Dating Thread 136 - Can Anybody Find Me Somebody to Love?

[ValMc1]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

I was a page behind (wrote a post this morning and it disappeared into the internet black hole) so apologies that I'm way behind on my comments.

Runs Tinder Gold and your suggestion of changing the age is amazing!!! Oh my there are some very hot guys who've right swiped me!! I'm a few years older than you but one is already messaging me who's 34 and there's one who I've been drooling over but at 32 I don't know whether that is too young!! What is the rule again - half your age and plus how many years??? You go with your young guy date and report back!

Kin loving your overthinking, makes me feel so much better than I'm not the only one!

Guys with fish - ok, so not only is it totally off putting but don't they realise that what this tells us about them is that they like sitting on their own for hours and hours beside a cold dark pond/lake/river with a little tent beside them and a can of beer! Come on guys - really??!

You definitely have to meet them to be sure. Mr Local who I've seen twice, albeit the second time was purely to DTD actually doesn't (I think) look as good as his pictures in real life but what the hell, it works for me!!!

I have to say, the one thing that makes me immediately swipe left is teeth!! If you're going to smile in your pic please make sure you have decent teeth - some of them are eeeewww. Or maybe I'm just picky!!

What makes you swipe left immediately without a second thought (apart from the big fish!) ?

What makes you swipe left immediately without a second thought (apart from the big fish!) ?

A selfie in the mirror

@HalfDutchGirl

I'm not holding out hope on the personality front .... we've chatted a bit today and I'm bored already. Literally the only thing he's got going for him right now is that he's offered me free food 🤷🏼‍♀️

What makes you swipe left immediately without a second thought (apart from the big fish!)

• Really close up double chin selfies
• Topless gym selfies unless they are so undeniably beautiful that my shallow inner whore self comes out
• really ugly men

ritamad yes it is!

What makes you swipe left immediately without a second thought (apart from the big fish!)

in bed photos
headless torsos
scenic photos with no person in
overweight men (I am overweight, but I just don't fancy men who are, call me a hypocrite)
stupid Snapchat filters (time and a place for that and it's not OLD, grow up)
photos of their children (how could anyone USE their kids to pick up women?)
men that look like taxi drivers (sorry)
pics with sports cars
men who look elderly (and have lied about their age)
men who look short (and who obviously have lied about their height)
floppy or long hair
look like a knobend
stupid gurning
look younger than my kids
baseball caps and Mr T jewellery
silhouette against a sunset knobbery
with wife/ex GF/etc (I don't care that you had a relationship before, respect her enough not to use her photo to attract other women)
cigarettes
in work (unless very sexy in uniform, when it is compulsory to wear it on our date please!)

I agree, “at work” photos. I’ve seen quite a few doctors with selfies in uniform, wearing a stethoscope. FFS.

People who post pictures of themselves not looking at the camera, disinterested. I think they think it looks cool, but if you can’t be bothered to look interested in an OLD profile it doesn’t bode well.

A series of goofy photos. “Hi. I’m mad!!”

Gurning

Btw I am very unphotogenic. Have never gone on a date without the person commenting that I look better in real life than I do in my pics. I simply don't look good in photos and I don't have anyone to take good photos of me. I do think a lot of men are the same as I have come across a fair few who are much better looking in real life.

Some of us have old phones with not so great cameras and are just not that attractive in front of the lens!

daffo you can't be that bad in a photo if you are getting dates!

We are all our own worst critics I suspect.

Though from the length of my list, I appear to be a great critic of others too! lol

I'm PMSL!! I have literally just been messaged by a very hot sexy fireman. And with pics in uniform! And in the gym. It's a poor message but I'll let that go.

Vet How on earth can you chat to someone for 7 hours straight?!?

Kin I don't know, it just kept flowing! We met at 11am and were walking on the SW Coast Path with two pub stops, a beach visit and a sea swim and we literally didn't stop talking about anything and everything until we said goodbye at nearly 7pm! He messaged me again an hour later to say what a lovely day he'd had and to arrange something for Thursday evening.

What makes you swipe left immediately without a second thought (apart from the big fish!)

