Dating Thread 136 - Can Anybody Find Me Somebody to Love?

[ValMc1]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Runs The appropriate thing to do here is... to say yes!

He's asked you on a date based on the pics he's seen plus the stellar conversations you've been having. Your age is irrelevant.

Runs your right, my sensible head is telling me to ‘take a chill pill and slow down’, my not so sensible head is making me want to jump in. I know I have to relax and take things slowly. He’s still messaging me which is a good sign, he messaged me this morning and said ‘have a good day’ so I assumed I wouldn’t hear from him again but he’s messaged again with a photo of what he’s up to today.

Love that all sounds great.

Kin I said yes to the date.
Compared to the "hi sexy" messages I usually get from blokes in their late 40's, the younger guys have surprised me.

Runs go for it!

I'm 36 and find the 25-35 age range the easiest to chat with

I have a 53 year old who regularly sends me pictures of himself in Lycra which I find a little disturbing, he's a nice guy but despite me declining several invitations for a date he continues to message me and I keep replying out of politeness... I should stop shouldn't I? 🤦🏼‍♀️

@love totally relate to how you feel. It sounds lik he is keen too so just hang in there and see how things go when he gets back. He may initiate the conversation himself...

yes kin definitely Loveshack. I love that song.

Honest question now.

Can you fall for someone who from pictures doesn't appeal attractive to you?

pinkpixie I would never have swiped on FWB from his tinder pictures. Best sex I ever had and our chemistry is something yet to be matched You never know ;)

Good to see you back Runs, tinder gold is good for that, once I left my age range completely open, got way more "swipes" from the 18-21 age group than the older age group. Hahaha!

As long as you don't mean completely unappealing, I'd say you can fancy someone based primarily on personality for sure, pixie.

Pink I used to ask myself the same question. I do think there needs to be some attraction, if someone isn’t that pleasing to the eye it’s hard to fancy them, there needs to be a physical attraction as well as them having a good personality.

Thanks.
I guess I'll just continue to overthink it for a bit longer.

But some people look better in real life than they do in their photos? But also works the other way too.

Pink I think you have to meet them to know for sure. I really struggle with this, as there are very few men whose photos instantly attract me in my own age group.

Sometimes in the flesh, even though not immediately visually your type, their personality can be and so you can be attracted that way - IYSWIM.

You know you're an over thinker when:

1. You seriously consider what colour the lights should be in every room
2. Wonder which incense sticks to burn
3. Ponder whether candles send the wrong signal but quickly smell one of each to decide which would be best anyway

Came across this profile on POF. Yet another fish picture:

kin that's not overthinking. That's just careful preparation.

@Kin I am definitely an overthinking of the highest degree and it does me know good at all

I know what you mean pixie - it's much better to go with your gut rather than your logical mind, though that is often easier said than done.

Lol Bendy, that bloke looks like a right kipper himself.

Indeed kin

All he needs now to complete the cliche is an accompanying picture in a pub with his mates, with a pint in hand...

@Kinunir what when your gut is completely conflicted

Pink - why not meet him and then decide?

pink ^Can you fall for someone who from pictures doesn't appeal attractive to you?^

To answer your original question, I would say you are jumping the gun a little. Margo talks sense. Just take one step at a time. Meet first and see how that goes, and so on. It's way too early to be thinking about falling.

Pink I agree with the others - I've found that on more than 1 occasion the ones that look good often turn out to be boring and the ones that don't tend to more lively - it's only an hour or two of your life so give it a go - good luck

That photo is a shark isn’t it? And Nigel Farage.

Vet so pleased things are going well with Mr Diamondmine! And Love it all looks great with Mr Campervan I'd hang fire on the 'exclusive' talk just for now I suppose it's still early days - fingers crossed for the both of you!

Wishy Enjoy the lunch and hopefully his personality will totally outshine anything less than perfect in the looks front. (I'd take the lunch and run too but don't tell Bendy !!)