Dating Thread 137 – Sausage Party at the SUC

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Dating Thread 137 – Sausage Party at the SUC

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

wow that at least 3 smittens in the past few pages im jealous!

jax fab!

daffo snogging!! wow, there is nothing better (yes there is) than a good snog. it's the promise of things to come. Yes, I meant exactly that. fantastic for you!

That's awesome news Jax :)

Daffo - an awesome date and plenty of interest at the bar. What did I say to you, eh!?

Woo hoo! The smitten bench is becoming full, fab news Jax and Daffo

I'm off soon on my daytime date with Mr T, this will be interesting!

Mr Disappeared is the 'strangest' person I have come across (yet!), think I may have to distance myself (a lot!)

Mr Local has decided to ignore my last text - first time he hasn't just replied - I'm a bit gutted to be honest, but hey, his loss!

My long list of potential Irons is rapidly dwindling - my only long standing one is Mr Italian.

Have a fun Thursday fellow OLD friends

@HalfDutch, who is Mr Disappeared, what did he do?

I feel like I need to get some more irons in the fire, not sure if Mr Sausage will suggest date 2 (I think I would say yes), I did have a date lined up for Sunday but I'm not getting the vibe from him - his messages have already slowed down.

My only other iron seems lovely but lives so far away!

Wow, what a flurry of activity! Wednesday night must be a good night for dates! So happy for those that are having a good time!
Cool what's behind the name Mr Sausage?

Morning everyone!
HalfDutch yes tell us more about Mr Disappeared I'm intrigued!

Mr Nextdoor text me very late last night to ask if I'd enjoyed the date, I haven't replied yet. While I did enjoy it and we had a laugh together I really don't fancy him and don't want to give the impression that I do... what's the best way to let someone down gently?

Hey everyone.

I have read through a few of the older posts, i think its time i joined in with you now.

The rules on the first page are most definitely good reading.

So, had a bit of traumatic time the past 3 years, and due to this i had absolutely no interest in hooking up with anyone for anything. Not chats, drinks, sex, nothing.

Well, things have pretty much moved on from there quite fast recently. I attended an event which incurred a few nights stay away, and well yes, lets just say that I now have my mojo back. . I know that this sounds dreadful and I should hang my head in shame, but i slept with 3 different men in 2 weeks. God and I havent been with one at all in over three years. The shame. I do feel a bit of a tart if I am honest. All men are available I should add, only really properly attracted to one of them but he lives far away so that wont happen. But one of the other has suggested a fwb type meet up every now and then. He is a really nice chap, i am open to the idea but i dont see myself with him as a long term thing.

I dont really know how itshould be feeling tbh. At first i was on a bit of a high as it is nice to know that someone finds you attractive, and its helped my very low self esteem more than anything has. I really dont want a relationship yet, but sex, oh I have missed it. And then these other two just sort of just happened, not sure if its because I am being a bit more open to the idea(and there was some alcohol involved, also which I rarely do), whereas before I would just shoot any advances down in flames.

AND then when I had a dabble on Tinder about a year ago just for a bit of fun one weekend, i got chatting to one chap and we swapped numbers to talk off the app. Nothing came of it and we didnt stay in touch. Now he has suddenly appeared again and now I am not sure whether to go for that meet up too. My gosh, its like a desert for years then suddenly a bloody flood.

Its a bit overwhelming.

Phew, I needed to get that out somewhere, so hope its ok here. I cannot tell anyone irl.

Mr Campervan text me in the end, he had to work late and then had a class to go too (I kind of guessed about the class), meeting up with him after work today for date number 7 (I think it’s 7). I am wanting to be on the smitten bench but still not sure where I stand, we have made a few plans which ch indicates to me that this is possibly a relationship. For now I will just hover around the smitten bench until I’m more sure.

One of my other irons has got fed up with me not setting a date to meet him again, he sent me a long text saying how he’s going to back off as he’s getting bored of waiting for me to agree to a date, I haven’t replied.

Another message from a FWB this morning wanting to meet up, I thought he had moved abroad (told me he was going on the 15th) but seems he is still here, I like him but he’s a bit crazy.

Mr weird who was cleaning out his mums loft last week sent me some random photos of what he had found in the loft including a photo of he’s ET mug ,he’s asking to meet up too.

high just enjoy yourself, sounds like a good trip away, your not a tart for having a bit of fun. I had lots of fun when I first became single, I felt a bit naughty meeting up with 2 different men in the same week but hey, only I knew about it so there was no one to judge. The first year I did OLD I don’t think I ever went more than a week without sex . It gave my confidence a huge boost. I have now calmed down a little.

Yes I honestly can't remember the last time I had a good snog before yesterday!

Good luck with all the dates today!

I agree, having fun is one of the whole points of dating high. If you can't have a bit of fun now, when can you?! And I think all of us on here have had long barren patches of nothing, so enjoy it while it's there!

highlighta welcome to the Sluts United Club!!

not everyone here is a member, but you are very welcome. It's fantastic to embrace your life again, isn't it! I am in a similar situation. There is no shame to be felt or judgment to be made. It's 2018 and women can do what they want. Enjoy it !

