Dating Thread 137 – Sausage Party at the SUC

[Kinunir]

Dating Thread 137 – Sausage Party at the SUC

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

choc I have messaged first in the past but lately he keeps saying how busy he is so I kind of leave it up to him to message me. I sent a could messages this morning, replying to his text last night but just feels like he hasn’t got time to talk, tells me what he has to get done today and tomorrow and how busy he is.

Kin my messages might have npbeen a bit shorter than past couple days but I have been in bed unwell and have been going to sleep early in the evenings, but he knows I was unwell. Maybe he backed off a bit because of this? I don’t know, I find this mind reading part of dating so hard. Obviously after him staying Sunday night and things in the bedroom department not being great I have probably not been as talkative (on top of being ill).

Yeah love the mind reading bit is hard as hell!

One other thing I just thought of... Obviously we don't know what the bedroom issues are (that's your business alone) but could he be embarrassed? Men are very touchy about such things and may even run away from something they don't want to face up to!!

Interested to see how it goes vet - I'm very much a say what I think person and while it can create shit storms sometimes at least there's less gameplaying and torturous waits.

How do you all feel about managing more than one iron? Got three new on the go and feel like I have to study for a quiz before talking or meeting them in case I get them mixed up.

Seeing a Mr Racer tonight, he's shorter than me and a bit of a playboy type so not really sure. Nice hands though! And Mr Local, who is extremely local (bit worrying as prob run into each other once we've met) is on Saturday.

vet that is a difficult one. Out of interest, why doesn't he hold hands?

I don't know Tom, it just hasn't really happened.

Do you know his relationship history? Has he had long term relationships?

He was with someone for 10 years and they were engaged but that ended 5 or 6 years ago - he broke it off (apparently). Since then I don't know, from what I can gather there hasn't been anything long-term. He mentioned one person he dated but it was only for a few months.

He knows what I'm looking for long-term and he wants the same, or at least he said he did. He's pretty clear that he's looking for marriage and kids, he mentions it a lot. Well, I've been out this evening so just messaged him, it hasn't been read yet. The other thing is that he just started a new job 2 weeks ago and has been doing ridiculous hours and a long commute- last week he was getting home at 8.30-9pm so probably the same this week.

Carousel when I was actively dating I always had more than one iron on the go at any one time. Stops overinvesting and disappointment if/when one disappears. Think I'm probably going to be back on it again soon!

Hi all, so I think I maybe have 2 irons. I have a date set for Tuesday, let's call him Mr Mystery because I don't really know much about him, he doesn't message much but thought I'd give him a go anyway.
Then the other one I don't have a name for yet and there are things I like about him but again he doesn't chat much. I'm kind of struggling to get any conversations going with anyone. Do guys just not tend to text much?

Hi everyone, I'm new just hoping for some advice really, not worthy of a thread of its own and you're the experts so here I am.
I think I've been ghosted . Met last week, he messaged me to thank me for a lovely time, I told him he's left something of his at my house. He said he will get it when we see each other. Asked him for a drink he said he's busy and not heard anything since.
So my question is do we just leave it like that? Or something else?
I don't want to see him again anyway. If he contacts I will tell him that.
Just seems strange to just ignore each other without saying anything.

I've re-jigged my profile. Any chance I could have a proof-read?

vet his new job sounds quite hectic, which maybe isn't helping. Also, as he's been single for a while it sounds like he's maybe just not confident in the bedroom department? I think all you can do is next time you're with him make it very clear you're up for more than kissing and see where that takes you. I'd go more for subtle hints and flirting than an open conversation if he's quite shy about that type of thing. He might just need a gentle push in that direction.

Thanks Tom, although right now I'm not sure when or even if I'm going to see him again. I think you're right about the lack of confidence though for sure.

Dan I'm happy to look at your profile.

Thanks Vet, I've DM'd you

Vet your situation sounds a bit like mine. Hope it sorts itself out one way or another.

