Dating Thread 136 - Can Anybody Find Me Somebody to Love?

[ValMc1]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Good luck to those with dates .... it gives me some hope.

I have a babysitter arranged for a date on Thursday but I'm expecting it to fall through. After him being ok and a couple of chats on the phone he's been decidedly quiet since we said about going out on Thursday. I've text today to confirm I have a sitter so we will see.

I'm going to lose babysitters tho if I keep arranging them only to cancel because I get cancelled on

So in a flurry of WhatsApp messages this morning and I've arranged the next date (is this six or seven) I'm not quite sure on Thursday. Decided to chat to some others- one 31 year one who seems keen and one 50 year old who seems amusing and fun.. I'm getting too involved with first guy I think and starting to get feelings.., but it's too early and it can't be this easy surely...

Also, completely random and not really important BUT .... does anyone else have a disproportionate amount of messages from people called Mart?

I've been on the planet 36 years and never encountered one and now there's like a swarm of them on OLD 😳

today I had "I'd love to join your sexy world" and 5p others saying "Hi" and similar. I did do a fair bit of swiping yesterday.

I decided to swipe right if they didn't repulse me. Now I'm filtering and only replying to messages that show proper interest and if they really really attract me physically. Some 30 years olds in that! And a 6 foot 3 inch bodybuilder, lol.

But the quality of the convo/banter will weed most of them out. It's a rare find to get the whole package. Luckily I've met some already.

And I'm happy to report, that Mr TD has come back. I can't remember if I've mentioned him before. I may have called him something else. Anyway, after a very intimate 3rd date on the weekend I had heard nothing from him. Thought maybe I wouldn't, but he messaged back today without a care in the world. So, margo my point is, don't assume ghosting yet. Sometimes they take 3 or 4 days to respond and are oblivious to any angst caused!

Glad you hear back from Mr TD Bendy. Who knows what goes through their minds - specially the ones who message about joining your sexy world!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm sure there was a comedy sketch on Little Britain or similar with a line about "we have sexy fun together?". Reminds me of that!

Cool enjoy your evening and Jax enjoy yours on Thursday.

Well I was supposed to have a date tonight with Mr Perv he's done all the running (second date, we met first 3 weeks ago) this morning he finally suggests a pub flipping miles from me (completely different from the original pub I suggested!), just down the road from him and also in the same village my ex lives in. I declined and said somewhere nearer me would be good - now nothing! I'm not that bothered to be fair but why is it just such flipping hard work at times!

Mr Local is still blowing hot and cold, full on texting all evening one night and then arranging a drink and then no contact. I know I should knock it on the head but I'm now intrigued more than anything and am determined to actually meet him at some point!!

Margo hopefully you'll hear back soon, men are a funny species - apologies Kin !!

Margo! This quick selfie shows what I think of that comment :-P

Half, not Margo - I'm quite obviously overtired right now.

Anyone else hate having to utilise busses, etc. so they can drink on a date? I've just blown tonight's out as I'm too tired to jump on the 97; it sucks balls! Will definitely do the 94 on Friday as it's a free-flowing route right now, but overall public transport is a pita, period.

I've not seen any Marts in my travels ! I have seen alot of people that live in Haringey though and alot of people who are 25 masquerading as 45 year olds though !

I have precisely 2 hours before my date and really nervous. I've just realised as well he's been really considerable and chosen a pub nearer to me but not too close !

@coolcahuna

I've just has another Mart message me! I must attract Marts

kin the main problem I have with buses, is the proverbial. None for ages, and then several come at once. Sometimes, they are racked up like a convoy.

I know it's proverbial but I've never had a situation where two have come at the same time. Maybe one day...

*halfdutch girl"

I had a similar experience to your Mr Local.
Turned out he was a Coke head so would be full on at times and great to talk to then flip to ignoring messages when cold. One I found out about the coke, it clicked with me.

I always know as he asks how work is and I know he's not remotely interested!

I had a charming message. " I eat ass" - and I replied "must be why you look like shit". Then the following day another guy messaged "I'm only here to eat ass".
Maybe they really don't want to ever get laid?!

Wishy You must be a Mart magnet!!! I’ve yet to come across one!!

Bendy I’m knowing that buses feeling!! Kin Hahahaha!!

Actually, talking of buses, how many irons to you have going at one time? Is there a limit you have?

I seem to have a load of them at the moment and it’s getting mighty confusing, problem is that getting a date with any of them is proving difficult so I just seem to them pick up another to add to the list. I can’t cope - I actually want some dates please so I can knock them off the list or get rid of the list completely (I live in dreamland hope!)

The iron limit is only reached when you scream the wrong name at the most inappropriate time Half

Hooray! I got my first message on Bumble!

New problem: I've no idea what to say! How do you flirt with someone you've never met through text? Help?

Did she give you anything to work with in her message Dan?

She wrote a fairly lengthy message about where she grew up and then asked me about my job. She's a teacher - I'm thinking about saying something along the lines of ''that must be really rewarding, but be honest - was it really of the thought of those long summer holidays that convinced you?'' with a smiley or winky face at the end?

Lol. Winky.

I've got a teacher friend who works damn hard and is always shattered during the hols so be careful with that!

Can you come up with something really funny/outrageous about your own job that could make her laugh?

Too late, done it now!

I talked about how much I enjoy my job to try and convey a sense of passion. From the previous thread, that was very important...

Selfies.....discuss

Been speaking to a guy on tinder. His bio is quite good, mentions he has a 4yr old seems down to earth etc etc. Decent looking. Chatting on and off through the day then he announces he's coming off tinder so can he add me on snapchat. I say yes. He adds me and immediately sends me a rather awkward looking selfie saying "hey"

I was mid washing up when I opened it so I didn't respond.
2 minutes later I get a message from him asking why I hadn't sent him a selfie back. I don't really do the whole communication via selfies thing... plus I'm sat here no make up on, with a towel on my head and a dog on my knee. Bit early to show him the ogre within isn't it?
Is this a thing? Do you all send selfies on request? I hate them 😩 (unless I've had 3 gins, then I become a selfie queen 👸🏼)

No way Wishy! How old is he? Sounds like how my late teens communicate?

wishy don't be naive.. you know what the next round of selfies would be, right?

@Kinunir Well yes that's what I was thinking, I'm not offended by such selfies I just find them really really boring!

@MargoLovebutter he's 31! And he was doing ok until that!

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