Oh so much...
Swimming with captive dolphins
Posing with drugged tigers
Elephant riding
Photos of their kids
Sticking tongue out - I fucking HATE this
Smoking
Giving the finger
Only group photos
Drinking in every photo
Bed selfies
Snapchat filters
Scowling/gurning at the camera
Mirror selfies
Car selfies
Boxer short selfies - often pulling them down at the front
Most gym selfies
No photos of their face
Bad teeth
Bad skin
Overweight
Long hair
Photos of their car, unless it's a VW Transporter van at the beach or an awesome old Defender
Posing with Hooters waitresses or any other half-dressed women who are only there because they're being paid

A bit gormless looking - that alone probably rules out most of them.

Oh, and work photos, as in the one that goes on your pass or the website, or professional headshot type jobs, usually in black and white, where they try to look all smouldery and brooding but invariably look like a dick.

Ooh that’s an excellent list vet

I really can’t bear to look at anybody sticking out their tongue. And no idea why so many men have pictures of themselves smoking.

vet lol at the smouldering moody corporate pics!

Vet I want a 7 hour date like yours! Hahahah!! Your list is perfect! Boxer short selfies with them pulling a bit down at the front, do they think that’s sexy??!! Mind you if they’ve got a cracking body and six pack I might be tempted!

You missed out ones taken in the bath - there was one I saw today of a guy with another guy in a bath (maybe jacuzzi - hopefully)!

Oh and photos taken in the local gents, one today had the toilet in the background! And the ones that are obviously their passport photos.

Oh so many bad photos - poor us!

tbf a male date told me about some horrendous things that women do on OLD with pic, such as:

inordinate level of pouting trout face selfies
clearly posting very old photos when they were younger and thinner
naked in bed photos
full on cleavage shots
them with their kids

Darn it I hate the distance thing on Tinder, got talking to someone really nice and then he’s suddenly just under 200 miles away - he was just down my neck of the woods for the round the Isle of Wight race - bah!

Runs I’m blaming you totally on the fact that I am now right swiping loads of guys in their 30s!!!

@wishywashy6 Well, you never know, he may surprise you (she said hopefully with her fingers crossed!)

@HalfDutchGirl

Haha yeah I'm hoping he's been hiding his sense of humour to surprise me with on the date 😆

HalfDutch I dropped my age limit to 34. Don't know why but that seemed about right.
But then I thought I'd go lower, down to 25 & see what happened. It was crazy. So many in their 20's had liked me.
That's way too young for me but it was funny to look. Although I spotted a very nice 29yr old Physio who I thought might be useful

Hello. Wow this thread is moving fast... so I've just been on fifth date with this guy. Dinner only as he was picking up some family from the train. I've decided to start chatting to others as I'm not quite sure how this is going to work out. I'm really keen on him but it's so early on (three weeks) I feel like I should try some other dates! At 42 I'm finding myself irresistible to those under the age of 30 but determined to date older.

I'm chatting with a 29 year old too. Ah, wth. He's got the bantz. That always does it for me.

Moving the "what makes you swipe left" comments. Can I add the following:

Photos of them much younger
Taken with their mum
Wedding ring clearly on show
One group photo so you have no idea which one it is
And a second vote for tongue sticking out!

@BendyLikeBeckham

It's all about the bantz for me too. Moving on slightly from the what makes you swipe left to "what makes you not reply?" :

Messages I've had where I just think 'oh bore off' like:

• "hi how r u?" Or "WUU2?" Unless it's from someone so gorgeous that I'm prepared to let it go and hope the banter will follow
• "I could make you happy".... like I need a man to be that 🤔🤦🏼‍♀️
• "would you mind sending me a picture of your big toe?" 🤷🏼‍♀️

Any others where you've just thought.... nah?

wishy lol at big toe!

I get hundreds saying just "hi". they can fuck right off, unless I agree they are so hot I can overlook it.

FFS Runs this is all your fault!!! I’m now chatting to a very very hot 34 year old who had super liked me and wants to take me out on a date! Well I’m exactly on the half my age plus 7 - am I still allowed??!!! Luckily he lives in London rather than round the corner!! Yep, it’s the bantz that’s doing it for me too!!

Wishy - Please don’t tell you me you’ve actually received a message from someone asking to see your big toe!!!!