Dating Thread 136 - Can Anybody Find Me Somebody to Love?

[ValMc1]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

lol at your low standards kin !

wishy that's hilarious 're the fat penguin. I'd ask him if he has happy feet?

halfdutch vet Yes that profile just beggars belief doesn't it. There are a lot of very damaged people out there.

Haha @BendyLikeBeckham that's a brilliant response 😂

Pet hates with OLD?

Mine is when a guy will twist absolutely anything you're talking about to try and make some corny comment or sleazy line 🤢

Such a turn off

I do that all the time wishy

I like to call it flirting

Do you not get any pleasure at all from having something twisted every now and again wishy?

Well I suppose it depends on what's being twisted and who's doing it!
😏

I just feel like sometimes they ask a question with no intention of listening to the answer, then make some crap line up that makes me cringe and so I click "next"

Flirty banter I can deal with, but sleazy bullshit irritates the hell out of me

I have horses, one guy i was talking to asked about them like he was actually interested then came back with "bet they don't kiss you like I could" .... tbh mate they've probably more chance now jog on

Another commented about how hot the weather was etc and when I politely conversed about it he tried "bet you look so hot with sweat dripping off you though" ....oh stfu 🤦🏼‍♀️

wishy I totally get that. There is subtlety and innuendo, which is clever and funny, and there is outright sleaze from a stranger, which isn't welcome.

I only enjoy the sleaze when I've already met them

@BendyLikeBeckham

Oh yeah once I know someone that's totally different!

Those kind of messages just come over as creepy though

Think Mr EMAS is now ghosting me. No idea why! We've had a steady stream of banter going, good evening out which became dinner, after which he told me he fancied me & now deathly silence since 7pm last night. I know he hasn't dropped dead, because I can see him online on WhatsApp and Match!!!!!

Onwards, onwards.......

Margo . maybe he is busy? Give him a chance to get back to you or contact you. If nothing today, move on. Actually, get another date lined up with someone else.

Margo or he's trying to play it cool and make you wait for a response. Some people deliberately put gaps in to throw you.

Ok so my weekend date messaged me immediately to ask to see me again, but I've heard nothing since. This now means I'm actually more interested to see him again I had a really good time and we would probably be friends IRL but I definitely didn't fancy him. Would it be wrong to meet him for something to do at the weekend, or is that what these flaky guys do to us? Hang out because they're bored.

So Ive got a date on Thursday with a guy I was chatting to a long time ago. I decided to contact him because I liked him, but wasnt ready to date. I obviously am now and we have clicked again...

Looking forward to it, we actually know each other from 'back in the day' but as Ive lived away for 20odd years hadnt realised it until now.

Fingers crossed he'll be changing his name to Jack by the end of the night

I'm not a fan of the overly flirty banter before you've met them. You know it will just fall flat in real life!

I have a date this evening, just a drink at a local pub. He's been consistent in the messaging and good at organising it and confirming plans. I'm very very jaded but you just never know right. Got to be in it to win it!

@coolcahuna

Good luck! Hope it all goes well for you, you must report back and let us know!!

Enjoy your date tonight coolcahuna - hopefully, this one will be a good one.

Great news about Mr BackintheDay Jax.

I'll wait to see if this is some kind of weird 'back off' test from Mr EMAS. I hate that kind of shit. I'm not needy and only ever respond, almost never initiate messages. I feel irritated either if it is a test or he's ghosting. I shall put it down to lack of sleep from the heat!

Thankyou @wishy

I think he's fairly new to the dating scene so might not realise how lucky he is to meet someone normal yet. We will see, nothing to lose.
He's nice looking and has been 100% respectful in his messages so far :-).
I've had 2 offers of sex today on Tinder...one was a 'one-off' as he would be passing near me. Another one has given me his number if I'm naughty enough. He didn't even spell his offer correctly. Sigh!

only ever respond, almost never initiate messages

Male perspective here Margo: I obviously don't know the context with Mr EMAS but if I was a teenager I might see you as a challenge; at the age I'm at now, that may come across as being disinterested.

In my opinion, there is nothing needy about keeping a conversation going and having it be one-sided from time to time in terms of who messages who first, how many messages are sent without reply. You only need to be concerned if it becomes consistently imbalanced.

I'm always chatty in response Kin. I don't think I'm coming across as disinterested - although I could see why you might think that. The last message was from me asking him a question - an innocuous one not something that might make a man shudder with horror and run a mile!

@coolcahuna

Yeah I mean if they're going to offer they could at least spell it right?!

In that case Margo, as you were - a question that begs a response is a perfect way to leave it.

@wishy

Yes! Exactly! And it was like the third message and he swooped in with that gem. My profile clearer says I'm not after that kind of thing.

Wonder how many others have been offered the same thing today.

Also the phrase, I can pop by for a 'one'off'. Wow thanks :-)

Jaded lol

I get that from the guys all the time cool - it's a pain in the arse for sure.

@coolcahuna

Mine profile literally says if you call me hun/ babe/ sexy or want to tell me about your genitals then I'd rather watch paint dry so don't bother messaging. Also states that I'm not into casual hook ups but yet they still try 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️