Someone sent my husband naked pictures.

[Notsureibelieveyou]

I found naked pictures on my husbands email.
He says they are from a woman he had a fling with 2 years before we got together. And suddenly she has decided to send him pictures. He says he never asked for them and didn’t reply. Then he said he might have replied but can’t remember.

Does this sound likely? I can’t imagine thinking oh I haven’t seen so and so in ages I think I’ll send him a picture of my vagina see how it goes. 🤷‍♀️
Should I believe him? What should I do? He won’t tell me who it is he says he can’t remember her name.

Left until "you sort yourself out"? What a prize pillock.

You do know what to do. You need to end it with him. You know he's a shit.

Yes, its all very simple really. He has lied. You know he is lying, he knows he is lying and we know he is lying.

Dumped him yet?

His reaction is shitty.

Just end it And move on

His reaction is nasty. If it's nothing then why on earth isn't he reassuring you?!
I wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him.

He has left until you are brought back to heel. You are a bold dog.

It’s unlikely that you’ll get a reply. He’s probably text her to warn her you’ve found them (and she’s probably replied to him asking if hes got a new email!).

If you can, and I know it’s hard, try to go quiet about it for a short while so he thinks you have forgotten and trust him. He won’t let his guard down now whilst he knows you’re onto something.

Try to get a look through his phone if you can.

Does he have icloud? If you can figure out his password, you can log in on the desktop version and see photos/vids which have been saved to any devices that have icloud (I’m sure that they stay on there even if deleted from the device). If you do this, just be warned that it does send an email to notify that the account has been logged into.

Ultimately you may never know the truth. However, his attitude speaks volumes and sadly indicates not only a lack of respect towards you but frankly he doesn't seem to give a shit and appears to be gaslighting as opposed to reassuring and being open and honest. Do you really want to live with this type of behaviour? Leave before he can hurt you any further.

So sorry op where has he gone ? Maybe we can hold each other’s hand as my dh is moving out today as I won’t tow the line and put up with his lying to me over messaging a prostitue

The way he has dealt with this is enough for me to say LTB. Fuck the pictures OP. Forget about them. And him.

I’m here Alfiemoon. How can they lie like that? Iv uncovered more lies today. I can’t share as it will out me. Since this Iv questioned everything and all that’s happened is him tripping over his lies.
He’s forgotten what he told me first time round but I haven’t. Nothing adds up. Now we have no trust. Which means no relationship.

I’m so sorry he was messaging a prostitute. I’m sure he gave you a load of bull shit lies too. It begs belief that they think we are so gullible. I’m done. I can’t rebuild the trust and I’m not living like this.

Sorry this is happening to you 💐

OP. Lets hope he has an anal prolapse.

In all seriousness, I hope you can stick with your decision, being with someone you cannot trust and blatantly lies (then makes you feel guilty for it) is tortuous. There is a thread on here (Coatsprotectionleague I believe) which is fantastic for someone leaving their partner. Great strength.

Oh I am so sorry you are going through this. I hope you can move on from this. What a shit situation to be in. We are all here for you.

If someone I used to date started sending me nude photos out of the blue I'd inform the police. Why don't you tell your DH that you are going to do that? His reaction should be interesting.

If it was a spam email he would have showed you it before you found it, my DP and I both get those spam emails about ‘hot Russian girls waiting for you’ and we laugh between ourselves about it. He would certainly have just said it’s spam, don’t worry about it. The spam emails are very obviously spam, they’re not just literally photos with no text. You generally get heart emojis and some crock about ‘hot girls wanting to meet you’. If it was just a blank email with dirty pics that isn’t spam. Sounds like he has either paid to receive those photos off a cam girl or he is cheating. Sorry OP

After announcing he was moving to him mums today I have looked on his google search a hook up site and the best dating apps of the month asked him of course he knew nothing about them lol

Sooo the email address was his other email. He emailed the pictures to himself as he was getting rid of the old email address. Wtf?
So he was the one that received my email.
He emailed them too himself and looked at them. Made sure he had them as they are so fucking special. But he promises they are pictures from before me. And he’s still saying he doesn’t know who it is.
Funny I didn’t see any others from his ‘other email’
So it’s gone from he can’t help what she sends to he’s done it himself. That’s fucking worse.

Have you asked him to log in to that email? Or has he conveniently forgot the password?

Why would he want to keep a picture of his ex's vag? Something doesn't add up!

Jesus, he’s digging himself a mahoosive hole here

You really do deserve better and you know that. He's pathetic.

Too right mustard. How horrible. I feel sick and hurt and angry. And I still think there’s more to this. I’m just not getting why he would do this.

Alfiemoonof course he didn’t. They never do anything wrong do they? He will be saying it’s you next and you are crazy
One of my friends found condoms in the house and confronted her boyfriend he accused her said they were hers! Yes she bought condoms hid them in his wardrobe where he’s more likely to find them 🤦‍♀️

There is more OP. The likely story is she told him about the email you sent her, so hes thought of a way to use that to cover himself.

Even if either of his stories are true, there is really no need to hold onto naked photos of an ex.