OH does this to upset me.

[Whatsnoton]

Whenever we have a row he mimics me, I absolutely hate it and it really really upsets me!

For example I'll say something like "you're really. It being fair" and he will repeat it back to me in a stupid voice, insinuating it's like I sound. Inevitably this really upsets me and I've asked him to stop so often and he says he will but then does it again. I just feel really ridiculed and then get upset so he then says in a baby voice "oh whattodo is upset, oh dear". I've had to just leave the house this morning because I can't bear it.

I've got to go back, but I just feel totally down with it. It's always important to him to win every argument and when he does this I can't seem to argue back, I just need to get away from it.

I know this is weak and pathetic but it makes me feel physically sick.

Give me some words to say when I go back! I've driven off and parked up to get some space.

Hes treating you with contempt and mocking you.

If this kept happening i think its the end tbh. Once someobe starts treating you with contempt you cant win

You are not the weak and pathetic one he is

It's a childish way of belittling you , he is a giant twunt and he is doing it because he hasn't got the intellect to participate in a proper debate or conversation

I would seriously rethink being with him

Don't do anything for him nor speak to him until he apologises and talks to you like an adult. Go nd meet up with friends and enjoy your Sunday x

Mocking someone is insanely hostile and rude. Tell him to stop and if he doesn't get out.

My Ex used to do this, I used to look at him blankly and say 'you sound such a wanker' (before I left the wanker for good)

It’s a form of passive agressive. It’s bullying. I would seriously reconsider your relationship.

Thanks all, it just bloody well disarms me! I try so hard to not let him see he's upset me. But in the end I crack.

He won't ever stop, I know that now. I sometimes feel like I could slap him when he does it, clearly I don't but it's just so deliberately horrible.

I would give him the choice between continuing to behave like a child or be in a relationship with me.

This sort of shit only gets worse over the years ime.

Do you have children together? If not, I'd end it immediately. He's showing you his true nature and it's fucking horrible and belittling. He won't change - he might stop doing it temporarily if he thinks he's gone too far, but this is what he's like.

Is he 5? This is childish as hell. My brother used to do it when we see kids.

Children are grown up, he's always done it but I suppose I've reached my limit with it.

*were. Not see.

One of my friends (who is a bit of a dick in many ways) does this to me. He only repeats stuff relating to certain conversations where we disagree and it gets heated. He does it to other people too which IMO makes it better as it feels less personal. I dont live with the guy and we have an openly hostile relationship in some ways (we are like complete opposites although miraculously can get on), so I feel free to say "oh, shut up"/"fuck off, Name"/"right. Whats your point again?"/"grow up and make your point, name" or just sigh, ignore, refuse to engage and make conversation with someone else. I couldnt put up with it from a partner, its so irritating. Plus, hes not my DP, I dont care too much what he thinks of me (it does show a certain contempt and superiority).

Does he do it to other people? Has he ever thought about what his behaviour might feel like to you, or acknowledged it and why he does it? Is he capable of reflecting and apologising and making an effort to disagree on things politely and more directly? Do you think he cares ?

So what do I say to him when I go back? Nothing? Sit in silence? Raise the issue again?

Are you going to put up with it and stay with him?

Oops just read he has been like this for a long time and it doesnt sound like youre young and he may grow up and out of it....ouch.

My STBXH used to do this. We are no longer together.

@dirtybadger only does it to me, he definitely knows it upsets me and why. It just makes every disagreement about this and the original issue gets forgotten.

He clearly doesn't care or he'd stop?

Nope he certainly doesn't value you does he

I couldn't love a man who treated me like that, end of.

I had a boyfriend whose dad used to this to his mum. And his name was Brian. His kids all hated him, strangely enough.

Could you go back and tell him to use whatever voice he likes, as you have decided that actually, you are moving out so feel free to whine into the abyss whilst you go find an adult to grow old with.

I would say 'is that the best you've got you fucking child, mimicking my voice like we're in the fucking playground? Know what? I think it's time you fucked off and I found myself an actual adult to be with, off you fuck!' Sorry OP but I couldn't stay with someone who treated me with such utter contempt.

Wouldn't surprise me if these were his tactics when belittling or patronising siblings/friends/cousins growing up which has become a habit and it's the only weapon he has that gives him control over the argument, especially if he doesn't have a decent comeback! How immature but he knows very well it will piss the other person right off so knows exactly what he is doing.

Go back, look him in the eye and tell him if he mimics and belittles you again, you will be splitting.

And mean it.