Dating Thread 134 - 50 Swipes of Tinder

[RunsforCake14]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

I don't think there's anything to be overinvested IN yet margo! Literally just a few days of message swapping. I guess it's due to my childhood; if you held hands with a boy, you were a couple in everyone's eyes and that was that! 'Dating' was something americans did. I just feel like I'm being a bit sneaky chatting to both with romantic intent - because that IS why we're all on dating sites! I will perhaps get over it and learn to play the field more

Don't know whether to suggest a meet with charming Old Chatty. I should give him a chance maybe, our personalities seem compatible at this point. He contacted me first, messaged each other consistently with funny smalltalk for a few days...is it my turn to demonstrate reciprocal interest by asking?

Mr Young Shy uses too many emojis . I'd like to meet him but I'm feeling with this one he needs more time yet hehe

Third, sorry to hear about your Dad. You must have a lot going on at the moment. Like the sound of your approach to dates though.

esk1mo that would make me a bit uncomfortable too. I think you are wise to keep an eye on him.

Runs - hurrah for the buses! Hope you find one you like.

esk1mo that would freak me out also. Does he know where you live? Could he have moved jobs?? Its a bit wierd, definately keep a big eye out. I'd be tempted to unblock him to tell him to fuck off again, but maybe that would inflame things. Do you know the management at the gym? Maybe you can have a word with them?

I am taking myself out the dating game for a while. I have ex (now not ex) FWB to fulfil my "needs" physically. I have too much other stuff going on in my life to put energy into dating and I am bored at getting to the chatting phase, then not meeting up. i had so many fizzle out at that point (usually because they are an hour away and neither want to drive/ make the effort). I intedn to enjoy the summer, go out partying more and spend time with friends and family. I want to play the field but not get played ;)

I will pop in from time to time, good luck everyone :) :) :)

pudding yes he’s been to my house quite a few times, but i luckily live top floor so he cant creep outside my window at least.

i was being courteous at gym the first few times so i know hes still at his new job an hour away. i just ignore him now, dont look at him, dont acknowledge him, but he still came over to tap my shoulder when i had big headphones on.

i know the PTs but not management. ive told one PT (who i call “dad” as a joke) and he agreed its very weird, i think he’ll keep an eye out. if he speaks to me again ill just say “sorry cant chat, in a hurry” and hope he takes the hint.

LOL @ unblocking and telling to fuck off ill try that if my “soz busy” doesnt work.

Well Mr PhewGorgeous is still texting and sending scrummy photos - we're going to chat on the phone this week - I really can't wait for the punchline - I wonder how much he needs for his airfare lol He really has to be too good to be true - although he has sent me a photo of his passport - watch this space!

Wow, there's loads going on!!

I am meeting Mr American for coffee on Wednesday. He messages quite a lot, but not too much. Loads in common. He's not pushy (no kisses ever on messages, which I like). I'm looking forward to meeting him. I'm worried he might be a potential love bomber, but I think I'm just super cautious now.

Fingers crossed with mr phewgorgeous and mr american ladies!

Thanks all for well wishes on bloke with a full on wishlist. I can only think he'd been drinking heavily to think having a cold drink and chat for short date meant a few hours later he would jump into full on relationship. Nuts!

No contact from him, but just had a message from Mr Cute. He's nicer than the last dates, but I think no longterm potential.

esk1mo definitely report to PTs you know and ask them for support.

Pudding I'm wondering about changing and going for FWB instead of BF. I have an ExBF keen to be FWB and Mr Cute may be angling for that too. It's not what I set out to do and I'm really stubborn so not sure yet. Good luck with fab summer!

Tom sounds like you are prepared, so if he does lovebomb you can get out quickly.

Val how long will you string him along - has he asked for money outright yet?

Naynay you don't owe anyone a date, but if it could be nice even on the getting out and friendly chat way, why not see Mr Chatty?

