but I'm hoping that might be different IRL
If not, I'm seeing him as a practice run and hopefully there'll be more to follow!
I hope you're feeling slightly better about things soon. I understand the feeling of being overwhelmed, sometimes I find the best thing to do is take a step back and look at the positive things. I make lots of lists too, they help me feel in control of things!

wishy I think some nerves before a first date is heathly and to be expected. I went through a period late last year when I had a few first dates close together and I didn't feel nervous at all so I needed a break! I took a break over Christmas and it did help.

Hope it goes well.

Ok, something fucking freaky weird has just happened.

I was on POF, a guy had messaged me (local farmer). I looked at his profile and all the tractor pics, hilarious, nothing out of the ordinary. Clicked off the app, and then went back through to my message screen half an hour later. There was a second message from him so I opened it. Here is THE WEIRD SHIT. It was in reply to a message I never sent. I never sent him a message but it was there on the screen in the chat thread. WTAF!!!!

Has anyone had this on POF???? How did it happen? It's not anything like my message style so I didn't do it by mistake. I'm wondering what else POF has sent people in my name?

Jeez

here is the thread. The "hey there:)" allegedly came from me. I didn't write that!!!

Bendy, there's something different for women on POF (that I obviously don't know too much about) - some sort of 'like' button, either on profiles or the meet me thing, that sends that message out.

I used to get loads of them and thought it was spam until I found out otherwise.

Bendy
How weird! Have you been hacked?
It's a while since I was on POF but it didn't happen to me.... I don't think??!

it's never happened before to my knowledge. And I didn't click anything. Didn't fancy the potato head at all!! Bless him.

ok, I've worked it out.

When you are on a profile, not the message screen, there are two buttons to press: message and flirt. I clicked the flirt button to see what it would do and it sent the same message to him again. I must have touched the screen accidentally before. Now I've got to explain to him that I'm not interested!

So, the Flirt button on POF sends the message "hey there :) " Now I know.

Potato Head

At least you've figured it out! Poor Mr Potato Head

Omg bendy I am wondering how many people I have done that to!

I am having to go home and shower before going out tonight fgs. I looked hideous and only a shower and make up will fix so will do a ridiculous long round commute for the sake of it! The date better be good tonight!

I'm sure you look much better than you think daffo

Luckily my work has showers so I can avoid going home first, but tbh they just have to find me as I come!

(Yes. Yes, there is innuendo in that and I don't care )

daffo good luck for tonight!

I feel like that too today daffo

Date is at 7 and I'm wondering how many hours it's going to take to make me look less gruesome than I feel!

Lol Bendy

Btw does anyone watch Catfish on MTV? It does make you feel a lot better about OLD!

So last night I had a second date with Miss TA#2. I found her to be a most comely and handsome woman, full or moral fortitude and an agreeable disposition.

Should she deign to afford me the opportunity, I may court her further.

@Daffo, I've watched Catfish and its amazing! I can't believe people talk to randoms for years in some cases.
I'm finding Badoo just odd, so busy, so many randoms and I'm finding it a bit full on. People handing out phone numbers on like the first message, suggesting hotels etc.
One thing I've just seen is it has your 'friends' on there so I assume this connects from Facebook? One of the friends is single. The other is the GF of one of my good friends. Could this be innocent? I'm a bit conflicted.

Date with Mr Sausage all confirmed for later and I'm suddenly nervous despite being a first date pro!

coolcahuna I haven't linked Badoo to FB so I have no idea.

Good luck with Mr Sausage later! I assume he isn't actually a butcher?

lol @ kin Did she show you her ankles?

Bendy! That would have been most inappropriate, especially in the absence of a chaperone.

Cool I think you can link your fb and insta to badoo but you don't have to. I chose not to so I don't see "friends" on there
I do get a bit bombarded on there but in amongst the weird and wonderful offers I've been speaking to some apparently genuine guys :)

@Bendy, I've just randomly given him that name, I can't even remember now!

I've just unlinked my Facebook and Badoo connection, I didn't like that feature! So I can now pretend I didn't see my friends GF on there, I clicked on her so she will know I've seen her - why did I do that!

Yep getting totally bombarded, hey ho will sort through the dross at some point

I was curious and clicked on the "show women only" setting on Badoo. Oh my goodness me.

Hey hey.

Another on and off poster of a few years who had given posting a swerve recently for aforementioned reasons, glad that’s all sorted. Because drumroll I’m fucking FIFTY very shortly and have had to make my peace with not only that, but with going back online. Cos whilst I didn’t meet anyone I wanted to pursue anything with last go round, you know, I had some dates and my self esteem didn’t take a kicking.

And I say I’ve made my peace; actually I can only imagine what being the other side of that line is going to be like.

Runs and Val : hold me......

Bendy how do you do that?! I'm intrigued!
Maybe you've seen me?!

Cover welcome back!! I'm relatively new on here but finding it very helpful