Dating Thread 137 – Sausage Party at the SUC

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Dating Thread 137 – Sausage Party at the SUC

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

deffo yeah I'm prepared for that too. Been so hard resist texting as id rather see his face when I mention it. All I've done is get back into bed though don't even want to put makeup on yet in case he does cancel or I cry it off first.

I think that's fine. Be kind to yourself. The anticipation is always the worst bit. Fingers crossed it goes ok and even if he's not for you, it all ends in a respectful way even if it's hurtful :(. Poor you. Make yourself a nice drink and eat loads of ice cream x

Thank you. Annoyingly allergic to milk so I'll try and hunt down some dairy free ice cream and chocolate! X

Yes treat yourself!

my rash is not getting better! All this time with no shag and now I have a mimsy like a belisha beacon!

Did you try Sudo Cream that always helps me!

I haven't got any but I do have some hydrocortisone cream so have slapped that on argh

Ah good luck 😬 although I'm sure it will be fine by the time your date comes around. I hope it goes well. X

Can anyone advise. Joined Badoo this week, maybe Wednesday. Crazy amount of likes etc but now I find all the likes are pixilated and it just says. Someone from Colchester, Someone from London, Someone from etc.

Is this to get me to pay? Finding the site a bit confusing but have found a local iron so that's good. Did this happen to you?

azzizam the same happened to me, I'm just waiting it out in the hope it goes back to normal. I think it'll show me if I get a match still anyway and there are too many likes to trawl through everyone so I don't think I'm particularly bothered

daffo good luck, no advice for the rash I'm afraid, my bikini line always gets in a state from any kind of hair removal, so frustrating! I'm sure he won't care anyway

Thanks Cakecrumbs. Yes I'm not messaging anyone so in the great scheme it's not important. Occasionally you might spot an interesting face. The actual messages are coming through.

The constant requests for photos is so draining. Unless I've got make up on I look awful in photos. I should really take a break but like a moth to a light bulb ......sighs.

I've never been asked for a photo
I don't think I'm that popular, not getting many messages either

Good luck for your date tonight daffo! Hope it's fun!!

@Azzizam badoo does this but if you ignore it for a little while it returns to normal. Or mine did anyway! I think it's an attempt to get you to pay but I never did and after a week or so it went back to showing me who'd liked me

minnie any update? he doesn’t have a leg to stand on because Tinder only shows active profiles, plus the location change.

daffo im not sure about hydrocortisone on the vag i’d defo try get some sudocrem!

Well I've been building myself up for getting back on OLD after breakup two months ago. Thought I was over the worst, feeling myself again but low and behold just realised my ex has unfriended me on fb and it knocked me back a bit. We haven't even talked or anything but just made me feel a bit Shitty 😔 so much for him 'wanting to stay friends'. What an arse.

Had a very casual ‘date’ on Wednesday ... it was basically a hook up (no sex). He messaged me the next day and I messaged him the next but the conversation kind of petered out ... i didn’t reply to his last message. I just don’t think he’s a big chatter and we met up quite quickly after beginning talking so don’t know each other that well. Should I message and really casually put it out there that I’d like to see him again or cut my losses? I’d have heard from him again if he wanted to? Xx

Thanks @ Wishy. I'll hang on.

@Cat. I would say cut your losses. But I'm feeling cynical about OLD tonight. You'll probably feel worse if he doesn't message back. Worse than if you just leave it open.

I meant to say I finally heard from an Iron after 4 weeks of deafening silence. Yes he had problems with his car but presumably that didn't involve the bonnet crushing all fingers and thumbs.

He asked was I up to much (no doubt hoping to be invited around for sex) and I replied I was busy and I was always up to something. Then he said have a nice time. So bored with it all!!!!!!

You’re probably right! Just worried he thinks I’m not interested cos I didn’t reply. Maybe one day next week I’ll just message him asking how he is and see what happens rather than saying I wanna see him again.

I hate this so much!

It's horrible Cat. I went out with one I really liked. He went away for three weeks. I waited five days to ask how his holiday was and he couldn't have been more disinterested so I left it. Hurts every time!

It’s so hard not to be really hurt isn’t it?
But when you have your guard up and think no I won’t message ... you could end up missing out xx

@Catmatrat @Azzizam

Try to remember that you're trying to find someone who is worthy of you, not the other way round. Rules 2,6 and 7 of this thread - read them and repeat them!
These guys are not worth your stress or tears

So I have started on the next step to rebuilding my confidence that will hopefully end with meeting some lovely people. I've now messaged 11 people on POF. They all viewed my profile so I'm hoping I may get some responses.

Seriously, after suffering with self-confidence issues my whole life, this is a big step for me.

The only guy I feel completely chilled about is the only one who had ‘looking to date but nothing serious’ on his profile ...