Dating Thread 136 - Can Anybody Find Me Somebody to Love?

[ValMc1]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

I have no dates set up yet (sigh) but I have booked a waxing for Thurs in the hope that this will encourage me to set some up! I'm like the wild man of Borneo down there given how long it has been for me....!

Down below as in your legs Daffo? I did say you'd get better results if you took THAT pic off your profile didn't I !

@Kinunir - you make me giggle :). Additional info, I’m still getting used to him because he’s very different from previous partners but I do realise that’s because I met both my previous partners at work so they were ‘corporate’ like me :). He’s shaved his beard off for me as I’m not mad about beards and cut his hair because I suggested it would make him look even better and I’m starting to grow my hair because he thinks I’ll look better with it a bit longer at the back. We’ve seen each other almost every day for last 10 days but not DTD as I’m very cautious (which is proving really hard as I finished my last relationship in Jan 2017 so it has been a REALLY long time).

I’ve just got to page 4 and enjoying the dating playlists everyone posted after you posted yours.

I think a thread meet up is an inspired idea! Count me in!

I hope you're finding ways to enjoy some cautious fun while you wait to DTD.

@Kinunir

They're my legs! Where did you find that picture of them?! 😱😂

@kinunir - you make me laugh so much, stop it, my sides are aching

I found them on WerewolfOrNot.com wishy - 72% of the site visitors say you're a LILF.

Good practice for when Mr Surveyor makes something else ache Tigger

metigger it might just be me, but that sounds quite a bit.....intense....Much more so than DTD.

I wonder if you are throwing your heart into this at full throttle while holding back your body, and if/why one is preferable to the other?

@bendylikebeckham - you’re right to wonder and you’re also right, it does feel intense but honestly for me, after my last LTR who I can see now really treated me not very well and caused me anxiety, I’m really enjoying spending time with someone who is there when he says he will be, takes me out for dinner and cooks for me - in a nutshell, I suppose I’m finally enjoying what a real relationship should be like (even though it’s very early days). It’s been an eye opener for me and I’m so glad I finished that last relationship because I was so miserable and he was so very good at making it seem like it was me being unreasonable.

sorry for all the gory details, I’m really grateful for this thread and the care you’re all showing.

kin lupus?

He’s shaved his beard off for me as I’m not mad about beards and cut his hair because I suggested it would make him look even better

red flag

Sorry to put a downer on things but I'd urge a degree of caution too.

Lycanthrope I'd Like to Fuck Bendy

metigger it sounds like you are having a lovely time and enjoying it. If I knew you IRL as a friend, I would be cautioning you more to slow down on the emotional front than the physical one, because emotions are so much more powerful. But this bunch of online strangers are here for you anyway, and it's so nice to hear about positive relationships and just, well, happiness .

You missed out some punctuation there kin

I was thinking of the Latin for just wolf, but you are quite right about werewolf. I had to go and look that up.

Kin same profile as before. I suspect folks are looking at the photo, then realising it's the same profile as they've seen and rejected before 🙁

metigger sounds promising, but like the others have said, it sounds a bit warp speed. Could you slow it down a bit, and still enjoy each others company just as much?

Lol kin. Waxing woman has booked me in for a double session. Yes it's that bad...

love I'll be honest with you, if a man had already booked in 2 dates with me in advance, I would say that was incredibly keen.

I agree with the others tigger. This early phase is utterly fantastic but watch getting overinvested. I am like you and find it SO hard not to do it but just watch yourself!

Mmmm... double depilation 😛😂

No way Sky, they're more likely to be checking you out and thinking you're out of their league. Are you messaging profiles you like too?

kin I am, but to be honest, there aren't many who can string a sentence together! Tinder seems to have gone poof, and I'm just not getting any matches at all. Well, apart from people who don't bloody live near me 🙄

sky unfortunately I suspect you need to live in or near London to get a deluge of responses. Can you set your location to your nearest large town/city and see if that makes a difference?

*bendy I've set it to 30 miles, which includes my nearest city. I've set it to just my town before, and there were 2 profiles 😂

metigger I’m starting to grow my hair because he thinks I’ll look better with it a bit longer at the back

That is also a red flag to me. I'd never change my appearance because a man I barely know suggests it. If it comes from long standing friends that's a bit different. As everyone else has said, I do urge you to slow down the emotional side here.

Aargh, tried to do italics there and failed!

vet what could tennis be a euphemism for?! I don't get that one either and I love innuendo.

I was just trying to get the racquet and balls in there because I thought it would be funny, and in response to his profile which said he was always looking for potential tennis partners. From the deadpan response and tumbleweed blowing through and he is French , I suspect that he is on the wrong site. He should be on the FB page of his local tennis club.

I'm quite disappointed. I had a whole load more jokes lined up too...tonsil tennis, over the net, pocketful of balls, french kissing, take me to court, the French Open, hard serve, fast serve, spank me while you wank, doing a Federer, and so on, etc, etc.

Oh well. I won't get to hear his sexy accent now.