Dating Thread 136 - Can Anybody Find Me Somebody to Love?

[ValMc1]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Wishy oh cripes!!! That is insane - what is wrong with these people?! How bizarre if its the same guy as Runs !!

Val and Kin loving your playlists!

I'd hoped for a date tonight with Mr TooYoung but he's yet to respond to my text. He really does blow hot and cold, yesterday he was full on texting constantly, this morning a few and now nothing again, seems like that's just the way he goes, one of these days I'll tie him down for a date.

Sent the dreadful date I had on Friday and 'no thanks' message earlier, hopefully that's the last from him. He sent me a message this morning saying 'you've a great smile and lovely boobs'! Gee thanks - I was tempted to reply 'You're incredibly ugly and full of shit' but decided against it!!

wishy that is downright creepy. What site are you using that allows you to send photos?

@HalfDutchGirl haha you should have!! 😂

I've agreed to a few dates although no firm plans arranged with any of them. I'm finding that guys I find physically attractive from their pictures are rubbish at stimulating conversation, where as I'm having a few great chats with some other guys who aren't typically my type but can have a bit of banter/ joke with. Feel more comfortable meeting those ones in the hope that they'll be growers in the looks department 🤔

@dogzdinner
It's an app called badoo. I'd not heard of it before but it popped up when I searched "top ten free dating apps" 🤷🏼‍♀️

I'm actually speaking to a couple of what seem like decent guys on there though so not all weirdo's!!

Thanks for thoughtful reply Kin.

I fear your playlist is lacking....I'd suggest Goldfrapp - Strict Machine 😍😜

I can't make my mind up whether that song makes you a romantic or suggests you're into S&M:

You get love when told what to do

Date went well..... got incredibly drunk & watched the Match together. Loads of fun. I am very happy. love the pace this is all going at. We are seeing each other again, no date set yet but we never usually do this straight away.

Wishy - I was speaking to a guy on Tinder who worked in airport security, no weird pictures though! The conversation was great and had some interesting stuff to say.

my getting in the mood playlist:

I want your sex, George Michael
Sugar Walls, Sheena Easton
Darling Nikki, and Kiss (and probably most of his other songs tbh), Prince
You really got me, The Kinks
Get it on, and sexual healing, Marvin Gaye
Black Velvet, Alannah Miles
Died in your arms, Cutting Crew
Venus, Bananarama
Relax, Frankie (of course)
Birthday sex, Jeremih
Careless Whisper, George again
Nasty, Janet Jackson
Get it on, T Rex
Smooth operator, Sade
Big Momma Thang, Lil Kim
How does it feel, D'Angelo (OMG, the video!)
Can't get enough of your love, Barry White
Red light special, TLC
Touch my body, Mariah Carey
Hot in here, Nelly
need you tonight, INXS
just want to make love to you, Etta James
push it, salt n Peppa
lady marmalade, all the versions
spinning around, Kylie
French kiss, Lil Louis (teenage memories accompanying this song that my mother wouldn't approve of!)

and I forgot to add songs by Nina Simone, Aretha Franklin, Donna Summer, Billy Holliday, Roberta Flack, Beyonce, Whitney, Louis Armstrong....so many!!!

I'm having a bit of fun with Tinder Gold since I discovered that if I change the age limits it shows me all the 30 somethings that have liked me. .
No sure I dare match with any of them. I'm old enough to be their mother!

Thanks for the idea of music playlists, now I've thought about them, I'm actually going to make one on my Echo Dot (rather than being imaginary or individually chosen). Now I've got to figure out how to make the damn device do it.

Good idea Bendy. Obviously my earlier list was a bit tongue in cheek and all about the song titles rather than the lyrics - I have more appropriate playlists in iTunes which I can airplay to different rooms in my house - they really do set the mood

kin everything is tongue in cheek with you!

You gave me the idea though to do a proper playlist. I've now managed to configure one with my Amazon music account and add it to my Echo. Amazon music is quite good and I'm paying for Prime so should make the most of it really. It's not just for free delivery on sex toys.

