Dating Thread 137 – Sausage Party at the SUC

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Dating Thread 137 – Sausage Party at the SUC

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

esk it was with Mr Campervan (date no 7 or 8), it was ok, just a bit dull and awkward. MB was a disaster, not sure if my fault or his. He still seems keen so we shall see. Meant to be seeing him Sunday and he's meant to be sleeping over. I just don't know if we are sexually comparable or if it's just a blip.

@esk1mo and @Cakecrumbs me too! 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

love oh no first time with him or has it been bad before? my first few times with my ex were awful but he was just really nervous. although dull & awkward is a bit worrying. how long has it been? i usually find after the initial excitement of the first month or two has worn off you realise you just arent that into them.

dancemom yay! where are all the hot gentlemen in kilts?! 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

dancemom yay.

I can't sleep, I've got a terrible headache and my heartbreak is hitting me hard :(

love sorry to hear that your campervan broke down and your date wasn't up to scratch (maybe just an off day?) hope you are home safe now

Maybe us Scottish ladies should go out real life manhunting together? Wonder if the quality is better than online?

@esk1mo
@Baumederose
And the others. I agree re the tone of the last few dating threads.
I had posted several times under my old username for advice and my posts had been completely lost/overlooked by the bants brigade.
At first it seemed helpful to get a man's pov on here but lately it has felt seedy and detracted a lot from the original thread purpose.
It's felt quite exclusive and gang-y and I feel that they should start a new sluts/sausage/jizzchin thread or online group and keep this for it's original purpose.
Some of us are very vulnerable and returning to dating after having been hurt .
It feels unsettling to have a guy in the group who seems to be holding some of the group in thrall and changing the rule to remove a safety caveat is not on.
I wasn't going to come back but have been reassured by reading some of the comments.
This stuff is off-putting and I'm glad people have said it.

It all seems to have settled down now until - how is dating going for you?

until i hope now that it’s been spoken about and dealt with amongst us all that you feel this thread is a welcome place for you

cake lets do it, ill bring the Buckfast

I am seeing MrFarAway again this weekend. I have 2 dates set up for next week which I should go through with but I feel a bit meh about now I've met him.

I sent a thanks but no thanks message to Mr Local who sent me a lovely message in return wishing me well. It is so much better being honest even if it feels tough!

love maybe it was just an off day. It happens I think. Sorry to hear about your van and hope it can be fixed!

esk, no, not first time (first time was great), hopefully just one of those thing, maybe my fault .

Only had 2 hours sleep, it’s going to be a looooong day, got lots going on today and then I’m working a late shift, going to struggle to keep my eyes open. Going to talk to the garage and probably get bad news about my Campervan, chances are she will be off the road for most of the summer holidays.

daffo hope you date this weekend goes well.

love sorry to hear about your campervan and the awkward date. Every one does have bad days though so hopefully it is that. I also wish you luck at the garage!

Vet Mr Perv (who stood me up) ignored my pissed off message to him, but he's still alive as I've seen 'online' on his Whatsapp!! Nothing at all since Saturday - his loss!!

After the successful date with Mr T yesterday we're arranging a second for Monday

Love Oh darn it that's not good news about your Campervan, hope it gets sorter sooner than you think. Hope seeing Mr Campervan on Sunday is better than yesterday and all goes well.

Daffo Enjoy your date with Mr FarAway this weekend.

Good luck to people who have dates tonight.

Mr Campervan is still messaging so maybe last night was just one of those tiny blips, the date in itself was ok, he’s planning on coming over Sunday night to stay still so maybe it wasn’t anything I did.

Got some really long texts from another iron last night, accusing me of stringing him along and waistline his time, I made it clear to him a long time ago that I wasn’t looking for anything serious, we met on a hook up site so I was hardly looking for a relationship with him (nice enough bloke but not really my type), in the end I just ignored the messages, hopefully he has given up, if not I will just block.

And I just got a text to cancel Sunday. Apparently he has a family bbq to go too

Another Scottish lass here too! Yay! Well formerly in Scotland that is Currently in a small mindbendingly boring town in Michigan in the US. Mum was living here and I had to leave the 'Burgh 2 years ago to come and look after her. Sadly she passed and I hope to return after all of her final paperwork is complete. I had forgotten what a pheckin nightmare this bloody country is like in navigating everything. Ugh!

I was also Stockbridge(35 Comely Bank, directly overlooking the Accies) and also Abbeyhill smackers behind Holyrood. I'm visiting in the autumn if you guys do meet up. Tigers is always good for a wee bit of eye candy!!! Lol

Oh no Love that’s disappointing has he made another date to get together?

Love sorry about your van and Mr CV cancelling on you, that's a bit shit.

Half what a bellend. Standing someone up really is the height of bad manners and cowardice. The only good thing about it is that you realise instantly that they're a total knobjockey and not worth your time.

until glad you feel able to post again.

esk I can't believe you live on Viewforth!! Small world indeed! I was up the Bruntsfield end and on the top floor, the lack of parking and 10 flights of stairs were a pain but it was a fab location and a beautiful old flat.

Eros and Elite was a big club that was part of the original Fountainpark complex. It all must've opened in 1999-2000. They used to put on free buses from Edinburgh Uni, Heriot-Watt and Napier on Wednesday nights. It sold itself as being a bit upmarket but it really wasn't! Revolution opened at about the same time I think, and Frankenstein's. Subway closed down??!!! To be fair it was probably condemned Ahh I have so many memories of Scrubbers from back in the day. We used to alternate between the Cowgate one and the Lothian Road one.

I'm all nostalgic now! Although depressing to learn that the dating situation is equally shit up there!

Half he has asked if I’m free Wed, I haven’t answered yet (technically I’m still at work). Feeling a bit pissed of as he has Monday and Tuesday off work but can’t make time to see me, he knows I’m working wed. I’m tired and grumpy after last night, also gutted that my van is now off the road. I’m tempted to just go to bed and message him tomorrow when hopefully I won’t feel so grumpy.

love sorry you're having a bad night. My latest relationship just ended because he kept telling me he needed time to himself and it made me so anxious I pushed and he ended up finishing it. It made me feel a bit worthless that he never seemed that desperate to see me. I ended up constantly on edge wondering when he would try and get out of seeing me

Oh I'm really sorry, that wasn't actually a helpful post at all. I suppose what I might have been thinking is make sure you maintain your sense of self worth, don't let anyone erode it. It just came out really clumsily, I'm so sorry!

@esk1mo and @Cakecrumbs I'd be totally up for that!

dancemom as long as you guys aren't too hot

So, more Badoo advice needed, it seems I now can't see who has liked me or favourites me any longer, after an initial trial does it just work like tinder?

That’s ok cake you are right. He seems to be chased mg though, has sent several messages and all of a sudden he is free again Sunday, I was tempted to say ‘too late I have made other plans’. My anxiety is already high, I hate this bit of dating, if someone doesn’t put in the effort I’m likely to lose interest very quickly.

love it's good that you will just lose interest though, shows you value yourself.