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Dating Thread 135 - Will Harry Ever Meet Sally?

999 replies

Kinunir · 21/06/2018 10:16

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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MinnieMul7 · 06/07/2018 07:59

Love makes sure that you pee before and after Blush this happens to me a lot and does help. If you are not better before Mr. Camper Van is back hold off with the sex until you are. I made this mistake before Christmas and ended up in hospital for a week!!!

Glad to hear that things are going well with Mr. C V, I agree with others and his time away with help and give clarity to what you both want. The guy I am dating from OLD (I just realised I never gave him a name), went away for three weeks a month in and I honestly never thought I would see him again, turns out he thought the same about me. It kept me less invested and when I did hear from him each day, including multiple flower deliveries I knew he was still interested.

DaffoDeffo · 06/07/2018 08:48

change don't give up. I'm a similar age and dating men a similar age and it's tough. Bloody tough. Sending you strength and love x

Lovemusic33 · 06/07/2018 08:49

Thank you Minnie it really is miserable, luckily I’m not working tonight so I’m spending the day drinking gallons of water in hope to flush it through. I don’t think I will be seeing Mr Campervan until the end of next week so hopefully I will be better by then. It has worked out quite well that he’s away for a week.

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Kinunir · 06/07/2018 09:05

Anyway, if you view someone you like the look of and they view you back but you don’t receive any messages from them, is this a sign you are not for them?

Maybe, maybe not.

In this situation I've not messaged back because it's too late at night and I'm tired, it's too early and the coffee hasn't kicked in or I otherwise am not inspired to write a message at that time. I may intend to go back and message later but... you know how it is.

Why not grab the bull by the horns and send a message yourself?

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MargoLovebutter · 06/07/2018 09:33

Daffo sorry to hear about Bloke 1, but onwards and upwards with Bloke 2.

Vet the slow burn sounds awesome. I like that too - they dying art of seduction!

change so sorry to hear your story but hopefully after a break you'll be ready to get back out there. I'm a similar age to you and there are plenty of men still out there - if that helps cheer you up.

Love if it doesn't feel better, don't leave it too long to go to GP and get ABs.

Jax so glad to hear you had a great date - fantastic news!

vixen exciting about Saturday - how many times have you seen him now?

As for me, I'm looking forward to meeting Mr EMAS on Sunday. We had a good telephone call and got some good banter going back & forth on WhatsApp. I hope I like him in the flesh! I've also got second date - dinner - in the diary with MrBlackCountry (of the sticky outy tummy) on Tuesday. Not entirely sure whether to go or not. I think I'll see how Sunday goes.

BendyLikeBeckham · 06/07/2018 10:25

lovemusic I second the water drinking and peeing after DTD. Get some concentrated cranberry extract tablets from the pharmacy or health food store today if you can, and take 6 tablets twice a day for 3 or 4 days. Usually sorts it out without horrible antibiotics.

And get him to shower first next time, and ensure there is no, ahem, cross contamination between orifices...even just a slight brush too low down can introduce bacteria higher up ifkwim

BendyLikeBeckham · 06/07/2018 10:41

changeoflife so sorry to hear about your experience. I've had that too, though not after such a long time. It's annoying. Don't let it rule you though. He has a problem and you are well rid. Don't forget thread rule#3.

Best cure is to get back on the horse. Literally! Get back out there and he will be forgotten by next week.

lookingforbutterflies · 06/07/2018 10:56

This thread moves so quickly! I can't keep up with posting but I do read everyday and find it refreshing to hear so many similar experiences and realise I'm not weird... well if I am, you all are too!

After zero irons for about 2 months, I got chatting to someone yesterday on POF and we made a bit of a spontaneous (not a word usually associated with me) decision to meet last night for a drink. I think it went well! He's 'my type on paper', f2f a little quiet to start with but soon warmed up. Not 100% I fancy him but I think I could?! I'll call him Mr Pool. He text last night and this morning, keen but messages aren't love bombs so all good.

After nearly 10 years single, please send me positivity!!!

BendyLikeBeckham · 06/07/2018 12:24

lookingforbutterflies All power to your elbow. Proactivity is key to success I find.

BendyLikeBeckham · 06/07/2018 12:34

Ugh, if I read one more profile that says "don't do drama" I'm going to explode. I don't want hassle, undue demands or complications from any relationship (term very loosely used), but the widespread perception that women make ridiculous emotional demands by creating "drama" just fucks me right off. These are the guys who ghost women, who just want a warm wet hole, and who dehumanise the whole interpersonal interaction process, aren't they? Why don't they just buy a sex doll? Oh yeah, that wouldn't stroke their ego enough. Knobends.

Rant over. As you were.

BendyLikeBeckham · 06/07/2018 12:36

btw someone needs to create a new thread soon....

Lovemusic33 · 06/07/2018 12:39

Trying to keep busy but it’s hard in this heat (and with a UTI), feeling a bit insecure. Mr Campervan has messaged today and told me he was out clubbing all night, I know I shouldn’t be bothered, we have not had the inclusive talk, he’s quite a flirtatious person so he’s probably up to alsorts, trying to focus on the fact that he bothered to message me (I didn’t message first) which has to be a good sign? I need to keep busy......

ValMc1 · 06/07/2018 13:03

Bendy Actually think that was a bit premature - think we have another page to go - can't remember - I've done it now.

ValMc1 · 06/07/2018 13:04

Love I think that is a very good sign - shows he is thinking about you.

BendyLikeBeckham · 06/07/2018 13:14

thanks Val it's at 966 now but it moves fast sometimes. Love the title!!!

dogzdinner · 06/07/2018 13:18

Sorry , not had time to catch up with all the messages, but good luck to all of you with dates this weekend!

I'm on the verge with giving up on Bumble. I find that even if I get someone who replies to messages, it soon transpires that there is something that makes us incompatible. On other sites you tend to get this info upfront (eg kids). It also gets depressing swiping through so many awful photos.

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