Dating Thread 137 – Sausage Party at the SUC

[Kinunir]

Dating Thread 137 – Sausage Party at the SUC

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Thank you Kin that's very useful. I met my ex on OKC and we were together 2 years. I really liked it. I'm trying Bumble just because it's new. I like that it's not a big profile thing because I don't really know what I'm looking for!

How is everyone? Any exciting dates happening?
vet have you heard from Mr DM?
love how is the dog?
I have a date this afternoon but feeling a bit down, really missing my ex

I need an exciting date Cake! I'm having the worst dating week ever so far:

Tuesday: crap date
Wednesday: meh date
Thursday: cancelled date
Friday: actually chased someone for the first time in years (won't be doing that again!)
Today: had a late morning/early afternoon date with someone coming back from holiday - she overslept by 4 hours odd so now not happening.

Roll on next week and I hope you are all having a better week than I :)

Hi cake ,my dogs much better thank you, I think it was just the heat.

Seems very quiet on here, maybe everyone’s busy with summer holidays?

Not much going on here, still no date set with Mr Camper, he’s still messaging but not much due to being busy at work (or so he says). I’m full of cold/flu so not in the mood to see anyone and can’t even meet up with FWB (because I will cough all over him). So all a bit boring here.

kin although they've been crap, at least you've had dates arranged, the good one is bound to come along soon!
love sorry you are full of the cold, hope you feel better soon. Have you thought any more about MrCampervan? Are you quite happy to just back off a bit?

Hello everyone. Been feeling a bit meh about dating but great about life. Been spending time with family and friends which makes me happy :-).

@kin I'm impressed at the number of dates you are fitting in! The right one must be on her way, it's a numbers game right.

@cake, you thinking of going on your date or cancelling?

I'm still feeling jaded with dating and have fancy fatigue. Not helped by my FWB who I saw this week and I fancy him so much 🙄. Supposed to be going on a date tomorrow evening with Mr Pointy but he's gone quiet and I'm not chasing it up.

Chatting to someone new now but heart not really in it.

cake for now I’m just backing off, I haven’t really got much spare time right now anyway, he seems to be very busy at work and doesn’t seem to be finding any spare time to see me, not sure if he is just busy or if he’s not interested so will just leave it up to him. I’m trying hard not to stress about it.

@love, sounds really frustrating. I'm rubbish at loose ends like this and just want to know what the plan is and when I'm seeing them next. Really tough, you're being very patient with him.

It's only because I'm on gardening leave cool - come the end of August I won't have anywhere near as much free time so I am making hay while the sun shines.

You have the patience of a saint Love.

Just diving in after a bit of a break: after my last experience of OLD, the guy who I actually quite liked (Mr Shy) went really weird on me and didn't speak to me for almost a week post MB. Then reappeared like nothing had happened with some crap excuse about how busy he had been with work - I actually called him out on how no one is too busy to not get in touch for 5 days, and thought it was a shitty way to behave. Obv did not like that one bit & went off radar again - now keeps checking out my statuses on WhatsApp daily. Anyway, his bridges are well and truly burnt now - such a shame as he was the first date of had in ages where there was real potential.

I had a date with a diff guy who I met at the same time, who has now moved to Canada to work for a couple of years but has invited me out there to visit him! Kind of tempted - always wanted to visit. We message each other daily & keeping up the contact.

Went on a date 2 weeks ago with a guy who was 8 years younger than me, he practically begged me to meet him..... and I really liked the way he carried himself. So I did, all I can say is wow. He was quite mature for his age and there was that instant attraction thing for both of us.

I've been on holiday for a week and he has been in touch every day - finally meeting up again today.

I have never dated someone this much younger than me before (my lowest was 28) but I am young at heart and he seems to love the older woman thing so I should just enjoy it right? (Im 35) - younger guy, older woman thing just seems to work.

Hope y'all enjoying this stunning weather 💕💋😙 x

coolcahuna I will go, I don't like to go back on my word. I just hope I can think of enough to talk about to get through it.
vixen I had a relationship with someone 8 1/2 years younger than me, out of all my relationships he was the person I clicked with most and is still one of my favourite people ever. Ultimately it didn't work out between us because I was ready for the quiet country life and he hadn't really lived through his 20s yet, if he had been the same age as me I reckon we'd still be together now. He was only 23 when we got together though so maybe you are starting at a better age!

