Dating Thread 134 - 50 Swipes of Tinder

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Vixen I have met a few nice people on POF. All are just friends, but we speak occasionally. Apart from them I didn't meet anyone I wanted to meet up with and date. One of them I wanted more from, but he wasn't ready for a relationship. The others are really nice I simply don't fancy them.

I'm enjoying OKC, and if you take out all of those in open relationships, there are some good ones. Again it's a case of sifting through. My two irons are both from OKC, and seem fairly normal!

I have met a few nice men from POF - just no one who I clicked with. Tinder has been very busy for me in the last few days, and having some nice chats with a couple - thankfully not as many as 112 in 4 hours - wouldn't have time to sleep!

I mainly use pof, tried Elite Singles, OkC and Bumble.

I'll probably go back on Bumble soon as I don't think the men I'm writing to on pof will be right for me.

I really liked a profile on pof, same age and similar work, but he didn't reply to my message so probably off with women 10 years younger. Good to try though.

I don't want someone highly needy (needing therapy) nor a cold fish (telling me I'm needy). I don't mind tattoos, bald, beards etc. but regular fun personality would be great.

Val catfishing is what you've just experienced. It's creating a fake (usually extremely good-looking) online persona to lure people in. It was my immediate thought when you first posted, hence mentioning it. Unfortunately if they seem too good/improbably gorgeous to be true then they likely are.

Phew just caught up! Loads going on here! Not for me alas. I am on Bumble, OKC, Tinder, Match, POF and newly Happn which might be a bit stalkery.. I only use OKC and Tinder really. I'm having a dry patch tbh and might hold out for MrGAF6W (Gone Away For 6 Weeks)

Literary You sound just like me with the things you look for in a buy - oh yes, nice teeth is a must!!

How do you use Google reverse image search? There's one guy I'm talking to who I'm on the fence as to whether he's the real deal of not!

Catfish is such a great show but it never ceases to amaze me that some of these people are seriously considering marrying someone they never even spoken to, let alone met!!

Vet think he might read MN - not heard from him today lol 😂

Half I copied a photo onto my pc - googled google image reverse and uploaded the photo to it and it took me to a dating scan site - dead easy

I had a look at OKC but came over all stupid and couldn't quite understand how it worked.

Do they match you in some way? I got really confused by it. Could someone give me the very small brained persons' guide?

Poor old actual Stephen Niese - what if he ever wants to try OLD? No one will touch him with a bargepole

success! I said I'd buy something (only a little thing) from Young Shy as we have similar interests and he was selling a thing. I think it's the ideal low-pressure way to meet for the first time. i buy the thing, if we like, we carry on, if we don't, that's it. No awkward 'date'. (I met him through shared interest not OLD hence the strange approach). He readily agreed to it so that's cool.

Charming Old Chatty offered up his phone number without any prompting, I left it overnight then texted. I think I will go on a date with him...you never know! I kinda think there must be a catch with him, to be single at his age despite seeming very sorted and sane...but I dont want my cynicism to ruin my life ;)

Also a bit ticked off with men WAY over my age limit (like 20, even 30 yrs older than me) not only contacting me but then being persistent when I clearly spell out that they are too old - what gives them that arrogance/hope?

Nayna I'm quite tempted to contact Stephen Niese to say how about it? lol

Spoke too soon - just have had 4 messages - I am so tempted to try a reverse scam - ask him for money and see his reaction.

Val That really made me laugh! That sounds a great plan! Thanks for the heads up on reverse photo search, should have figure that one out myself!!

NayNay I have the opposite problem the number of guys way way younger than my age range that contact me is ridiculous!!

Oh Val, could you say you think he's the one, you're just short of 2K could he lend it to you and you'll fly to meet him. Then add you're in need of new clothes and a friend, Bob, wants to join you if that's ok?

Choc both you and I are on the same wavelength - I was going to tell him that I cannot stand the cold weather here, and I want a dip in his pool - just send me the airfare and I'll be there. Or I could tell him I've just had a big win on the lottery and have no idea what to do with it all - that should get him going!

Please can you post screenshots of the exchange Val - im just off to grab some popcorn! 🤣😂

So ladies - how long do you wait for a guy to suggest a date? Is it ok for you to say - do you fancy meeting up for a drink or should you always wait for him to ask you? I could be waiting forever at this rate with the latest one I've been speaking to.

Vixen I've lost energy with dating, waiting for them to suggest. The three I'm writing to seem laid back so all may drift.

I'm more interested in Val's hot young stud rolling in money. Can he sub me a few hundred?

Vixen, I always wait. I wait for everything though. I don't initiate any contact, I don't initiate any dates - I wait for them to do the running. It is possible I miss out that way, but I also don't ever get rebuffed. Not sure it is the right way, but I always think if a bloke is keen, you'll know about it.

It’s date #2 with Mr Doctor tonight. We’ve been chatting every day since date #1 nearly two weeks ago (he’s been away) and he seems really keen on me and has been sending some very sweet messages. I’m a bag of nerves!

So exciting LeChat. I always think 2nd dates are way more nerve-wracking than 1st ones. Fingers crossed it goes well.

I’m inclined to agree. Now I feel there’s an expectation that I have to live up to but actually feel I’m going to be a big disappointment

Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! You can't go on a date with that in your mind. Remember the rules - you are a prize!!!!!! Seriously, give yourself a massive talking to and don't think for one teeny, tiny moment you are anything less than that.

It a bit long

Albert‬: Am awake
Albert‬: How are you
Albert‬: ‬: And guess you are still at work
Val: Oh Albert I thought you had gone off me as I saw you were on WhatsApp this morning and didn’t contact me - I’m so relieved to hear from you - so much so that I’ve decided to fly over to you this weekend - hope that is ok x
Albert‬: ‬: My whatsaap application is always on 24hours
Albert‬: ‬: This is the medium I use to reach business partners incase of any contact
Albert‬: ‬: Most I sleep off it's on
Albert‬: ‬: When I get notify I manage to reply
Albert‬: ‬: Even if it's late
Albert‬: ‬: Am in close to the location where am going to take estimate
Albert‬: ‬: I left the house by 7:15
‎ Albert‬: ‬: ‎ - Steve Niese photo
Albert‬: ‬: How are you doing ?
Albert‬: ‬: Guess still at work
Val: I’m flying to see you at the weekend so very happy
Albert‬: ‬: You mean you coming to the state ?
Albert‬: ‬: Are you serious
Albert‬: ‬: ?
Albert‬: ‬: Please don't joke with me are you serious
Albert‬: ‬: You really coming this weekend ?
Albert‬: ‬: Hello
Albert‬: ‬: Val
Albert‬: Common talk to me
Albert‬: Are you sure you coming or just kidding me ?
Val: Yes I can come - I just need the airfare please
Albert‬: Send me your details
Albert‬: I will book a flight for you then
Albert‬: If you serious
Val: What details do you need?
Albert‬: Your name details
Albert‬: About your location
Albert‬: But just send me your name
Albert‬: You will have to wait for me to finish the project before you can come
Albert‬: But I can book the ticket for next week when am done with what am doing
Albert‬: Do you prefer that
Albert‬:?
Albert‬: Cos am going to be busy this week
Albert‬: You know am on with a contract
Val: That’s ok I’ll wait at your house for you to get back from work, use your pool and have dinner waiting for you
Albert: Hahahahahahahaha
Albert: Hahahahahaha
Albert: You funny

Think the penny might have dropped lol

I think Albert could well be Amare and may be in a group working together.

You forgot to ask for new clothas and my money!

You’re right Margo, I am the prize thanks for the kick up the arse.

Val