Dating Thread 134 - 50 Swipes of Tinder

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Can I join you all. I've been a lurker of this thread for a long time and i've picked up heaps of knowledge from you all so for that thank you.

I'm dipping my toe back into old for the first time in 3 years. Hoping to not repeat the mistakes I did last time.

Meeting Mr Doctor later this afternoon. We agreed time and place yesterday. I've not heard from him today so I'm convinced I've been ghosted (this happened to me before). Should I be concerned, or should I just chill out and go as planned? I don't want to text to confirm as it makes me look needy!!

Tom what time are you meeting him? I would message if I were me but I've not been ghosted yet! How faraway is the date?

Thanks all of you who've flagged up Mr Rugby as a potential love bomber - have to admit that hadn't crossed my mind (how naive am I?!) so will definitely proceed with caution... he was supposed to be coming to see me last night after a late shift (finishing at 1am ish with over an hour's drive which did strike me as a bit crackers) but then didn't as (understandably) was too knackered... messaged me at about 4am this morning to say he wished he was with me, and that he's seeing his kids 2-5pm today and could he come and see me after that... so we'll see how that pans out! My DC are with their dad until tomorrow morning so I'm for tonight if he does want to see me... will update later!
Mr Screwed Up is still overseas and read a WhatsApp msg I sent him on Thurs night wishing him a safe flight - he read it as soon as I sent to (damn those blue ticks!) but didn't reply...

Val we are meeting at 4. It's about 45 mins for me by tube. I don't know what to say without appearing paranoid!

Tom - I would just message and say, are we definately still on for today? I dont think that is needy. I would do the same with my friends and always do it on the morning of a date ✌ x

vixen and val I did it! And we're on. Eeek!! He's younger than me and very cute. Now I'm nervous!

Tom that's a fair distance if he doesn't show - how about a quick message just saying see you at 4 and looking forward to it.

Tom just seen your update - really hope it goes well - a little bit of nerves is fine - enjoy it.

All good here Barm - currently enjoying the beginning of 3 months of gardening leave as I go from one job to another :)

Afternoon. Sorry it's taken so long to update. Um the date was good. He was lovely good looking and interesting. But I was so nervous I drank to much wine getting ready and a few more at the bar 🙈 he got pretty tipsy to and we ended up spending the night together. I was mortified but he was lovely about it and is still messaging me all the time. I hope I haven't put him off

Kin - welcome back - enjoy a lazy summer - hope your romance is going well.

Thanks Val, the teacher was a no-go (far too needy for my tastes) so it's back to Tinder for me. Hope you are faring better.

Kin shame about the teacher - I've had some moments but the best was when I was catfished - read back on this thread if you are interested - had a giggle for a few days.

Just found it, that's shocking Val :(

I know Kin but I just couldn't help myself

Cant no need to be mortified if you enjoy yourself! If he really is 'the one' sleeping together so quick won't be enough to put him off ;)

Back from my walk with Mr Mountain, eneded up walking ten miles (dodgy foot paths and hills), I love walking but usually only 5k or so. I now ache all over and feel ill. The walk was nice but seeing him again made me realise why it didn’t really work last time we dated, he’s a pretty cold person, not that easy to talk too and hardly smiles. The end of the walk was awkward, I don’t think he was really feeling it either.

Anyway, next is my date with Mr Rebound, we met up when I was dating Mr Tinder (after we had fallen out) and there was a kiss. I’m not sure about him though, I need to see him again to make up my mind.

wow dates with mr mountain sound like hard bloody work LOL

Naynayba i felt that when I read it too.....like having to climb up Everest on all fours completely starkers 🤣😂 you are WELL rid there. He sounds like very hard work.

So I've found myself in that situation where I've had 2 dates this weekend and ended up really liking them both - oh noooooooooooooo. What on earth am I going to do 🤦🙈

🤣🤣 it was hard work, conversation was pretty boring and part of the time it was too windy to talk (or see, or breathe). He hasn’t messaged me since And I’m not bothering to message him.

uh oh vixen - maybe write out what you like about each here? so we can be nosy/live vicariously through you

vixen date both, keep a list of what you like and don’t like about each, I think you can get away with at least 3 dates before you need to decide.

yeah gotta have more than one date!!

I second that Vixen - given how hard it is to find ONE good one on OLD, you may as well keep your options open for a while.