It won't be a short marriage. Well, I hope it isn't! And he is desperate to TTC so hopefully we will have children together. I've also put thousands into this house thank you.
Do you really think if he annoys you so much now, that it will go the distance?
With another child in the mix?
Sometimes we meet people who are amazing and should, in theory, make a great partner for us. But they just don't. It's noones fault it's just not right. Trying to force it, rarely works out long term.
I think you both need to be realistic, open and honest about what's happening here.
I did ask earlier, but you didn't answer. How would you feel if in a couple of years he looked down on you? Because you don't work and aren't contributing financially.
It happens. People became sahm and all is fine. The after years of it, the other person gets pissed off with all financial responsibility falling to them.
I really hope you have protected your thousands. And if you have put thousands in, then he isn't providing a home, like you said, you both are.