Starting over after 25 years - Part deux

[Lily007]

Wow need to start a new thread.

The support I’ve had from all the posters has been amazing and very much appreciated and I hope will continue.

So where's the 🌟 of the show then?

I have gin too

And wine

But not in the same glass I hasten to add

Shall we start knitting a jumper or blanket whilst we wait or over indulge on Netflix ?

Are you drinking it now? I'm impressed 😝

Started on cuttingthegrass's gin whilst waiting for lily (hic) 😀

Not long until it’s gin o’clock, ‘tis Friday afterall

Did someone say gin?

How has this week been, Lily?

Hi everyone 👋

Had a busy week with the name change but all done now. I am now no longer Mrs Knobhead (or Hom) 😂

I think I might have shaken off his idiot “trainee” solicitor, heard nothing from her this week. I emailed her Monday reiterating my wish to proceed with mediation as opposed to negotiating with her.

I have my MAIM on Monday, this is just me and the mediator so not too worried about it.

Not had his acknowledgement of service of divorce petition as yet which is a little concerning 😬.

I’m feeling loads stronger now thankfully, I have a few wobbles when I watch a certain tv programme or hear a song but I recover fairly quickly.

I’m going to my first husband’s birthday bash tomorrow night - another event KH will miss out on - ooh I hope he’s suitably pissed off 😉

I’ve just poured myself a glass of Pinot Grigio blush so cheers everyone, have a great weekend 🍷😘

Ooh a double for me please 🙏 it's a veritable partaaay in your honour Lily

Sounds like you've got it all under control...great to hear. Yes, I'm sure Mr. Head Hom won't like to hear he's been excluded from the bash. Let your hair down, you deserve it.

Cheers to you 🥂

Cheers Lily.

I hope you have a fantastic time at your exh birthday bash. i do hope there’s lots of photos on instagram, with you looking happy and gorgeous surrounded by all your family and friends

I can’t help wondering if KH thought he’d also take on the role as ‘family & friend’ like your first ex has done? Maybe that’s why he’s always moaning about not being invited? Possibly hoping to be taken back into the fold like your ‘nice’ exh...

Thebluedog. I think you’re spot on about him thinking because I have a good relationship with my first XH I’d be the same with him. Not a frigging chance, my first XH and I split amicably and had a young DS to consider.

Ah, great minds, I just poured myself a a glass of rose too,

Enjoy the birthday party. Make sure you look fab in the snaps and they are posted where he will see.

Petty...but why not,😝

Has anyone read this thread

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3370525-i-just-added-myself-to-fb-chat-with-dh-and-ow

It’s absolutely unbelievable!!!

Yeah I read that, bit of a shocker 😱

Yes read that thread too. Caught hook, line and sinker....genius OP!

Both you and her a such strong woman lily xxx why do men do this

Thank you notsodimwit. I can only assume they think the grass is greener, it’s sad though, the damage they cause 😟

And the grass is very, very rarely greener once the honeymoon period has worn off IMO. I think these people must live with huge regret for the rest of their lives in most cases (except, I guess, when leaving abusjve partnerships). I think it's because the affair tends to be more about attention and sex than long-lasting compatibility.

Yes I read that thread. I’m so impressed with the OPs thought process after finding out. I can only wish I’d had the prescense of mind like her, and you Lily, when I found out about my ex. Took me another 3 years to get rid of him...

But as they say : why is divorce so expensive?

Because it’s worth it

I read that thread too, and thought of this one. How do you just switch off those feelings though? That's the really cruel part. I can see why it takes years to disengage.

In some ways, KH going so quickly and not begging to come back is/was a blessing as it gives Lily a chance to recover and move on.

Get the feeling Marple might have a tougher time with that. Just awful.

These situations do make us woman stronger.

Have a lovely weekend all 🍸

Hope you’ve had a fab weekend Lily, et all

Hi everyone

Went to my MIAM yesterday. The mediator was really nice. She explained what will happen IF KH agrees to attend, I’m not sure he will but we’ll see.

She gave me a list of what documents we both need to provide and exchange which includes 12 months bank statements.....that’ll be interesting 🤔

Got a text from my friend yesterday afternoon that KH and his skank went to Budapest yesterday 😡. I’m absolutely furious, I can’t afford to pay the mortgage and he’s pissing money away on holidays and city breaks. As usual he’s hammering IG with photos. God forgive me but I hope something really awful happens to them 😬.

He’s such a wanker and a stupid one at that, advertising the fact he isn’t suffering any financial hardship.

You’ll gather I’m really pissed off 😡