DH has not come home yet...

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He went to work at 6:30am yesterday, said he was going to have a drink after work and I've not heard from him or seen him since then, he finished work at 12:30.

He's not done this before, but he has recently been lying to me about who he has been out drinking with.

@HaveYouSeentheWritingontheWall this would definitely still have happened had you gone out more. He is a dick and none of this is your fault XX

Wishing you well look after yourself having a child with autism is hard and very challenging in itself without you having to go through this you deserve better.

This is his child also so doesn't give him an excuse to go dick around !!! twat

Without knowing what the 'event' is, would it be possible to start getting your son (and yourself?) involved in another team, in readiness for when the shit hits the fan?

Look after yourself.

*@ajandjjmum*The event is the only one in the area that DS can attend (due to age restrictions) so it's not possible to change to a different one yet, even if I could take him to a different one it would be extremely difficult for DS to cope with the change (due to the autism) and anyway it's taken many years for DS to feel fairly comfortable and forge friendships at this one, why should he change venues when he has done nothing wrong? I'm not having a pop at you but just curious as to why you think we should change.

In terms of filing for divorce, it was important to me to do it on the grounds of adultery. And I had 5000 messages including sexts and references to all the sex they were having (best sex of his life apparently ) but even so it sounded like the only acceptable evidence was catching him "in flagrante" or a signed confession.

So when he was in the remorseful phase and clearly wasnt denying anything he asked if he could do anything to help me and he wrote me a confession. So if when you finally confront him he is temporarily remorseful ( and before he realises you might not be able to prove it otherwise) I would get him to write you a signed confession!

I don't think you should have to change - but just wondered if in the circumstances, it might be an option worth considering. Just as a way of making things easier for your DS in the coming months. It's obviously not an option. Hopefully you will get lots of support from your current team members, when they know what's been happening.

I've confronted them both, seen the solicitor and had a long talk with 'D'H.

How did the confrontation go? Did they apologise?

Aah ! Good for you, what happened?

They were both too stunned to say anything, they certainly weren't expecting me to walk right up to them.

What happened?

Well done you. How did they respond?

well done, OP. How did it go?

Oh crikey op. That was brave. Hope you're ok. What are your plans now?

Well done 🖐( need more info ) 😮

Well done OP. Hope you're okay and have support around you

Wow OP! You should be so bloody proud of yourself you're amazing for confronting them

You are amazing

Good for you OP.

Nothing really happened, I just told them that I knew what was going on and that I knew that 'D'H was lying about his whereabouts on the night that he didn't come home. Then I just told him to go home and pack some stuff and leave, all he said was ok.

The shocked looks and the stunned silence was quite funny really.

Now I need to sort out the rest of the mortgage, get in touch with HMRC because although we haven't received tax credits for a long time we do still technically have an open claim. I can't increase my contracted hours at work although I will be able to continue to pick up bank shifts when they are available.

I also need to see the solicitor again to set the divorce in motion and to go through the financial arrangements options.

Aw well done you. Very brave xxx

Good for you 💐 you seem calm,are u ok ?

Well done! I wonder if she will say anything to her husband.

1st day of the rest of your life!!!