Choc I'm getting bored - I've had 112 messages since 5 tonight and a phone call from him - he reckons he's from Malta but been in the USA for 10! Years - his photo is Caucasian but accent definitely not - reckons he's done a 320k deal today - he reckons he's got a pool but can't send me a photo tonight - might do a video call this week on the spur of the moment - he says he's coming to see me next week - no money asked for yet - but the photos are so good!

Val have you seen Catfish? Be very wary here, this sounds like it could be a classic case.

112 messages since 5? Something not right there lol

Val that's crazy messaging!

I've had no matches in the last couple of days at all on eharmony. Nothing. Nada. Zip. I've emailed them about it. They said expand my distance from 30 miles as mr right might live 31 miles away but wouldn't show up unless I expanded to 60 miles. Still nothing. I've changed my age parameters too. It's a joke. Did I say this already?? Not sure if had this conversation with you or was going to Am cracking up.

Literary I have exactly the same problem with eharmony - nothing at all!! I’ve emailed them about it too!! Changed my parameters and they say your area may be too big and when I change them back they suggest expanding them!! Worse than useless site!

Val part of me wants you to keep this going to see when and what he asks for, but you have to put your safety first and this is dodgy so definitely don't give clues to where you live / work.

Literary and dutch I won't bother with that site - good to know it's a poor one so thanks for sharing on here.

I'm on pof and I have:

Mr ginger beard - our childfree times together may be low, not sure I want a whole pack of DCs running about me regularly (younger DCs than mine)

Mr German - hasn't had a serious relationship for over 5 years, seems to be a workaholic.

Mr Big teeth - I'm hoping this is just when he smiles for photos. They aren't just shiny white, they are massive. He seems lovely through messages so think we should meet.

Ha! After staying that they sent me 20 matches. None of which I found remotely attractive on looks. I hate beards, I don't like bald men, place value on having good teeth, good spelling and grammar, and the ability to write a decent profile. So yet another load of duds it seems
The ones that I think hmmm maybe on looks get their profile read but then that tends to write them off anyway. It's appalling.
I only look now out of curiosity and boredom. I'm not expecting to get any decent matches.
I don't want to join any other sites, especially if they are paid ones, and your experiences as described here don't put them in a good light.

I'm looking for a LTR possibly marriage eventually so am very picky and particular and won't waste my time on matches that don't have much in common with me.

Maybe someday I'll just meet someone whilst out and about. Who knows.

Val that all sounds very dodgy, be careful! But like Choc I want to see what happens next!

I have another iron, Mr Doctor. He seems lovely, left me a WhatsApp voice message (lovely accent!) and we are hoping to meet up soon.

So I now have two dates lined up. I don't have a problem with that, but how do you choose? Both seem really nice, but so different.

No I haven't seen Catfish - don't worry - he knows nothing whatsoever about me - I'll try an unexpected video call later in the week and see who's at the other end lol

val catfish is a good show - MTV is the channel.

Im intrigued to find out what happens next with you and your 112 message guy...

Im a huge fan of Catfish. I watched a load this weekend, the best moments ones.

I can't get over some of these people like speaking to someone for 3 years and never meeting them! F**k that 🤣😂

Well all - my romance is a dead fish - popped his photo in google image and up popped Steven Niece and romance scams - google it - he he is gorgeous - now do I just block or tell him where to go? It seems some poor people have actually sent money.

I'll catch up with catfish - sounds interesting

I took the plunge and finally joined POF, match.com has been dead for me for over a month so definately needed to try somewhere else.....

Has anybody met anyone nice on POF? the amount of fake profiles I have come across has been staggering - funny pulling them all up on it though.

I hid my profile after 24 hours because it was just bonkers. Hard to not be jaded when you have come across so many weirdos, cheats and liars online!

ValMc You can report a profile as a scammer I think you can click on a profile and report/block user and go through the reasons why:-)

Got to love Google reverse images

vixen - he has already deleted his Bumble profile but I'll check out your suggestion - it was fun while it lasted lol