DH has not come home yet...

[HaveYouSeentheWritingontheWall]

He went to work at 6:30am yesterday, said he was going to have a drink after work and I've not heard from him or seen him since then, he finished work at 12:30.

He's not done this before, but he has recently been lying to me about who he has been out drinking with.

He's ignoring you because he's not sure of the repercussions , probably confused because he thought you'd be sobbing or pleading at his feet. Shame. 💐

So sorry this has happened. Get in there with the divorce first. Where has @coatsprotectionleague's thread gone? I've been wondering how she is but can only find the original thread x

I'm beginning to think that I should just text him with the news that I am divorcing him.

No that's letting him off too lightly. Maybe you could post copies of the letters you found in the mail to him?

Defiently don't text him it. Say it to his face and see his reaction x

Don't text him, let him sweat. Have you read coats protection threads ?

Fuck no

Do not text

No. Please don’t text, you’ll regret it.

See your solicitor first, then decide what you want to do

I'd be tempted to let him find out when he gets a solicitor's letter.

My ExH found out about the divorce from the solicitors letter - had tried to talk to him many times but he refused to engage in person, simply did not believe that I could possibly not want to be with him. Took him a week to acknowledge the letter.

The weekend is approaching OP, I'm worried about how you are going to handle it, perhaps get very busy doing things?

Keep your chin up, and look after yourself x

OP you are fab and worth so much more than the short straw you have drawn with your DH, stay strong, onward and upwards for you

Has he spoken to you yet?

No he hasn't spoken to me yet.

Sorry you're going through this OP.

Don't text him, just stop doing anything and everything for him. He acting like you are not around so don't be.

Yes, I'd say he knows you know. When is he back?

Have you got all paperwork sorted etc?

Your husband is an arsehole who deserves nothing but your contempt.

The next Coats thread is in chat. She doesn’t want a link between boards. I think it is ok to mention it without writing out the full name (sorry if I’m mistaken!).

HaveYouSeen , take a page out of his play book and don’t talk to him either. Proceed with action. Get your ducks in a row quietly and as privately as you can and then just do it and end it. You don’t need his agreement or cooperation. You are the captain of your own ship here and he is nonessential cargo weighing you down.

How are things OP?

I couldn’t live like this.

I would pack a bag and go away for a couple of nights.

What is the coats thread? I keep see mentioned.

It's quite funny really, the 2 of them must think I am so fucking stupid, I had a quick look in the secret hiding place today and the other stuff that I left there has gone and yet he hasn't uttered a word. They have been even more brazen this week. I've been left sitting in the lounge all day by myself, both kids have spent the day up in their bedrooms doing their own thing. I've enjoyed the peace and quiet but at the same time I feel so alone.

aww it must be hard OP but i think i would rather feel alone than not knowing what was going on. I still don't know how you are keeping your cool. Are you staying in the same bed still? You are worth 100 times more than her and your pig of a husband. I hope when this comes out she can't bare to show her face!! I hope it all goes terribly wrong and he realises the grass is not greener on the other side x