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Starting over after 25 years - Part deux

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Lily007 · 10/07/2018 10:42

Wow need to start a new thread.

The support I’ve had from all the posters has been amazing and very much appreciated and I hope will continue.

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Sunflowersforever · 13/07/2018 21:13

Been reading gossip stuff about Ewan McGregor. Sounds like his wife is equally in shock at his actions. Can happen to anyone.

tootstastic · 13/07/2018 21:33

Erm...ok @TotallyCoffeeFocused, I've never been accused of being ghoulish before, but in the interests of not turning Lily's thread into another bunfight, I think we'll just have to agree to differ.

tootstastic · 13/07/2018 21:40

Sunflowers, didn't OW dump Ewan McGregor in the end because she couldn't deal with being labelled a home wrecker? I may be mixing up another story. But if she did, it would certainly serve him right!

Thebluedog · 13/07/2018 22:07

I expect the shine does come off... if he’s gone from skanksville back to his lovely ‘ex’ home. I’m sure it is biting him in the arse and I do hope the enormity if what he’s done and where he is now is starting to hit home!

Lily007 · 13/07/2018 22:19

Woah. Bloody hell, I go out for one evening and the thread’s gone ballistic.

Whoever it was that said posters are not doing me any favours by speculating XH is testing the water! Let me be perfectly clear.....I DO NOT WANT HIM BACK. I’m using no contact for my own sanity, not to punish him and not to make him miss me, it’s my coping mechanism. I’m perfectly happy in my own home, with my own possessions and my darling doggie. He’s a rather large Lhasa Apso and he has a lovely temperament. He’s mummy’s little soldier 🐶

His texts to me today were very polite, my responses were very matter of fact.

Yes, there were jokey were comments that XH was having a MLC, but because our life was so happy, they were just laughed off. Hindsight is a wonderful thing.

None of us can know what’s going on in his mind, I sometimes wonder if he even knows. I’m not expecting him to come grovelling back, I think his recent behaviour indicates his intention to make a go of the relationship with OW.

All I want is to try to recover and to maintain my dignity but I am always bracing myself for the next smack in the face, although it’s really hard to expect the unexpected.

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Bluntness100 · 13/07/2018 22:27

Blimey, you go and watch love Island and this thread kicks off again..

Lilly, you have maintained your dignity, and you're getting there, day by day. You're ok. 💐

Lily007 · 13/07/2018 22:38

I’m watching the tennis 🎾

Djokovic and Nadal still playing - love it 😊

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beeefcake · 13/07/2018 23:41

Awwwwww they are adorable!!!! I'm so pleased you have each other!!!! 🐶❤️❤️

Him collecting his golf bits obviously indicates he's getting a bit fed up of hanging round her market stall all weekend?!

And yes he is definitely testing the water. It must be driving him nuts not knowing what you are doing/thinking. The fact you aren't reacting must have him going crazy. Keep it up 👍🏻👍🏻

beeefcake · 13/07/2018 23:44

And sorry do you let his fur grow super long or do you cut it short? Need to visualise the cuteness

Lily007 · 13/07/2018 23:53

Thanks Beefcake. Sounds pathetic but having my dog has really kept me going, he’s completely dependent upon me which is a godsend really.

It doesn’t matter what he does, he won’t get a rise out of me.

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Sunflowersforever · 13/07/2018 23:54

@tootstastic

Ewan McGregor and OW split briefly but reconciled. He then filed for divorce. Their poor daughter has gone on social media today calling out the OW.

Some men. Led by their dicks.

Lily007 · 13/07/2018 23:56

He has it cut, not to the wood, but fairly short. He has long hair in his ears and tail and his head is quite fluffy. He’s mainly white with a bit of grey. He very handsome 😊

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Lily007 · 13/07/2018 23:56

*on his ears 🙄

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Lily007 · 14/07/2018 00:00

Hi sunflowers. At least Ewan McGregor’s wife hasn’t got to worry about money, although I wonder whether woman is attracted more to his bank balance than his looks or personality 🙈

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Lily007 · 14/07/2018 00:01

other woman 🙄

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Sunflowersforever · 14/07/2018 00:36

@Lily007

Re: Ewan McGregor

I think it's that infatuation thing again. Going all giddy after long stability. I know someone who knew EMc wife years ago when she was a makeup artist. Said she was such a lovely woman. Such a solid marriage thrown away, just like that.

To also hurt the children so publicly? Awful. You know he took the OW home as a friend to meet the wife before the affair was exposed? WTAF. And he's meant to be one of the good guys.

tootstastic · 14/07/2018 06:45

Sunflowers Ewan is a bloody idiot, isn't he and def led by his dick! Can't blame his daughter for choosing Team Mum! Bit like your son Lily, I think the kids in these situations feel betrayed and let down too, even once they're adults. But yes getting half his millions will help take the sting off for his lovey wife. These silly men, thinking the grass is greener; it generally isn't once the honeymoon period has worn off and they effectively destroy lives for what boils down to a novelty shag.

Love the sound of your little doggle, Lily! I suspect you wouldn't be short of dog sitters on here if you ever need one Smile

tootstastic · 14/07/2018 06:47

*lovely wife

Bellalunagirl · 14/07/2018 07:58

To be fair EMc was a serial philanderer. I'm surprised his wife put up with it for so long. So his situation is very different from Lily's

Lizzie48 · 14/07/2018 08:21

I love the tennis as well, Lilly. I can't wait for part 2 on Nadal vs Djokovic, and then the ladies' final. Smile

Sunflowersforever · 14/07/2018 10:55

@Bellalunagirl

Link to any article saying he was a serial philanderer please. Or do you know him personally?

Bellalunagirl · 14/07/2018 11:17

Know his brother. That's all I'm going to say.

Lily007 · 14/07/2018 11:41

Erm hello! How has Ewan McGregor hijacked my thread? 😂

I actually don’t think he’s anything special. It’s probably the old “and what is it about millionaire EM you find irresistible miss?” 🙈

Give me David Gandy any day 😍

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Bellalunagirl · 14/07/2018 11:44

GrinFlowers

Sunflowersforever · 14/07/2018 11:48

So disappointing about EM. I don't know who David Gandy is? 🤷🏼‍♀️ Too many abs, could take your eye out.