@cake, what's the chat been like pre date?
After saying I wasn't feeling it with Mr Pointy, he must have read my mind. He's cancelled as he went on another date last night and they really hit it off. Fair enough!
At least he was honest and didn't ghost.

Cake - yeah he is a bit older in that sense as is further on in his 20s, good career etc so will just see how it goes.... I am happy with low maintenance type thing at the moment & keeping expectations low but feels nice to have that wow factor, attraction wise..... really missed that 😍

Wait, what's MB? There loads of new stuff which I'm unfamiliar with - I've had to google pansexual and sapiophile this morning

Vixen I dated a bloke who was 9 years younger than me when I was about your age...the sex was AMAZING Enjoy!!

Cool what's the deal with your FWB? Sounds like he's a bit of a yardstick and others aren't matching up?

I've got a fancy problem in that I don't really like facial hair on a man. It's a fucking nightmare trying to find someone I fancy these days

I'm feeling a bit low right now, despite having promised myself to stick to the rules of OLD, I heavily over invested in couple weeks long chat with the guy off Bumble (I've deleted my account since, didnt like it anyway) who, upon meeting, turned out to be nothing like his whatsapp/videocall self.
Sigh

MB = Mosseburgers aka DTD aka doing the deed aka Hiding The Sausage

Maggie im not a fan of facial hair- I can cope with stubble or a very well maintained short beard (this is a recent development)

But the beard phase has been here now for a very long time 🤣😂 I dont think it is disappearing any time soon ☹

Mosseburgers?! Still none the wiser. Have heard of sex though, I'm not completely clueless

Think you're right about beards Vixen. So annoying.

jhene That's shit, sorry to hear that. So disappointing especially when you had a video chat too.

Hey ho. Two dates to take mind off Mr Mafia have only served to make me pretty tortured missing him. First was into racing cars and a rock singer and turned out to be small and feminine. Second Mr Local is a genuinely lovely person just had a really yokel accent and some physical things I don't like, but we agree on a lot of things so said id see again. Meanwhile talking to a classical musician and conductor who sounds divine but not of my world. Cant think what he sees in me. And Mr Separated which is not a route I ever wanted to go down but he's attractive and I'm miserable over Mr Mafia. Really have to follow those thread rules!!

@Maggie, fwb is someone I dated for a year. That finished last spring but we stayed friends and now he's a FWB. He knows I'm dating although no details, he says he's not (which I believe, however totally his call).

There were lots of flaws in our relationship, namely his lack of free time...now I'm left with the nice bits of good chat and good sex. However i think it's stopping me from fancying anyone else as I'm really attracted to him. Sigh. I think I know what I need to do but don't want to...whaa.

@vixen I've grown to like the facial hair. Mainly because as you say, they all have it 😂🙄

Maggie it's mooseburgers. The theory is that men like a challenge, they like to pursue/hunt women as per going on a moose hunt. When they finally get the elusive and difficult moose/woman after having to work for it it's more worthwhile. By contrast if you just hand them a mooseburger on a plate it has no value as they didn't have to work for it. Based on this analogy, mooseburgers became a synonym for sex.

Ohh I found the thread! Posted a while ago and couldn't find it. Think I was thrown by the sausage title!

Anyway, I've just been on my first first date in 16 years! Totally new to Internet dating. Don't entirely understand it yet but good to have this thread to catch up on

mum, so how was it?
I went on my date, I was feeling a bit down today and it certainly served as a distraction from my thoughts for the afternoon but definitely no interest from my side. I don't think he was interested either, really must be losing my touch, I've never not been asked for a second date!

Evening ladies, I have another question for your consideration:

How long do you spend chatting on the apps before you push towards the date? I am speaking to 3-4 girls over the last couple of weeks, but fairly sporadically. Two of them I had not heard from in a week and thought that was that, but they have both messaged me over the weekend. I am treating the conversation like a tennis match - if I send a message and don't get a reply, I won't send another one.

I know girls don't want to spend weeks chatting via the apps (you often make this the first point on your profiles!) but I don't know if I want to meet any of the girls I'm talking to yet. Conversation has been pleasant but nothing to make me race out the door, especially when it's been a week between messages in some instances. Do I carry on the conversations to build a bit more of a rapport, or do I just ask for the date?