Someone sent my husband naked pictures.

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I found naked pictures on my husbands email.
He says they are from a woman he had a fling with 2 years before we got together. And suddenly she has decided to send him pictures. He says he never asked for them and didn’t reply. Then he said he might have replied but can’t remember.

Does this sound likely? I can’t imagine thinking oh I haven’t seen so and so in ages I think I’ll send him a picture of my vagina see how it goes. 🤷‍♀️
Should I believe him? What should I do? He won’t tell me who it is he says he can’t remember her name.

Even if either of his stories are true, there is really no need to hold onto naked photos of an ex.

Sure there's no need to hold onto photos of an ex, but maybe he has favourite porn that he wouldn't want to lose . That's the best case scenario here though

I think it's past mattering what the ins and outs are, he's been shit regardless and has lied to you repeatedly.

I believe he’s just friends with his hooker but it’s the blatant lies that have done my head in I have a far better memory than him he ties himself in knots trying to cover it up. He’s gone he’s done this before but came back a few weeks later full of promises to cut contact but didn’t he just hid it better he’s not coming back this time it’s ridiculous the lengths he will go to for nothing I am not particularly jealous or suspicious he has other female friends who he is honest and open about but he won’t be the same with her ???

So he has basically kept the photos to use as porn. Okaaay. So he has no respect for you or the person in the photos (though frankly she's an idiot for sending them to him in the first place. In fact he probably has no respect for any woman - to him they're just a nameless fuckable hole.

What a creep OP. I'm sorry you're feeling so rubbish at the moment but you will move on from this. Well done for making the first steps to remove this weirdo from your life

How are things op has he come home

No. Iv found out an awful lot of stuff since the pictures. I feel like Iv been living with a stranger.
He has been so cruel.
He thinks everything is ok as long as he doesn’t have sex with these women.
He’s made a fool out of me. All the women he’s been sexting. Everytime someone smiles at me I’m wondering if she’s one of them. He can fuck off and be someone else’s problem. I would never disrespect him like this.
All men do this apparently it’s just a laugh. I don’t find it funny at all. I didn’t see those pictures and ah well boys will be boys. I’m disgusted.
Part of me wants to do the same to him. Smile at my phone and say wow that’s a big dick imagine riding that? Show him and see how he feels. See if he finds it funny. Prick.

Thank you to everyone who has replied.

Blimey, I can tell you OP, all boys don't do this and if he has said this then he really is just trying to normalize his bad behaviour. Neither do all girls send naked pictures to partnered men, it's just ridiculous. I am a married man who has never sought out this type of titillation and all of my friends would say the same (to the best of my knowledge)....so he must have sought it out himself or maybe he read it somewhere in a contact mag that it was a turn on....but he made a conscious decision that this was ok to behave like this.
Now you have to think smart and get the best you can out of this without harming yourself financially or emotionally through your dependents. Don't bother even contemplating his excuses, just work out the best way to get out, tell him very clearly its over and start planning the rest of your life (maybe go on a couple of dates through one of thise dating websites)....dont expect too much just enjoy and have some fun, atleast that's what I would do if my wife did this

All men definitely don’t do this.

Don’t stoop to his level pretending you’ve had dick pics OP, you’re more dignified than that!

You said you have no trust therefore no relationship anymore. Have you broken up now?

All men do not do this.

If someone sent me photos I'd tell DP in an 'eugh how weird' kind of way and delete them. I wouldn't keep them on my email and not tell my partner!

I once received sexual texts out the blue from someone i’d Slept with years ago. I showed my DP and said how gross it was and then blocked the ex.
The only way i’d be able to sort anything out with my partner if he’d done what yours had done would be to insist he shows me all the emails etc. If he’s deleted them then it would be game over instantly

Don’t bother lowering yourself op before all this drama one of dh mates sent me a dick pic while drunk I told dh and he wanted to knock him out. However if I mention it now because of everything that’s gone on he says he wouldn’t be bothered he trusts me and I should trust him lol. He has an answer for everything and try’s to twist it

Very similar happened to me OP.
He also properly cheated as well though.
With the women (yes plural) he was sexting with.
He's been with one of the OW for a year and half and has cheated on her numerous times.
They never change.
And they lie and minimise.
Well done on getting rid of him.
I'm so much better off now without a liar and cheat in my life!

He sounds revolting OP. You are doing great and I agree, you are better off without that turd of a "man".

How are u op?

Sorry to de rail this thread but I am having a wobble tonight dh left a week ago has been doing the horse etc he works nights tonight is his night off we would usually spent it together but he’s off getting pissed with his brother while I do pack lunches homework in my own ggrrr

Hey Alfiemoon, I am awake and listening. I wish I could say something to make you feel better. I am a number of months in since discovering my h’s escort habit and it has got a bit easier but in very baby steps. Not sure of your reasons for splitting but I can just offer an ear and tell you to be kind to yourself and to make sure you eat and drink (I know this is one of the things that goes by the wayside). I hope you are ok?

I hope you are okay OP xxxx

Hope u are ok op

Hey Op, how are you...? I hope you're ok. I'm going through something similar at the moment :(