Dating Thread 135 - Will Harry Ever Meet Sally?

[Kinunir]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

In fairness Kin you did say that people without passion were husks!

Damn, I've been rumbled. No-one but me is demanding passion in people

I don't think it was just you. That's why I want to know what all these passions are! I'm a husk, so I need to know what other people get passionate about (apart from the obvious!).

My passions include 19th century Russian literature and watching men's road cycling. Don't think that will earn me any matches, in fact I'd be massively sceptical if any man said "oh yeah me too. After all as Turgenev says, we sit in in the mud and reach for the stars"

Margot my passion is live music - be it well known ones or the students at my college - ok I've seen some bad ones but I still get a tingly, excited feeling when I'm off to see them. The buzz after seeing a really great band lasts me for hours and sometimes days (Bruce Springsteen has had me buzzing for over 40 years now and still going strong) so yes I think that is my passion!

My passions are first and foremost music and gigs, then family history.

Nowt wrong with The Boss

Checking in!

Hooking onto the new thread.
Keep going guys and gals..... You never know what's around the corner 😉

I think the guy who ghosted me has a sixth sense, he just messaged me.

I'll be nice and message back but not holding on to any hope

I've been chatting to someone quite a lot over the past few days , but find myself totally preoccupied waiting for his messages...how on earth do you stop doingthat??? I'm turning into a total fool arent I? Ready for a fall probably.Please seasoned OLD's tell me how to incorporate OLD into my life without it actually taking over

Kin - phew - I got his sweat on me once - didn't wash for a while .... his signed photo was the first thing I put up when I moved in here so yep I'm passionate -he is probably the only man in this world who if he said to me- you bed now - I wouldn't hesitate lol chance would be a fine thing!

I'm waiting fior a call from someone who I matched with ages ago - it was a non starter as he is anti-smoking and I like the odd ciggie - however we have kept in touch and speak regularly - we get on well and I've an invite to visit him in Spain - he has a place there - interesting man.

Hello all - new to this thread, not new to OLD. But god I need some new sites! Any suggestions.....?
I’ve just deleted Once as the quality was terrible. Still on Hinge & Tinder (ha ha). Have been on PoF & eHarmony (never again). Found Bumble a bit tedious after the novelty wore off. The Guardian was a bit right on, which was a bit wearing.
So - any new ones out there??!

Good grief I don’t post for a day and suddenly there’s a new thread and loads to catch up on!!

Val that sounds promising - fingers crossed!

Cave I know that feeling all too well! I’ve learned through this thread and over the past couple of weeks that keeping the numbers up works!! I found that if I was talking to a few guys that I didn’t concentrate on just one. However, be prepared for it all to change in just a few days! This time last week I had four good ones on the go, then had two disastrous dates, one who’s now totally blanked me so just one (Mr Needy) left. Time to start all over again! Read the thread rules at the top - they help me! Also, don’t have any expectations!!! Good luck!

cave I completely agree with dutch having multiple conversations stops me thinking about one person. Also, watch Amy Young on YouTube. Her videos are really helpful.

Another vote for multiple irons here cave - you don't need to multi-date if that's not your thing but talking to multiple people certainly helps.

I'm passionate about books, reading, music, and the great outdoors. Maybe the word passion puts people off but basically what speaks to your soul? That's how I define passion: something that speaks to my soul, engages several senses, gets my heart racing or calms me down and comforts me in some way., Something I strongly identify with as a part of who I am.

The guy who messaged me with barely a gap yesterday has been silent all day. Maybe he's upset I didn't respond to the picture of his shorts clad legs (complete with revolting big toe nail that needs surgical removal) by "getting comfy in my pjs and virtually joining him" He did have his kids with him last night but can't remember how often he sees them. Not all that often really. But he might have been busy with work and them. Easy come, easy go though. He lives too far away really as is nearly 2 hours away but it was nice chatting to him (until the toe incident).

Would you ever really consider a 2 hour trip to meet someone from OLD literary? I've set my search limit to a paltry 15 miles!

@Kinunir I had my eharmony setting at the nearest possible which was 30 miles. I complained about lack of matches and was told that distance is too restrictive so increased it to the next level which is 60 miles. And I'm still hardly getting any matches but then I think the general consensus is that eHarmony is shite. I'm no longer expecting to actually date anyone from the site but it's quite nice to chat to people for an ego boost I guess.

Does anyone else keep reading “if you don’t look like your profile photos then you’re buying the drinks til you do” ??

Omg they are carbon copies some of these profiles....

Along with the half dozen "hey there :)" messages I get every day, I file those in a mental box labelled "spam accounts" hatty.

Hopefully you live in a less dense area Literary - near London 30 miles could mean 3 hours in the car!

cave always have multiple irons, makes it easier when one vanishes, keeps you busy and your options open. I was talking to 5 different people earlier at the same time, got a bit confusing.

It's really hard though isn't it? You get a bit of conversation then where to go from there? Do you be all bolshie and do the contacting? I actually got a date arranged for Next week but I feel it's kind of gone off the boil...bigger gaps between responses etc so I have an inkling it might not happen.

Yes it's quite sparse here compared to London. 3 hours would get me near to Scotland!

Mr Hills has now had 24hrs of no contact so he can sod off. Don't text me literally all day from waking up to going to sleep then go silent for 24hrs., That's not going to impress anyone. Next!