@highlighta

Do it!! Don't feel bad about it at all, as long as you're in control of it then embrace your sexual freedom and don't let anyone make you feel bad about it.

It's your life, your body, do with it as you please!

Another vote for doing as you please highlighta - every choice is yours to make and there are no wrong decisions, as long as you keep yourself safe.

Thanks everyone. Phew I am so glad that you are agreement with me, although there was just this nagging in the back of my mind, what a slapper...... purely because I havent been in this position before (married first partner)

HaHa Lovemusic, it is like that, only I know, so I do have a bit of a to myself every now and then.

Bendy I accept the invitation , and yes, it has been fun I must admit.

So on the back of this, I replied to TinderGuy who was sending songs and memes and general shit. So I just asked him what his movements were today (I know he travels to clients for work, as do i) and does he want to grab a coffee. He replied, 'sorry I am in training today" Ah well, I suppose its opened the avenue now that I am up to meet.

Thanks everyone, just needed to hear your replies i think.

dancemom what about quality street ;)

cake I am really not wise although I try to be, all I know is, I don't want to settle for a longer temrs thing

jax and deffo smitteness happiness: long may it continue :)

So Mr Tinder Suprise update (surf/ski instructor) and I had a date last night. Met on the coast (really nice spot) drank a couple of beers and watched the sunset. Then he suggested where we went to eat and we had a lovely dinner. Desserts were shit, so he suggested we went elsewhere for crepes and ice cream in a different place. We both share a love of food :) Chatted all night (nearly 6 hours), at the end slightly awkward moment when we said goodbye, I thought he was going to kiss me, he didn't and we did the two kisses on the cheeks thing like everyone greets everyone in portugal.

Plus points: I feel very comfortable with him, we laugh and have a similar outlook on life, I do find him attractive but don't feel I want to rip his clothes off but if he had kissed me I would have obliged. He is very calm, he is very sweet and he is a gentleman (opened doors for me etc).

Minus points: although we chat all the time and its not awkward, he doesn't ask me any questions about myself, but the conversation flows. I cannot tell if he fancies me at all. He spends half the year abroad and will be leaving again in November.

I am also not overthinking anything, which is usually a sign I am not that interested, but maybe its how it should be??

I am going to see if he contacts me more and sit back and see what happens. My thought it we probably both should get drunk, and go from there. Hahaha!

I still have FWB for the sexual needs part :)

Happy thursday everyone :)

cake ignore my ramble above, I started to type got distracted and didn't finish typing to you!! What I was saying is I don't want to settle, so have spent the last 18 months discovering what it is I want and go from there. I think its human nature to put too much emphasis on whether the other person likes US when really we should flip it and concentrate on how WE feel about the situation. Not if we are worthy of someone else, but whether they are worthy for you. Self love

Very wise words pudding

pudding sounds like there is a lot of potential with your iron from the sounds of that date!

i think getting drunk together helps break the ice more, plus you can ask questions/say things you wouldnt normally say and blame it on the alcohol

love glad all is well with MrCampervan
pudding thanks, so I suppose if I flip the situation for my relationship that just ended I definitely wasn't getting my needs met, he wanted everything to be very superficial, didn't want to have conversations with any depth. I ended up constantly going to my ex from before for emotional support (we'll never get back together but he is always there for me) and really my partner at the time should have been the one providing that.

pudding I hope you don't mind me saying this, when I first started reading these threads a while ago you were talking about liking Mr Architect and having the work done on your house and I don't know why but I always pictured you as a matronly, motherly figure but as time has gone on I picture you as some sort of bronzed goddess! Anyway, probably too much sharing of what's in my head, haha!

@cakecrumbs, Mr Sausage is called that because he's Italian - bears no resemblence to a sausage LOL.

Anyway we are still chatting but no second date mentioned yet...I'm not suggesting...

@wishing, have you replied to last night's date? I think I would just say something closed like you had a nice time. If he asks for a date then you can let him down gently? Or just say you had a nice time but you didn't feel any spark?

@coolcahuna I replied and said I had a nice time yes, he said he did too but I haven't replied further

I had agreed to a date with Mr Arrogant next week but since agreeing I've decided I don't like him. Mr Sensible is a fairly new iron and has asked me out on the same night so I'm thinking of cancelling Mr Arrogant in favour of Mr Sensible. Mr Sensible is starting to open up a little via text and I feel he might have a not so sensible side which I like
So far I haven't made up an excuse for Mr Arrogant but I'll think of something

cakecrumbs not matronly, nor bronzed goddess! Hahahaha! Somewhere in between maybe, although I was a Matron when I worked as a nurse in the NHS ;)

I'm nearly 40, but I probably act like I am about 16, or 6.

Mr Architect is still around in the back ground, house rennovation still happening, if nothing else I have made a friend and I like him a lot (helps he is hot also).

Funny how our brain makes assumpitons on just text alone isn't it :) PS. I don't mind you saying it at all.