As for being about lyrics rather than song titles, my list is more about the tone and the rhythm!

Plus some great classics that can't be ignored and some evocative ones too.

It's funny how music and memories collide sometimes. I remember this girl at school (one of the first to have a boyfriend) telling a group of us that 'their song' was Move Closer. I have always hated that song, quite irrationally really, merely because she boasted so much about it. The boyfriend was probably imaginary anyway, lol!

@BendyLikeBeckham

I've considered an imaginary boyfriend tbh... 🤔

Better off alone - Alice Dj (always seems to come on in my car after a date)

Love shack - B-52’s

Can’t help falling in love - Elvis

I’m not in love - 10cc

Bleeding love - Leona Lewis

Love on the brain - Rihanna

wishywashy

Sometimes the imaginary ones are better than the real ones!

I've realised that I actually really hate internet dating.
It's either too much and far too intense or it's nothing.

I have no idea how to move my situations forward. My head is just overloaded.

I hate it to @pinkpixie83 !
After a great date Thursday and bumping into him randomly Friday night where he went out of his way to talk to me and we kissed...we arranged to go out Monday and now I've been ghosted! Ffs!

looking are you sure you've been ghosted? Maybe he's just been busy today?

wishy I feel exactly the same way about conversations. I've had a few matches on Bumble this weekend with really cute men. But the conversation is like pulling teeth. How hard is it to engage with someone? Isn't that why we're all there? I really can't be bothered to make all the effort.

I've still got Mr Academic on the go and his intermittent texting/dating. I'm used to it now and it doesn't really bother me. We get on really well when we do see each other. I don't need constant communication.
I'm seeing Mr Teacher the week after next but he's in an open relationship. I've made it clear that's not my thing, but he seems really nice so we might end up friends.
Just moved to WhatsApp with Mr Fitness. Been chatting for a week or so on Bumble, but he's yet to suggest meeting up. And not sure I can be bothered to initiate it.

I find I've lowered all my expectations, standards and dignity and in doing that I'm much more relaxed about the whole thing.
To begin with I was so determined to find mr right through chatting before even considering a date with anyone that I was writing people off before really giving them a chance.

I'm like Jim Carey now in "yes man" just agreeing to dates with anyone who I get a good vibe from but don't necessarily "fancy"

Looking back through my extensive catalogue of exes (not) I don't think I'd have found any of them attractive on paper but personality counts for a lot so I'm trying to not judge a book by it's cover kind of thing.

Also assuming everyone's a nob unless they prove otherwise so trying not to overthink things/ get too attached or get any hopes up seems to be working! 🤷🏼‍♀️

wishy I like that outlook a lot. I feel I have to have really good conversations before I'll even consider a date. Maybe I should change that and simply try to meet more people who tick a few boxes but not every one.

Just catching up with the new thread. Too many to comment on!
Would like to add that my POF guy, MrWow and I are still going strong 4mths on. I absolutely would not have given him the time of day if he hadn't mentioned that we worked together over 30 yrs ago. His profile pic is awful but by god, he is sexy as fuck and sooo much better in the flesh. This isn't a first either, I don't think blokes are very good at posing or taking flattering pics. So, my advice is to just go on a date and see for yourself.

Kin - Riders on the storm - The Doors

Am so going to make up a playlist of all the suggestions!

x

runs ooo I'd never thought of doing that with Tinder Gold!! Think I might change my age range for a laugh!!

Wishy I'm thinking the same as you now! Not that I've lowered my standards (ok well maybe a little bit!) But I figured just get out there and meet em Dutch. Done if them may surprise you. TomHardy come join us!

Had an unexpected date this evening through a guy from Humble who I only got talking to yesterday. So not my usual type, nice guy but not for me. He made me laugh because we had a stroll after drink and he said 'hand' and reached for mine to hold...I was tempted to say "yes thank you I have two".

Humble is not a new site btw!!! Maybe it should be!!! Obviously my phone doesn't like Bumble!!