Dating Thread 137 – Sausage Party at the SUC

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Dating Thread 137 – Sausage Party at the SUC

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Iwould I once got blocked as I drove to a date We'd only been messaging for a few days and arranged to meet for a coffee. I WhatsApped him as I left the house and he replied as I was driving and then in the 15 minutes between sending the message and me reading it and trying to reply to say I'd arrived, he blocked me. Needless to say he also stood me up! It's funny with hindsight but at the time I was left wondering what the fuck had happened. No point dwelling on it though, the issues were obviously all his. He actually sent a grovelling apology about 6 weeks later but I didn't reply to it.

Oh and I should say the message he sent pre-block was totally normal. He said he was just waiting for a delivery and then would be on his way! Fucking weirdo

Haha vet what a nob!! (Not you obviously, the weirdo who blocked you en route to the date!)
You're completely right though, the issues were all his. I think it's important to remember that with OLD

@halfdutch I don’t mind the over investing but yes the blocking is hurtful. I half thought about texting him from my work mobile but there isn’t any point is there? Not even sure what I would say. I feel like it’s me that has done something wrong

Iwould you haven’t done anything wrong at all, difficult though it is you just have to put it down to experience and him being a knob! It does make me wonder what goes through their minds though, he probably had a number of people who was messaging and got an offer that appealed to him more - his loss.

Vet I had similar on Saturday. Second date with ok guy, he messaged at 10am to ask if we could change our meet from 12 to 12.30pm I said yes no problem, he said great see you soon and..... never showed up!!

Well, this is very odd, the guy who sort of stood me up on Tuesday is now texting me loads. I’d basically put him at the bottom of the pile but I think my lack of communication has given him a jolt - not holding my breath though!!

Half what a twat! Have you heard from him since or did he block you?

vet i remember you posting about that! (i think that was you anyway)

cake yes im on the East Coast (although originally from the West) 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

Yeah esk I posted about it at the time, it was back around Februaryish I think.

Most people down here (Devon) think that I am Scottish. My NI accent wasn't a million miles away to begin with and I definitely picked up a strong Edinburgh twang in 10 years there. A few more years here in the West Country and I'll really confuse them!

I've noticed (and reported) I've had messages from men with a username that goes terry_ac3466. (Name underscore number) they all had the same strap line "I'm here looking for serious woman" and they send a message, again all the same words something like "good afternoon, how are you" . Clearly scammers, probably only going for older women (I'm 56) just be vigilant!

I've got a nice conversation happening with a bloke 76 miles away, seems genuine, has not sent any dick pics or offered sex (yet) but he's on holiday right now in France and I'm off on hols on Sat so my rule of meeting asap is out of the window. So far so meh but I'm an old hand at this stuff. So I'm taking my time.

This was really just a watch out for scammers warning. It's POF by the way.

vet you spent 10 years in Edinburgh? that’s where i live! did you study here?

i remember your story. and someone else’s where the guy KEPT texting, pretending to be in the car park and saying “i cant find you” but actually he wasn’t there at all!

esk Yep, I went to the Edinburgh Uni vet school. It was amazing, best time ever. I lived/worked abroad a few times but always came back to the 'Burgh until I moved to England 6 years ago now. I lived in halls and a flat in Marchmont, then in Bruntsfield and then changed sides to Stockbridge and Dean Village. Still have lots of friends there; I love Devon but do miss it, especially the August craziness!

So update on Mr Sausage, we had a quick chat and he said he was after the full shebang and to start a family etc. Agreed on totally different pages but parted on good terms, so all is well.

Got 2 dates lined up already and I asked both of them ! And they both said yes. I just thought sod it !
And booked my FWB in for next week.
Feel better for grabbing the bull by the horns so to speak. I'm confident in all areas of my life, why am I less so with dating?!

I'm losing the will with Badoo. Not had one message from anyone decent on there yet.

vet thats so interesting! was the vet campus at Bush? I was mostly in Kings Buildings. Dean Village and Stockbridge is lovely but I definitely prefer Bruntsfield and Marchmont, I live just down the hill from Bruntsfield, near Fountainpark I had an awesome flat in Grassmarket in 2nd year which was so handy for all the clubs (too grown up for that now).

glad to see you are having some dating luck in Devon though, because there’s sweet FA happening up here

Ahh cool I've had most success on there but maybe i just have no low standards!

I'm old so we had some stuff at Summerhall and some at Easter Bush! They moved everything out there in 2011. The 'new' campus there is amazing, I've been back a few times for conferences and events and it really is world-class.

I lived just up the road from Fountainpark for a while when I was in Bruntsfield (Viewforth) - handy for stumbling home from Eros and Elite at 4am. Way classier than Subway or Espionage

Cool if things go tits up with Mr DM can I have Mr Sausage's number? He wants what I want! Good on you arranging 2 dates so quickly!

iwould I agree with everyone, sorry you are hurt, but I now move people to meeting really quickly. Long time messaging just leads you to feel you have a connection. I've often thought I will have a brilliant time with someone only to discover when we meet it's totally awkward. It is hurtful, it's awful tbh but the best thing to do is meet someone early and the hurt done before you are invested!

@Vet, yes Mr Sausage is really lovely and to be fair it was a nice grown up chat! We did have a nice date and I got out of the house so all is well.

The new irons are Mr Planes who lives quite far away. The other one is Mr Red who is a bit of a slow burn but really lovely too. Let's see. I'm on hols soon so that will do me for now :-)

@Dutch - mummy??? Omg.

Oooh I'm not far from Edinburgh vet and esk1mo used to live in Stockbridge too!

vet oh yeh I forgot that was the old vet building! I think they tried to have some illegal “raves” there at New Year a few years ago.

That’s sooo weird, I live on Viewforth what a small world! Subway closed down but it’s recently reopened. I’m not going to lie though I have never heard of Eros and Elite

I doubt you would recognise Fountainbridge anymore, they’ve knocked everything down along the canal and built fancy apartments and hotels. It looks good I suppose but it’s driving rent/house prices in the surrounding areas up (yes I realise how boring that sounds).

cake that’s crazy. glad to have a fellow Scot on board

coolcahuna I love that you “booked” your FWB, very profesh!

@esk1mo ha ha, yes efficient or what ! I've know him ages and he gets mega busy so just thought I would book him in 😂. Might even make him dinner too.

Anyone still awake?

Sat in a layby waiting for a recovery truck on my back from my date which wasn't that great.

The fact my van is now f$#ked has ruined my night (joys of owning a camper). Now have to wait several hours to get home.

On the plus side, the moon looks amazing tonight (it's about all I can see right now).

Ahhh love I'm awake but heading to bed now.

Sorry to hear your date wasn't great and even worse that you're stuck in a lay-by! Stay safe and hope you get home soon x

oh love what was the date like? which iron was it?

cool haha love it!