OH does this to upset me.

[Whatsnoton]

Whenever we have a row he mimics me, I absolutely hate it and it really really upsets me!

For example I'll say something like "you're really. It being fair" and he will repeat it back to me in a stupid voice, insinuating it's like I sound. Inevitably this really upsets me and I've asked him to stop so often and he says he will but then does it again. I just feel really ridiculed and then get upset so he then says in a baby voice "oh whattodo is upset, oh dear". I've had to just leave the house this morning because I can't bear it.

I've got to go back, but I just feel totally down with it. It's always important to him to win every argument and when he does this I can't seem to argue back, I just need to get away from it.

I know this is weak and pathetic but it makes me feel physically sick.

@eddielizzard that's brilliant.

I'm also only a stones throw from work, loads of time this morning to get ready 😊.

I'm so glad you are getting a bit of time out from this relationship. It's a temporary respite but you can make it permanent!! You could breathe freely! And not have to put up with this level of disrespect ever again!!

Have a wonderful wonderful day!

I'm so glad you went to the TL!

The longer you stay there the more he'll realise what a dick he's been. If you go back too quickly he'll think of it as you having a flounce. I would stay a week. Or two

Tbh, I'd use these days to find another place to live.

Brilliant OP, just brilliant. Steak dinner tonight, cooked by someone else, no one to please but yourself, your own remote control, heaven!

YY, definitely no harm in having a little browse of what's available to rent locally. Even a short/medium term air bnb....

My Swedish friend ( aged about 58)
Had a bad extraction at her dentist and it made her cry a little.
She’s a strong women...so I can imagine what she went through, having been through a few of those myself.

Ii had to pick my jaw off the floor when she told me the dentist said...oh, did I make little blondie cry?

The dentist was lucky to leave without a few teeth missing herself.

We wouldn’t accept this in any other walk of life...so please don’t accept it from this arsehole you’re married to.

Before I left , he’d certainly get a few Oi, that’s enough from me...just to drive the message home.

Well done..whatsnot
You are a superstar alright

I certainly wouldn’t answer all his texts..maybe just at bedtime .. I’m fine

Just in case he tries to report you to the police as a missing person.

Brilliant!

Well done, he was bullying you and you taking yourself out of the situation proves that you aren't going to take it anymore. If he doesn't have a decent conversation with you about this and genuinely make changes to his behaviour then it would be time to make the separation permanent.

Is he scared shitless, or doing the whole "Oh, look at the silly little strop!" thing? If he's still blustering and minimising, stay where you are. You have to wait it out, until it gets through his thick skull that this is a serious problem, and he has caused a crisis in your marriage.

Has he got the kids to start calling to "talk some sense into you" yet? You may find their perspective interesting!

The thing is the OP doesn't have to give him another chance if she doesn't want to. She can do what's best for herself.

I think you are on the wrong thread @ravenmum

Yes, I noticed have reported myself as it's not quite the place....

Life is far too short to spend it with someone who deliberately goes out of their way to upset you.

You deserve to be with someone who cherishes you and lives to make you smile.

Well done OP.
A bit of space can work wonders.
Glad you are enjoying it.
Ignore for now and get your head clear and understand what YOU really want here.

Think before you get drawn back in.

Why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who wants you to ignore them so they can treat you like shit?

I'm back from dinner, he's called and I answered. I said this is only a five minute call so say what you want quickly.

He didn't realise how much it upset me...... so the 50 off times I told him (that's probably a massive exaggeration but you get my drift) he didn't realise!

I'm very tired again tonight, I had a large glass of wine with dinner, so heading to bed.

Thanks again for the messages and support.

Bulldhit, he knew exactly how much it upset you.

What he didn’t know is that you had the calls not to put up with it any more.

So this isn’t anything other than shock that you finally have boundaries!

@Joysmum I agree

He's shitting himself now, good job op.

Here’s hoping this is the short, sharp shock he needed, well done op for sticking to your guns.

The tiredness is probably your body and mind finally resting and shutting down after a very emotional time. You probably didn’t even recognise how much it was affecting you

@Thebluedog I agree, it's very hot here but the tiredness is more than that. Thank you.

enjoy your break OP