Dating Thread 136 - Can Anybody Find Me Somebody to Love?

[ValMc1]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Spelling, poor English, text speak (though I do it), but mainly LACK OF EFFORT.

kin, I hope it's ok but I sent you my profile to see what you thought!

I suspect that the plethora of young men active on OLD atm is somewhat attributable to there being only tennis on TV rather than football...

Ride the wave, sisters!

What makes you not reply

Just had ‘Do you want to see my muscles?’

@HalfDutchGirl

Yes! This morning!

He actually looked ok, started with decent banter and a chat then he asked to see that! I thought he was joking so nervously laughed it off but turns out he was serious so I stopped answering his requests 😂🤷🏼‍♀️

Gah. The problem with all the under 40s in London is that they are all in flatshares. Either no privacy or completely unviable venue to meet there.

two Tinder bios that made me laugh

makes a change from men only listing their
height in their bio, or their snapchat name.

that's funny esk1mo !

I'll throw this in:

www.okcupid.com/profile/boredoftrying?cf=regular

bendy why cant you visit their flat? thats pretty normal where i live!

although my last two irons lived with parents so couldnt accommodate, which was annoying because its easier to leave someones house than have them hang around while you work up the courage to ask them to go away

Vet yes to the 7 hours! Sounds really promising! And not at all usual.
I'm still enjoying Mr Mafia. 4th date, I went to his house. Not DTD but near enough. Phone call every night. Apparently now 'seeing each other' not dating according to him. I'm still waiting for some terrible thing to be revealed as it just seems so nice. Only downsides are his accent, which most of the time I manage to forget and the fact that his previous two long term relationships seem to have been with girls ten years younger! Not exactly doing wonders for my body confidence.
Re. pics on OLD, I hate grumpy looking ones or selfies in the bathroom. Especially grumpy selfies. Agree about ones with kids. Really seems to be crossing a line. Don't mind group ones because I like seeing the type of people he hangs out with.

cant see that link bendy as i dont have an account

esk1mo set one up. It's worth it. Not for that profile but I've found it's the best one I've used so far.

Some have said "it's too awks", or "my flatmate is always around..."

I suspect they don't want their mates knowing they are dating someone old enough to be their mother!

well, I'm on nights 'again'
Still seeing Mr Beard, all going really well, I have to pinch myself at times and stop myself from being cynical and thinking its all too good to be true.
We have been dating for over a couple of months now and have had a little weekend away last weekend which was amazing.
I honestly feel like I'd marry him tomorrow if he asked 'ridiculous I know'
I just feel like I should absolutely know better and part of me wants to suggest we step back a bit because its full on and going very fast but he says its brilliant and I am the love of his life
He sends the most beautiful articulate messages. We get on so well its a very strange feeling after I was with the same person for the best part of 17 years to be like this with somebody I never new existed 5 months ago...

HalfDutch I can do better. I matched with a very hot looking young guy who had hidden his age. Turns out he's 25 and has no problem with the fact I'm 50. He just wants FWB and thinks I would be perfect. Tempting but 25 is too young for me.

That profile @BendyLikeBeckham!

I would love to hear his ex’s side of the story. He sounds like a complete nightmare in every single way.

Bendy most under 40’s here seem to live with there parents or house share, to begin with I wouldn’t date someone who lived with their parents but Mr Campervan lives with his mum, just means he has to come to mine if he wants to spend a night with me. A lot of single men can’t afford their own place even if they have a good job.

Mr Campervan is home later today but I won’t be seeing him until Thursday (which seems ages away), he does seem keen to see me which is good and I wouldn’t be surprised if he randomly turns up tonight. I’m trying to control my excitement but I can’t wait to see him.

What do you tell your over irons when you are dating someone else? I still have 5 other irons messaging me but I’m not really feeling it due to dating Mr Campervan but I don’t want to put all my eggs in one basket and he could suddenly vanish leaving me with no back up irons. I’m not on any of the sites at the moment as I can’t handle more irons.

lovemusic for now I would just cool it slightly with the others but keep them maintained, as it were. It will help you not to overinvest if you have backups on the go.

Bendy signed up to OK Cupid just to read that profile!! do you think he gets many takers??!! Loving your one Esk good to see there are some guys out there with a great sense of humour!

Runs yes you beat me!! I agree, I definitely draw the line at under 30, it's getting too close to the age of my son! However, was texting/sexting Mr Ohmy til gone midnight last night and I'm very tempted to meet up with him , he hasn't asked my age but knows I'm considerably older than him!

Lostlily it's great it's all going so well for you, long may it last.

Love, Yes, I totally agree with Bendy, I'd feel exactly the same as you but having the other irons around for now, if only in the background, gives you a bit of a cushion and stops the overinvestment.

Holy shit, that profile is something else Bendy. He should rename himself 'Egotistical Fantasist'.

Vet yes to the 7 hours! Sounds really promising! And not at all usual.

I'm hoping it is promising but to be fair it's been about 4 months now (albeit with a 6 week gap between dates 1 and 2 due to his back) and we must be on date 12 or something, I've lost count.

Seems like there's a few of you on here who are having success in the land of OLD!! Great news, gives the rest of us hope!!

Had a message this morning from a new guy just saying

"Fat penguin 🐧 "

I mean to be fair he does look a bit like one but 🤷🏼‍♀️

What makes you swipe left immediately without a second thought (apart from the big fish!)

Less hair on their head than me
More hair on their face than me
Smaller boobs than me

Am I shallow?

Lostlily - hurray, hurray, hurray!!!! Thank you for reporting back and given me hope.

I have so many immediate swipes no that it is hard to list them all!!
However, the ones that make me wonder why anyone would post a photo like that are:

Sweaty unclothed torsos and faces usually holding a beer can
A photo of a quote
A photo of them in the gym
A photo of them with a previous wife/girlfriend with their face scrubbed out
Up the nose / double chin selfies
Photos that are sideways on
Bad teeth
Photos of where they are never alone in the pics, so you are not entirely sure who is the actual person
Skanky looking backgrounds to selfies, so really messy bedrooms or grubby looking bathrooms or even living rooms

Kin Your last post has made my day!! Not shallow at all!!