Making her feel special?

[Cambshusband]

So, first post here so bear with.

Our happy (and exhausting) little lad is seven and we’re finally getting into a good place financially. We enjoy a good (if somewhat sporadic) sex life so no complaints there.

I’m conscious that the good lady hasn’t been treating herself over the last few years (and nor have I). So I need some help with ideas!

Being male I default to buying shoes and handbags, but it seems a bit naff as I approach my 40’s.

I was planning on getting a hotel for the weekend and arranging for a load of presents to be there on the bed ready when she gets there.

What’s people’s thoughts? Is it tacky? I’ve already ordered her some new shoes (Debenhams blue cross thank you very much, Kurt Geiger heels for £19 and Dune for £15) and a couple of dresses. Is lingerie just perceived as “I want sex tonight”? I want her to feel a bit special, not pressured to put out.

Look forward to hearing anyone’s thoughts

This one really is just about personal tastes.

All that from my boyfriend would make me cry - in a bad way. In a “he doesn’t know me at all” way.

Now booking a campsite with a fabulous view, taking me out to our campervan with the bikes pre-loaded on the carrier and a bag of climbing gear slung on the back seat, and my favourite breakfast items in the fridge?

That. That would win for me.

So I think it sounds awful, but you know her, so... hope you both enjoy it!