Starting over after 25 years - Part deux

[Lily007]

Wow need to start a new thread.

The support I’ve had from all the posters has been amazing and very much appreciated and I hope will continue.

Thank you Opportunity. I hope so too 😘

Morning lily,

A days retail therapy and lunch sounds a fab day, home you have a brilliant day and don't think of Ken hom once,,😁

Morning Bluntness

Yes I’m quite looking forward to a shopping trip. I’ve been so careful with money over the past few months I think I deserve a treat or two.

If I do think of KH, I’ll picture him serving on the skank’s fancy goods (tat) stall 🙈😂😘

Picture him fat, bloated, man boobs a swinging and doing it 🤣🤣🤣

And yes, everyone deserves a treat. Go for it. You've earned it,,

Ooh hope you had a good shopping trip Lily. Let us know what you bought 👖👚👠

Morning

I only bought some new make up on Saturday. Tried a few things on but didn’t buy any clothing.

Bluntness. The blush Boden top wasn’t available in John Lewis but I ordered it yesterday online direct from Boden, it’s being delivered today.

I’m waiting to hear now if he’s agreed to mediate. I’m feeling so much better this last few weeks so I’m hoping he does agree as I really need an interim financial arrangement in place to ensure I can continue paying the mortgage whilst we decide whether the house should be sold.

Some retail therapy will have done you good. Even just buying make-up feels lovely to treat yourself now and again.

KH's mediation deadline must be approaching....not long now and you'll know what you're dealing with.

Whatever happens, you'll be ready for him and looking amazing. It will be your just desserts to get to see the look of regret written all over his face!

Morning Lilly...

How's it going?

Hi @Bluntness

I’m okay although KH hasn’t been for his initial mediation appointment yet which is pissing me off. He’s clearly trying to delay the process 😡. It’s been almost 3 weeks since my appointment.

I’ll bet anything he’ll continue to try to delay by not getting all his documentation together. I could smash his stupid face in.

If all the horrible things I wish on him actually happen he’ll be in a sorry state 👿

How long does he have to go the mediation? I presume your joint mediation happens after he’s been to his individual one?

Grr....he is such a twat, isn't he?! I want to smash his stupid face in too Lily, shall we form an orderly queue?

Yeah, he's just delaying, knobhead. What's the point in that. Does he have a time limit?

The mediation service have told me he has made an appointment but won’t tell me when it is 🙄.

I’m going to wait until Monday afternoon to ring them again and I’ll be telling them in no uncertain terms if they allow him to constantly delay matters I won’t be paying them and I’ll make an application to the court for maintenance pending suit.

I’m so bloody angry. I hope something horrible happens to him, something that would really devastate him 😤

.............and breathe 😊

Waiting must be infuriating, but if he's made an appointment, it must be reasonably timely. I can't see them allowing him to drag it out for weeks/months and it's already been 3 weeks, so reckon it'll be this week.

To an extent I can understand not telling the other spouse when an appointment is. Not your situation of course, but what if an abusive spouse wanted to know when his/her STBX was going to be at mediation in order to accost or hurt him/her? It's a safety thing. And mediation can't make random decisions about who they think it's OK to tell and who they consider a risk. They have to apply the rules to everyone.

Fingers crossed he attends mediation soon

Morning,if he's made an appt thats good, it will be in a reasonable time frame. Once it's done they will notify you when the joint sesh is.

It's the not knowing I think that's probably annoying..🙃

Hey there, how are you doing?

I like to keep bumping your thread up,,keep it alive! 😁

🖐🏻 Hi Bluntness, room for a little one massive one after disappointing boot camp weigh in this morning ?

How's the outfit coming along Lily?

I'm checking in too Lily to see how you are

Me too Lily.

Hi toots, I've budged up on the bench.

Cmon Lilly, come say hi,,,😁

Oh I just came on here to see how everyone is doing?

Thanks Bluntness ☕️

Hi everyone.

I’m just muddling along really.

KH has agreed to joint mediation and we’ve agreed a date in a couple of weeks. Not looking forward to it but needs to be done.

I’ve had a few “down” days but I’m picking myself up and dusting myself down yet again.

Got a busy weekend coming up starting tomorrow. My darling DS and DIL are paying for me to have my teeth whitened for my birthday and I’m going to have the impressions done tomorrow afternoon. Then I’m having my nails done later.

I’m taking my darling doggie for his “coiffure” Saturday morning and I’m at a 50th birthday party Saturday night. I’ll need Sunday to be my chill out day.

I suppose all things considered, I’m not doing too badly 😊.

Hope you’re all good and thank you all for checking in 😘