My dog is unwell so looks like I will be up most of the night with her, she's my best friend, she's got me through divorce and several bad relationships, she's getting old and I know my time with her is limited. I'm going to be lost if I have to say goodbye to her

Oh love I really hope your dog is OK. The unconditional love our pets give us really is unrivalled isn't it?

jilly in your situation I would just leave it, although I'd find it hard not to look for answers, I think you'd be kinder to yourself if you could resist!

I was thinking the same Love. I honestly don't know what is with these men, I really don't. It's so bloody disheartening. I'm sorry about your dog too, what is wrong with her tonight? I can offer advice if needed; I understand dogs much better than men! I would be totally lost without my dogs, they make me smile and save my sanity on a daily basis.

Thanks cake, I will leave it, I'm not looking for answers, really don't care what he thinks about me, I've gone right off him anyway.
Just disappointed really, we've known each other quite a while.
Seems strange to just stop talking.
I could imagine him wanting to get personal and assassinating me if I make my position clear even in a nice way and I'm really not up for that.
Maybe he'll pop back up, we've had periods of not talking before but it was very long distance then.
I will try tinder, but I idea what to write on my bio. Can I be bothered.

Thanks Vet, I don't understand men either, this dating stuff is such hard work.
My dog is getting old, I think the heat is getting to her, she's a almost 12 year old staffie and she's slowed right down since she had major surgery last year but the last 3 days she has been off her food and lethargic, not getting off the sofa to follow me around like she usually does. Yesterday she hardly got up meaning she hadn't had a drink, I spent last night syringing water into her mouth to try and get fluids into her, I'm worried she will dehydrate in this heat. I'm going to tempt her with some breakfast in a bit and decide if I should take her too the vets (she hates going and I don't want to upset her).

I tried to start conversation with Mr camper yesterday and didn't really get far (just general chit chat), I'm not going to bother today, I know he's busy with work for a few days so I will just take a step back and let him make the next move, if he doesn't then I know it's not going to work out.

The heat is really hard on them, I would be concerned if she's not taking in enough fluids. If you pinch her skin does it spring back quickly or stay wrinkled? If it stays wrinkled and/or her gums look red and feel hot and 'tacky' to touch those are signs of dehydration. Maybe get a few rehydration sachets or make your own using salt and sugar and syringe that into her little and often. If she's very flat, not drinking and not toileting then she would need to see the vet. I'm seeing a lot of older dogs at the moment that are struggling in the heat. I hope she's better today.

I messaged Mr DM 12 hours ago and it's been delivered but hasn't been read which is unheard of except when he was in hospital before. I don't know if he's been online as he doesn't have the 'last online' time thing on WhatsApp. Ah well, looks like it's back to the drawing board for me.

Thanks Vet, she’s more mobile this morning and has eaten breakfast, I took her for a plod around out the front. Last night she seemed dehydrated which is why I pushed fluids into her, her skin was springing back but slowly. I will keep a close eye on her today. Are those cooling pads any good for keeping dogs cool?

Mr Camper has messaged me to ask how the dog is.

I’m going to drag the kids out to keep my mind busy and then take a rain check on the dog (see if she needs to see the vet).

I've heard from a couple of different people that the pads are good but their dogs are not interested in lying on them!!

Dan if is PoF I'm happy to have a look for you

hope your dog is ok lovemusic

Fingers crossed the dog is ok love.

I have had some great dates but none of them are going to lead anywhere. I am still feeling disillusioned. I had forgotten how much hard work this is. Problem is I will be back in full time work soon and I won't have time to put as much effort in. I have spent 4 weeks really trying - making time to meet up, replying to worthwhile messages etc. I know we shouldn't expect miracles but the longer this goes on, the more tedious it is becoming

Hello, just stumbled onto this thread as considering going on a few sites just to chat to men. I'm not ready to date, it's just I've come out of an abusive relationship and I feel like I want a healthy dose of flirting to remind me what it was like in the past. Can anyone here recommend any good sites?