Split up, but I am gutted. Please prop me up.

[charliecat]

Been miserable for a long long time, split with dp a couple/few days ago, dont know, time merging into itself.
Feel a weight has been lifted, know its best all round, but am gutted inside.
He was the bloke for me, and there wont be another, but it seriusly wasnt working, and wouldnt so theres no but ifs.
Wish i could fast forward 6 months, but cant.
Sympathy please.

oh cc didn't know so sorry : (

are you sure you can't make it work at all

Lots of sympathy here.
I read your earlier thread yesterday before I knew it was you

Lots of sympathy here.
I read your earlier thread yesterday before I knew it was you

it feels bad now but you know it will get much much better. You need to grieve for what you have lost and it will take time, but you will emerge a lot stronger than before.

there will be another you just need to give it time

No it just deterioates into same old shit
Thanks SEA.

uuummmm....hope it helps, I know hugs aren't de riguer on MN but...

Oh sorry, lots more posts.
God, cant stop crying.

I'll even extend myself to give you a little(hug) too.

It will get better. You know it is the right decision.

Is there a time span, oh theres not is there. Just times a healer...sigh....absoultly gutted But couldnt go on living like that.

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He hasnt left yet, so at some point in the next hour he will walk in the door.
Devestating.
Am just starting a business so have been busy but have been so efficient have nothing left to do now
I guess I could go and make something to eat.....poor kids are enjoying, mum cant be arsed it nuggetts again tonight meals

you know that feeling that a weight has been lifted? well concentrate on how that feels I bet that is much better than how things were. we are all different, it takes us all differing amounts of time to heal again but you will

i lived with my ex for 6 weeks after we "split" was soul destroying, I felt much better after he left for good

Thanks you guys, sobbing less now, going to go up the shop and get some cake mix. Kids milking this one big time Im vunerable lol

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Oh charliecat, I am so sorry to read this.

You will go through a period of grief, nothing you can do about it. Try and see it as a long journey where you have to walk even though your feet are sore and you are tired and sad. Just keep plonking your feet one in front of the other and think about the miles you've already covered. You will reach your destination.

xxxxxxxxxxx

Oh charliecat, I'm so sorry you're going through this.
Even when you feel sure it is the right thing to do, it doesn't make the separation process any easier, I know.

Is there no way you two can work things out? Sorry, don't know the history to your problems.

It is hard, but it does get that little bit easier as each day passes.
Take care.x

CC - the way I am feeling today (two weeks on) - is sooooooooooo different to how I was when I first knew.

Still have frantic why why why times but looking forwards... if its broke - you can not fix it sometimes.

Hugs - I feel sad, I have sobbed my way through most of the last few weeks, but life goes on,and I comfort myself there is (and i dont mean this in a fucked up way) always something worse that can happen

Oh Thank you so much,
and yes something worse could happen, much worse, this isnt too bad, and it IS bad for the kids to see constant negativity and seeing thier parents together but hating every moment of each others company.
And it cant be fixed, its very broke, I think its too late.
Too much damage has been done. Would love to wipe the slate clean but I have a memory like an elephant and cant forget.
My legs do feel heavy anorak, sometimes I feel like falling in a heap on the floor, but you cant can you, the nuggetts need reheated
I havent lost my sense of humour, and can still laugh at myself so thats good.

CC - you ok thi morning?

Yes thank you U? I seem to be ok in the mornings, busy gets kids ready, its as the day grows I get miserable. Normal?

Ive just stumbled across your thread, will read is when I get back from the school run.
Bastard

charliecat just to let you know you're not alone and I too, just hope that time will heal. The best thing is that we have our children and they will give us all the love and happiness we need right now.
No good advice I'm afraid but just to let you know I'm thinking of you

"nuggets need reheating" LOL

You are allowed to collapse in a wallowing heap of misery now and again. It's all part of the healing process. You can do it when the kids are not around - book yourself 15 mins a day for a mini breakdown.(strange how you can decide when it's going to be if you try), get a bit of a cry out of your system - it really helps. Then get back up and keep walking, girl. After a while you forget to schedule in the little breakdowns, honest!