Husband and prostitute

[MrsGaslighted]

I've been with my perfect husband 25 years. Really wish I'd seen mumsnet 8 months ago, before I saw the text on his phone arranging an appointment with a hooker, and had not shown my hand. I confronted him straight away and was told he was never going to go through with it. I now know about 'the script'
I have done a hell of a lot of digging since but he has outright denied everything. I have so much circumstantial evidence but can't prove a bloody thing and I think I am going mad!!

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I be totally honest. I'm fucked. We all went for the dinner which included wine I had way more wine than I My friend said he's not been on the tracker all
Day. I don't think he will do anything tonight. He's in the house with the kids. I don't Shit I'm drunk

Ok I'm fucked and that made no sense to me
!! Good night all
Xx

My exH was heavily into lap dancing clubs and online pornography - he wasn't a man of many words at home, no chit chat or interest shown in me - however, when I went to bed (earlier than him) his eyes would light up and he'd say that he'd come with me. After no communication between us and him on the computer with his pornography, I let him that I wasn't interested.

After a few years of treating me this way and him having a brief affair, I'd had enough and decided I wanted a divorce. He was furious and fought me all the way!

I used to check through his things to see what his solicitor was recommending to him. One morning I checked his wallet when he was in the shower and found condoms and a card for two girls who were prostitutes! Even going through our divorce he couldn't keep his cock to himself!!!!

Plastered at 8:30.
You go girl.
You deserve it.

I cant even begin to explain how I am.

The extent they go to to cover their lies, i have no words

It's horrible. I think I have sobered up enough to type. What's going on with you xbeex, the same as me I guess. Not wanting to think it could be true. It knowing it probably is

Bastards.

Actually I'm still wrecked. I should go to bed. Have to get up at 7!!

I went insane searching finding out discovering, it's time I focussed on me.

Honestly the things I could say would fill a book. I'd we'd need several more bottles of wine :)

Battle down the hatches lady your in for a rough ride, but remember.. you're a warrior not a worrier. You got this

Xxxxx

OP I hope you are feeling good k this morning.
Keep going.
Keep strong.

You have too xbeex

Hells bells - OMG I am so ill, I don't even remember posting that stuff! I think it was the first time in ages I've relaxed. Got a bit too relaxed!
This is going to be a long bloody day.

Good for you, MrsG, I am glad you went out and for the first time in a long time relaxed. Today will be a long one but lots of water and hopefully you will feel better.
It is massively important to focus on you or you will spiral downwards (I ended up on anti depressants for a few months). That said, it is ard to switch your brain from obsessing with knowing everything to actually living in the moment. Take care.

You probably needed that blow out session, you've been under immense strain the last while.

Hangover sucks though.

Thanks both. Yes it was nice to just drink and laugh for a change. Paying for it now though! I've just eaten every carb I could lay my hands on at the buffet lunch. God knows how I'm going to stay awake for the afternoon. My friends been watching the tracker. Nothing so far.
I know I'm going to finish it but I want to catch him so much. Can't believe I am saying I want my husband to go to a hooker!!
Oh well back to the hot conference room.

He's obviously playing it very safe! Does he know about the tracker on his phone?

Hope you managed to stay awake 🤣

Jules. I think he must know it's there but forgotten about it. I am trying to act like it's all blown over and it was in my head.
I came home and wen for bed. Best sleep I have ever had!!
I know I probably won't catch him, but it's over. The man I loved doesn't exist.

Good luck with pretending it's all blown over, it's hard to do but, in order to get through this and get the outcome you want, just do your best and keep us posted please x

I will keep you posted jules. My plan is to watch and wait. If nothing comes of it then I will get his mums holiday over and then I'm done.

MrsG, you are awesome! I only wish I had been as driven as you are, I gave in to h so many times before I was as determined as you are now ( he STILL pleads with me now) x

Thanks newer. You've been a big support to me. It really helps to speak with others who have been through this shit.
I don't feel awesome though! I feel like an idiot that I didn't just keep quiet and watch when I first found out. I could have saved myself months of hell. Wish I'd been on mumsnet then!

Hi MrsGaslighted - how are you managing to cope with this situation and pretend on a day to day basis? I admire how you cope. Hope your able to do some fun things in your day to day life to help you through.
I'm off to a children's nearly new sale!!!

Hi Mary. I'm doing ok thanks for asking. I'm getting my house finished and buying all the stuff that I won't be able to afford on my own. I'm going out with friends and trying to build up more of a life for me.
It sounds weird but this pre break up planning is helping me to come to terms with it while I am still living it!

I'm still sad, sometimes angry to the point I could explode, and occasionally want to pretend it didn't happen, but I'll get there.

Rooting for you op.

It's been a while but I caught him tonight. I had almost accepted I was insane.
The car tracker put him 2 roads from her house. Find my iPhone put him right in her fucking house. I drove there and was waiting when he came out.
I couldn't even speak to him and am at my friends.
What the fuck do I do next? I knew this would come but I don't know how to handle it. I'm am fucking heartbroken

I hope someone reads this. I am just fucked in a heap. My whole life has just gone. I really fucking hate him and what he has done