Dating Thread 137 – Sausage Party at the SUC

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Dating Thread 137 – Sausage Party at the SUC

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

@wishy, sounds like he will hopefully leave it there then :-)

cake i imagine pudding the same way 😂 theres a show i used to watch called Devious Maids and a character played by Susan Lucci is how I imagine pudding

(let me add i thought the actress was in her 50s, shes actually 71 but looks AMAZING - and i obvs imagine pudding to be a younger version )

Blimey, how does she look like that at 71?
That's hilarious that we both imagined pudding the same - I think it's the constant string of hit surfer dudes that want a date with her that convinced me!

Grrr, hot surfer dudes obviously not hit

@pudding21 now you're talking!

So I just need to find a strawberry one or a purple one, need to keep sifting through the toffees and coffees and nuts 😆

Charming

cake what a shame hes a creep, he looks quite hot!

Think I’ve broken most of the rules! Started talking to someone from Tinder six weeks ago and we’ve text and spoken every day sincerely He cancelled a potential date 3 weeks ago because one of his family was ill. Despite never meeting him, I was smitten but he’s now blocked me on WhatsApp. I feel quite hurt by this. And I’m not sure why he has blocked me. I just need some sense talking into me.

Iwould in situations like this I always think about rule 6 on here. It really helps.
If he cancelled a date and has now blocked you for no reason, I wonder if he's married or with someone. You have done absolutely nothing wrong. It is completely his loss. When I'm ghosted I get right back out there and find someone to talk to as a nice distraction.

cake pass him over to me. I'd ruin him!!!

Can we work out a rota of ruin for him bendy? I'd quite like a turn

Cool and Wishy well seeing as you both asked Mr Disappeared who disappeared and then appeared again is pretty hot to be fair and I though it was all going pretty well until he started calling me, hhhem, 'mummy' !!! Bit of a turn off to say the least (but hey, I'm sure it appeals to some people), and then he also sent me a pretty dodgy video last night as well at that point I decided backing off was very much in order!!

My date this morning with Mr T was really good! I didn't have any expectations but he's actually very nice. Not knee trembling, drooling nice but just a very nice guy. All being well we'll see each other again soon, in the meantime I'm chatting to someone on Tinder who doesn't have his photo which I wouldn't usually do, but in actual fact he seems quite 'normal' (so far!!). Then hopefully I might arrange a date with Mr Fridge at the weekend!

Apologies I haven't had a chance to catch up on all the posts yet, I'll do so now ...

bendy and wishy I actually laughed out loud to that, I'll tell him you're both waiting for him
half MrT sounds great, that's what I'm looking for, just a really nice guy.
pudding you were right with your chocolate box analogy just a pity it's the wrong kind that's approaching me.
I thought I had done a good job of my profile in terms of being clear about what I'm looking for and I'm certainly not looking to be ruined

Iwould sorry that has happened to you. Definitely nothing that you have done wrong seeing as he hadn't even met you yet, maybe it is his MO. Please try not to over think and over analyse his actions (coming from the biggest over thinker in the world)
Get back on the sites, feel free to share any funny exchanges on here and I'm on here a lot just now as needing a bit of support so happy to chat on this thread too!

@cake & @tomhardy

Thank you!! Being blocked by a stranger- who would believe it could be so hurtful?

Iwould are you new to OLD? A lot of people fall into the trap of overinvesting in messaging someone for weeks or even longer who then disappears/is married/is a twat/all of the above. Daily messaging creates a false sense of intimacy but it really isn't real. Until you actually meet them and spend time getting to know them you really don't know them at all. It's usually best to try to meet people as soon as possible. It's shit but you just have to chalk this one up to experience.

Very wise words vet

cake are you Scottish by any chance? “oooft” is a very Scottish thing to say

@vet not new to OLD and I have over invested before so have previous form! It’s the being blocked that has upset me for some reason. I would never block someone unless they had upset me. But probably need a thicker skin

@HalfDutchGirl oh wow Mummy

And Mr Fridge that's just made me laugh loudly. We should start a whole new x-rated Mr Men series with these guys

esk1mo, yes I am! Are you?

Hahahahaah! You lot are funny! esk1mo I am a brunette but thats about where the resemblance lies and I am most certainly not as glam :)

wishy loving your x-rated Mr Men series idea!!

Iwould Yes, Vet is so right, it is so incredibly easy to overinvest into someone just from text messages and I’ve done it a number of times.

You only have to watch Catfish on tv and see some people go waaaay over the top with it. Thing is sometimes its easier said than done to meet the guy asap.

The thing that works for me is having a few on the go! Having said that, I totally empathise with you being blocked suddenly by someone, it is hurtful.

So I thought I'd entertain you with a selection of opening messages I've had on POF this evening;
'Oh what a sweetie you are x'
'Hey trouble'
'yes yes yes please (with 2 heart Eye emojis)'
'you look hot! X'
Inspirational stuff