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Dating Thread 137 – Sausage Party at the SUC

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Kinunir · 17/07/2018 12:40

Dating Thread 137 – Sausage Party at the SUC

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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Lovemusic33 · 05/08/2018 11:22

Trying to find some people in the forum. I'm useless at this. Find it harder talking to ment than women. Hopefully I will find someone. I'm a member of 3 similar groups, all have members here bit none that I have ever met (except one who is a parent from the school, and I can't contact him). I will have another wonder around in a bit and grab some food.

Cakecrumbs · 05/08/2018 11:32

love can you maybe do what kin suggested?

DaffoDeffo · 05/08/2018 12:02

Are you near any of us love?

I have thrown caution to the wind and arranged 3 dates for next week. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

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Lovemusic33 · 05/08/2018 12:23

I'm in Portsmouth.
I really want to go home Sad
It's really busy, I have had a wonder around, everyone seems to be in groups or with family. I have bought myself something to eat. I'm tempted just to drive home.

BendyLikeBeckham · 05/08/2018 12:35

kin I got 7 too!

lovemusic can you go to the beer tent (there is always a beer tent!), sit down and chill? You might get chatting to someone, you might not, but you can still have a nice time!

Cakecrumbs · 05/08/2018 13:03

kin I got 8 but some were lucky guesses!

DaffoDeffo · 05/08/2018 13:04

I got 8 :)

DaffoDeffo · 05/08/2018 13:04

Love I would just go home. No point feeling more miserable. If I was closer I would have popped along :(

DaffoDeffo · 05/08/2018 13:04

You will probably miss the traffic if you go now too x

ValMc1 · 05/08/2018 13:06

Love Stay and enjoy the festival - I did my first solo concert a few weeks ago and loved it - people were very friendly - plonk yourself down next to a group and see what happens - hopefully they'll start chatting - if not move onto another group

hatty44 · 05/08/2018 15:03

Differing sex drives at the start is just not going to work is it?
Wondering whether to get out quickly before any more invested....

CoverMeLads · 05/08/2018 15:30

Love hope you found a forum bod/a nice chatty person to talk to. I’d be well fucked off with the person you were supposed to meet prepares to launch into rant about manners

Hatty how differing? I’m guessing yours is higher? (I may be projecting here Wink) I don’t think I could deal with something markedly different, no; if that kind of intimacy is important to you, in the long run you might end up feeling rejected.

Sex is not that important in a happy relationship for some people (the mad fools); but a noticeable mismatch in any department very early on doesn’t bode well IMO

flamingnoravera · 05/08/2018 15:54

I need some help to get the perfect response to this nasty character.

Ten years ago I had an awful breakup and divorce and was left feeling very vulnerable and fragile. I joined M.C and a man lets call him Mr Golf started to chat to me. He seemed genuine and we met up and he came on to me and I let him and we dtd. I was then promptly ghosted. It was the first time this had happened to me and I was really upset.

So here I am ten years later, back on OLD back with M.C and a I get a first message today "STUNNING" it said. I looked at the pic (six copies of the same pic) and thought I know that face from somewhere and then I realised it was Mr Golf. I replied to his "stunning" message with "do you play golf?" and he replied "yes I do :)" I know its him. I want a perfect one line put down to take the wind from his sails before I block him. Help me with this one off opportunity to get a ghoster!

flamingnoravera · 05/08/2018 15:56

I forgot to mention the dick pics I should have known then that he was a wrong un. But I was young and niave. But not any more.

ValMc1 · 05/08/2018 16:36

Flaming - fuck off seems appropriate!

DaffoDeffo · 05/08/2018 16:42

Have you still got the dick pics flaming? I would send one back to him and tell him to suck on it!

flamingnoravera · 05/08/2018 16:48

I wish I had still got the DP. And believe me I have had a trawl through my archives but darnit no I dont. I could send him some other tosser's dick pic and tell him to suck on it though?

Fuck off just seems such a missed opportunity.

I was thinking about a "I would rather stick pins in my eyeballs than see you again" type response.

YesYABU · 05/08/2018 17:12

Checking back in and trying to catch up on everyone.
I'm still dating the original person I met up with a good month ago! I don't think I gave him a name, but it's the guy I'd been messaging for a long time before finally meeting. Despite not feeling the initial pull of attraction I'm now well and truly smitten after lots of awesome dates.

Trying not to hit the self destruct button on this or self sabotage which is hard. I want to fast forward things so that it all feels safe and predictable but know that this isn't the basis of any decent relationship. He says and does really nice things, but not love bomby, but I pick up on tiny things instead and stew on them.

I'm assuming this is a common thing but any words of advice?

Lovemusic33 · 05/08/2018 17:16

Daff I went home. It was hard to mix or start talking to anyone. I didn’t have my van with me (it was a VW festival and my van is in the garage), I have been to other festivals and people have talked to me as my van stands out, today I was in my car so people just gave me odd looks. This bloke persuaded me to go, I drove quite far so was obviously very pissed off after paying to get in. It was the biggest event I have been to on my own, it was very very busy and noisy.

Because my day was rubbish I ended up sending a text to Mr Camper, he hasn’t read it or replied so I think I have my answer. I am now contemplating going back on POF or meeting up with FWB (or both).

CoverMeLads · 05/08/2018 18:00

So I have a date; no flies on me, eh? I’m calling him Herr Flick, though he is neither German nor wears a trilby and leather. That I’m aware of.

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Kinunir · 05/08/2018 18:06

Cover does he have a stolen painting and big boobies?

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CoverMeLads · 05/08/2018 18:20

I hope very much not, regarding the latter. To be honest I’m meeting him because he’s very interesting and we have a lot in common, but am pretty sure it won’t be a goer. One, height. Two, no car. Both are pretty important to me. But I’m not going to turn down the opportunity to meet someone really interesting, so.....

coolcahuna · 05/08/2018 18:48

I got 8 out of 11 on that quiz!

My ex does the marleying every Xmas. Didn't know it had a term!

coolcahuna · 05/08/2018 18:55

In other news, after saying I was having a break, I have 2 new irons in the fire. Both local. Mr Zoo and Mr Dog.

We're in France on holiday now. Had a quick peek on Bumble...wow hotties.

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