How do you feel about lap dance club/pole dancing stuff.........?

[niceglasses]

My dh works in a bit of a boyish industry - mobile phones - tends to be bit 'scummy'.

I'd say ohhhh 5 or 6 times now on a night out they have ended up at these lap dance/topless places. At least he doens't lie about it! He says they just want the extra drink. He doesn't get home till about 4/5 in the morning.

I have gently let it be known I don't like it - he says its harmless.

What do you wise lot think? I don't feel like I can 'ban' him but I do feel a bit put out.

mustrunmore, when you say 'even if he did, it would only be sex' are you saying you really wouldn't mine or do i have the wrong end of the stick?

yes www because many women choose to curtail their careers to give more time to their kids.

i havent read all this thread cos i can imagine what some of the posts will saybut i am comfortable with my unfashionable opinion that strippers are prostitutes and if my dp went anywhere near one of these whore houses then our relationship would be over.not that he would even consider doing something so disrespectful.

if i answer that post i'll be defying MNs rule of no personal attacks!

ooh sorry. I was only pulling your leg!
Taking the piss outta divastrop.
I'm sorry, you're my buddy. Xx
Will request it to be deleted.

XXxx

Oooh I knew this one would be contraversial.

I have no issue whatsoever with lapdancing clubs, in fact i went to one with dh and some friends for his birthday in January.

It was a real eye opener!

I do think that this 'women are being degraded' mentality is a bit OTT in this situation.

The men are the idiots imo for paying rediculous money for it!!

ok i have respect for you ,WWW,and ilovemyhubby....i am going to step away from the thread as i have just skim read it

ladyoftheflowers-i think pinktulips was refraining from answering my post

i dont know. she has not come back and is making me sweat i bet!
i didnt mean to upset her.

if that is the case.

Hia all, i know its a bit late in the day to be joining this thread but hey what the heck....
I would love to be a pole dancer.... god please let me lose another stone and somebody stop me...
I would love it..... and possibly my fellar would too...

Its not a life long ambition or anything im really happy in my job atm.... but comeon girls...whoo hoo
I can but dream.

niceglasses (you still there?? ), I hope you find it reassuring
that the 3 blokes who posted on this thread all think of strip joints as one big rip-off!

Seriously, I doubt your partner would go there if it were not for corporate shmoozing.

Icingonthecake; no, I wouldnt mind, as long as he'd told me where he was going first, so he didnt turn it into a secret (that would imply a prob in our relationship, which really isnt there, so I know he wouldnt do it).

What an intriguing thread! I am sure lots of popcorn has been scoffed
but I have nearly run out of Haribo.
ipanema, skida, I might not agree with everything you say but good on
ya for standing your ground.
www, thanks for the article, I am a bit curious myself where this race to
the bottom (pardon the pun) will lead. To the top shelf, for one thing.

Sorry to be a stickler but let me repeat my point:

There is a lot of criticism levelled at the 'supply' side, at strippers etc.

But what do you propose should be done with the demand?

How can people who use the sex industry to satisfy their needs be re-educated, 'cured' even?
This is no chicken and egg: the demand has always been there in every society, at every
point in mankind's history (big statement but what the heck)

If you are looking for a place where your 'vision for a better world' is (nominally) realised
through drastic supply side action, look no further than Saudi-Arabia.
No porn, no lads mags, no prostitution, severly restricted access to the web, no clubs, no bars.

Where would you rather live and see your daugthers (and sons) grow up: Denmark/Sweden/Germany or Saudi Arabia?

not you LotF!

diva strop!

pmsl, i know your only joking babe!

thank feck for that!

Absloutley. Maybe we should all be given an antihormone injection of some kind at birth,to curb all sexual desires. problem solved.

Oh. Was hoping for a big bitch fight

hey MRM, how's the craic?

sorry for scaring you LotF, i posted before i saw your post and presumed you'd know i knew you were joking

Maybe I posted because I couldn't pinpoint why I was upset by this. A point made by Madamez I think.

Its boringly 'in the middle' but I think I am slightly put of because I think it is a sign of how far this acceptance of porn/titilation has gone and I wonder about the way society in a wider scale is going. Thats one part. The other half is the women. It seems to be the consensus they are not exploited but we don't know that for sure.

On a personal level, I don't have so many issues, so I guess its the wider things that are colouring my view. I trust him, and hell if my trust is misplaced, I'll just have to deal with it.

Interesting stuff. Where is Monkeytrousers tho????

Lostpuppy,
Lots of people work in the arms trade. Small and large arms simply designed to kill people. With landmines mostly children and the old are maimed! How clever of those in the arms trade!! Within the arms trade there is a lot of equipment used in torture all over the world. Lots and lots of people and countries including ours make loads of money out of arms.
Nestle makes loads of money out of selling infant formula into the developing world. I think that is indefensible. What are your moral boundaries? Do you draw the line only at legality? It's a moral question? Or are moral questions OTT or out of date for some reason?!!
I don't blame the women who work in sex industries and I'm sure that it is often a shrewd and safe choice.
But the sexual objectification of women does influence the whole of society, therefore it is worth discussing and hearing everyone's point of view.
I can't believe people who would be proud of their children choosing to be strippers. That seems to be putting free choice above all sorts of other things, like not wishing your daughter to be a sex object??

'interesting' is the word.

dh had the 'opportunity' to go a lap dance club with a works related thing. I told him if he did he'd better take a blanket for the car.

Thankfully, he never seriously considered it.

'That seems to be putting free choice above all sorts of other things, like not wishing your daughter to be a sex object??'

yes.

without free will we are nothing, we might as well not exist. so yes, whether my daughter is a stripper or a brain surgeon i will be equally as proud of her.