Advice please! Apparently my DP is cheating

[OneBigHeadFuck]

I need some advice on how to handle this, I've gone out to my car tonight and there's been a note left on my car telling me my DP has been having a relationship with someone for over a year and lying to us both and he doesn't deserve to get away with it and I should know.

DP doesn't know about the note yet he's out watching the football I should be at work but I've changed my shift last minute now I'm sitting at home massively head fucked not knowing what to do next

Please anyone advice

Is the note anonymous?

Yes it doesn't have any names, dates or information just that he's been having a relationship with someone for over a year

Listen to your gut

Do you think it could be true?

I’d ask him about it when he comes home and watch his face.

Did you instinctively believe it?

Have you had any suspicions whatsoever ?

Sorry you must be in bits

Could be vindictive. Could be the wrong car.

Has he given you any reason to be suspicious?

Could you do a little digging while he’s out?

Did you have any suspicions before?
Do you have cctv so you can see who put it on?

That's shit for you, but do you believe the note, especially not knowing who wrote it?

Can you do some digging before he gets back? Check facebook, etc.

How long have you got before he gets back?

He's shady with his phone for example he knows my passwords I don't know his, doesn't leave it anywhere always by him but in the other hand how the fuck could he cheat for a year!!

I wouldn't ask him. First I would do some checking. It could well be mischief making but you never know.

It's was ment for me it has his name on saying how disgusting he is and not many people know where we live but both EXs do and both very hard work

Dont do or say anything just yet.

Gather information by watching and listening.

At the moment, you just have a note BUT you have the advantage of him not knowing that you know. Can you get access to his phone/laptop? Can you follow him?

has there been any indication of an affair? Any gut feelings? If none, you must be in complete shock. The note leaving is a really cruel and cowardly thing to do. Have you or DP fallen out with anyone recently? Could it simply be someone exacting some sort of misguided 'revenge'?

When would he have the time? Is it possible?

I would show it to him calmly when he returns and see what he says

I have no way of heckling anything but his phone he doesn't have social media, we share an iPad. He said he was coming home straight after the game but seems as I'm
Ment to be at work tonight I wouldn't know if he did come home when he says or not so my only plan at the minute is to sit and wait

Don't ask or show him. Take the time to suss it out first without warning him

Ohh OP this all must be very difficult for you!
No advice but offering a massive hand hold 💐

OP it’ll be true. You need to start gathering some proof I think as you know he’ll just talk his way out of it otherwise.

cross posted with this

He's shady with his phone for example he knows my passwords I don't know his, doesn't leave it anywhere always by him

Oh

I suppose it depends on if you really think he’d be capable of cheating on you? If you’ve got any suspicions maybe you could have a rummage through his draws etc whilst he’s out? Not a pleasing thing to do if he’s innocent but it could save you an argument and your dps feelings being crushed if the note is a lie or a case of mistaken identity?

I would ask to see his phone immediately..if he doesn't give it to you and reacts badly then trust your gut..