Dating Thread 134 - 50 Swipes of Tinder

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Jax that’s so romantic!! I’d be a bit iffy about his girl friend, but you can only take it at face value and you’ve got youre message across so fingers crossed.

Yep, eH total shite - have already cancelled mine - what a load of crock that was (thank goodness it’s was on special offer!).

Tom I agree, this thread has been so helpful to me since I started OLD - thanks everyone!

Had my lunch date with Mr Mexico today, he’s really sweet, but also really short! I’m not super tall by any means but in flat shoes he was still an inch or so shorter than me, bit sigh. I’d be ok to go for a second date but he was totally non tactile (iykwim!) which threw me a bit too so assumed he wasn’t interested but since getting home his text has made me think he wants a second date! I am so confused!!

Morning coffee with Mr P tomorrow and am still hoping for a date with Mr Silver. If they all go to pot I’ll be looking again but I can only cope with three at a time!!!

Anyone out on a date tonight - have fun!!

Sorry, typo, was meant to say ‘you can’ not ‘can’t ‘ ,ipad is changing things , talk about anything and everything apart from your ex.

Mr Mountain has just messaged, he has said that he’s not looking for a relationship as he has applied to be a voulenteer coast guard and he won’t have much free time if he is excepted. I’m not too bothered, will still go for a walk with him tomorrow for something too do. I think I will arrange to see Mr Rebound and Mr same name next week. Mr Rebound is very keen, maybe a bit too keen.

Love you had me worried there and wondering what I could talk about instead
That's a bit sucky about Mr Mountain but hope you enjoy your walk.

I'm amazed at how many dates you have as I don't even chat to that many blokes. However my dating site is shite so that's probably why I'm ok with not having lots on the go though as enjoying being single and the freedom that goes with that. Summer is always fun with my kids so am making the most of it. It would be nice to go out sometimes though but that last guy put me off.

I have been dating for a looooooong time. I’m not on any sites at the moment, these are old irons that I have stayed in touch with. I have probably been on 30+ dates over the past 3 years and had a couple short relationships. I think I have given up all hope of actually finding someone reasonable

Back from date...

Ummm no

No

Nope

Nooooo

Wheely what happened? Sorry it's not turned out

Lostlily sounds lovely and sometimes things do go right!

Wheely how bad is noooo?

Tell us wheely....

I think he got there about 30mins early....he rang me at 1830ish but I was driving so didn't answer.

I pulled up at 1903pm met him inside and he went on a bit about it being past 7pm

I got a drink, we sat down and he started talking about nerves. That he doesn't get nervous when meeting new people....I said your lucky...that I was feeling a bit nervous. He then went on for about 10 minutes about by getting nervous was stupid I was no longer nervous, more.

But I made a joke and changed the subject....he just talked about himself, didn't ask questions. Kept looking at my thighs...started feeling like there was something wrong with them.

We finished the drink and I said I needed to get back with working tomorrow

Just a big NOooo and no again.

He's texted, I've replyed, he's texted again, I've not replyed

Christ. That was bad. What a bore he was and what's with the thighs?? How dare you be 3 minutes late!!

Wheely he sounds like he is a leg man and a nervous bore. Onwards and upwards!

Mr Blue is out with mates but messaging me a bit. I could get used to this, a man that actually seems bothered and he is talking about date 4.

I agree with you wheely - that's a nope. noooope.

I'm trying to think of legitimate reasons to message Youngshy

Well Mr Born Again - my date last night didn't take that very well - blocked me on WhatsApp and then unblocked and has now blocked me again - all I said was that I'd be happy to meet up for a drink as mates - some men are so touchy lol

Nay could you remember something funny you just happened to read somewhere to share? search internet for his favourite comedian first

hahahaaa brilliant choc! stalker ahoy ;)

Nay cyber-stalking is great in early dating. I'm hoping I can get Mr Blue's surname soon or place of work, I want to see what I can find online.

Watch out for Mr Blue Chocs - he was badass in Resevoir Dogs

Wheely Oh no! He sounds like a right knob! Sounds like someone I had a date with a couple of weeks ago. Imagine moaning at someone who’s 3 minutes late!!

Cyber stalking is great - shame I can’t find anything on the guys I’m messaging, keep trying though!

I’ll report back tomorrow after my morning coffee date with Mr P (aka Mr Cleavage!)

wheely he sounds very boring and self centred. Move on to the next one.

About to get ready to drive to Mr Mountains, not feeling that great about going, scared I will get too attached and he doesn't want a relationship (sometimes knowing this makes you more atracted). I need to remind myself that we are just going for a walk as friends but previously we have ended up in bed. I haven't seen him for around 10 months so it's going to be a little weird.

I have a date with Mr rebound either Tuesday or Wednesday evening, will keep myself busy and my options open.

Cant find anything on youngshy, he's not on SM much and his job doesnt really leave any trace online....

lostlily How great things are going so well with Mr Beard...long may it continue!

Lovemusic Enjoy your walk with Mr Mountain and good luck with Mr Rebound.

I've learnt...thanks to you guys...that having a few on the go certainly helps take the pressure off just putting all your eggs in one basket with one guy (iykwim!!)

userofthiswebsite - I signed upto Tinder last weekend, I had been on Match but it was dead, same faces etc. Tried our POF & lasted 24hrs 🤣😂.

The best advice I can give about Tinder is to put the really important stuff in your profile. I put in a line about no hookups, my intentions - dating/relationship and I also put I that I was a mum of 1 (usually a deal breaker for some guys). The most important thing is to have fun- Tinder is very busy so be prepared to have a few messages that don't quite get off the ground - I have met a couple of nice people & who aren't just looking for a hookup and who are genuinely interested in dating.

Been off here for the week - had a date Friday which had to be cancelled (legit reasons) so waiting for him to deal with what he has to deal with & will reschedule at a later date.

Had a date yesterday - going to call him MrShy. We have been chatting for a while, he finally plucked up courage to ask me out for a drink. So I went, was expecting to have 1 drink & go. Met at 6, didn't leave pub until 11.30! The time between 7.30 and 11.30 went in the blink of an eye, never ran out of conversation & totally took me by suprise. We're going to see each other for another date. Genuinely the nicest date I have been on yet, going to take this one nice and slow. But very promising!

I have another date today - waiting to see if it is still going ahead. I'll call him MrEyes, he has the most sensational eyes. We're going bowling, quite glad of that really as I'm bored of lunch/dinner and coffee. He suggested it so I thought yes - plus I'm quite competitive so could be a fun date.

Hope you are all having fun and adventures on your journeys..... x

kinunir long time no see - how’s things with you??