Dating Thread 135 - Will Harry Ever Meet Sally?

[Kinunir]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

For clarity, the 1 date I had was a different #superhotyoungguy than the one tonight. This is a first date.

I honestly cannot fathom why they are interested in a crumpled old crone like me, But Hey ho I'm going with it! I haven't been dating in 30 years so why bloody the hell not!

literary i have a real foot phobia. even your description made me gag. Good call.

@BendyLikeBeckham DONT LOOK AT THE PHOTO IM POSTING!! Think you have to click on it to actually see the offending body part though.

literary 😂😂😂🤢🤢🤢

Literary nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! Just retched at my desk. & needed. That is repulsive.

I do have fun in my profile, I am going to tweak it later I think. I havent had a dick pic for weeks, but this guy sent it yesterday - we had chatted for a while.

Im just pissed off and not quite 'feeling it' - probably hormonal.

Argh! That's bad

I finally got a reply to a message!! Was getting quite miffed about men matching with me then ignoring me. Made me wonder what other people put in their first messages and if mine were poor?

I usually show ibterest/ ask about an interest they've mentioned or something in a photo. This is on Bumble where you don't get much info.

literary omg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

also on his other foot he has a mole on one of his toes 😭

im proper laughing, he has no idea there’s a picture of his toe on an internet forum

@esk1mo I noticed the mole too. And he had knobbly knees. He didn't even reply as to why he'd ghosted me. But it's obviously because I don't have a foot fetish and didn' t want to send him PJ photos.

Literary I think I would have just send him the close up photo of his toes and blocked. That really is grim....

He is blocked!

Literary good, I must have missed that.

He started putting kisses on the messages. I'd been chatting to him less than 24hrs. It's off putting and over familiar. But I might be being cranky on that one.

Literary I would agree with that being off putting and over familiar too quick.

Can I ask everyone...are you signed up for just one site? Or several? I've only subscribed to one at the moment. Do the same folk crop up on them all?

I was on Bumble Tinder and Zoosk. Then I gave up Zoosk as I got too many random messages. I prefer matching first so Bumble and Tinder work for me

Cave I'm only on Tinder and POF and I don't see many people on both where I live. Way back when I was on Match, pretty well everyone I saw was on POF at the time.

ah ok. I feel like such a naive newbie , I've read the rules and re-read them as advised and it's the developing thick skin I need to work on. Lots of folk messaging to say the dont like internet dating..wonder why theyre on there then??

I'm not sure I'd say I particularly dislike OLD but it has it's foibles and unique challenges versus dating in real life.

In my case I have, or at least had, few other options due to being a single dad. Back in the day that was worse than leprosy in real life and particularly tricky when the kids were primary/pre-school age. Now, working from home and in a majorly male-dominated industry makes it tricky.

Even so, I'm 'good with women' face to face so had a couple of long relationships.

Online, there is way, way more choice but it's all about the photos and, while not ugly, I'm not classically handsome either so it's lots of messages for few replies (I get about a 60% response rate but I have friends who get less than one reply per hundred messages sent).

So, as I said, it's a different type of challenge.

In terms of weirdness, ghosting, intents, etc., etc. it's much the same as in real life, I just think people are more aware of the strangeness when they've met through a dating site.

I know we have to think of ourselves as the prize but do you ever wonder if you are really undateable!

I am just getting no where. I've had a look on match as a free member and it's the same old faces so I'm not sure I can justify paying for it.

I'm tired of dating without actually dating if that makes sense

I've paid for 2 lots of 3 months subscriptions and had dates with 4 people. Four. I've not even chatted with that many. It's ridiculous and a total waste of money. Although I did have a relationship with one of those 4. Pity he was abusive and I didn't realise until I'd given him 10 months of my life. But I had fun and holidays and don't particularly regret it. He got me over my fwb that I fell in love with. Everything happens for a reason

pink I know what you mean. I'm fed up with the same starter conversations over and over again, and I'm fed up with first dates that go nowhere. I've come to the conclusion that I just don't fancy many people.
Have you tried speed dating? That's supposed to be more fun?

I’ve been filing my toes (not manky ones!) in the OLD waters. I’m not enormously impressed so far.

I’ve been chatting to a few guys and have had two coffee dates (with men who seemed nice enough but I could not imagine wanting to kiss). I actually turned down 2 men for dates today because I just couldn’t face the disappointment.

I think I might just take up aikido or surfing or something that involves lots of men but isn’t actually directed towards dating. I’m thinking that the worst case scenario would be I learn how to do something I currently can’t do.

Dipping my toes. Not filing them.

That would be really weird. And presumably would account for my lack of success!