Dating Thread 134 - 50 Swipes of Tinder

[RunsforCake14]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Runs glad harmony has been restored to this thread - I enjoy it more than OLD

Jax I can totally understand why you would feel uneasy. It is too early to trust him, as you don't know him, but you do really have to believe what he says right now. Only time will tell if he's stringing you along. If you were to mention it you might come across as insecure and needy. Just go out tonight, treat him as a new friend and see what happens. Do you have male friends you go out with? If so, that's exactly the same as he's doing isn't it, and you know he'd have no reason to feel uncomfortable if it the other way round. Hope you have a lovely time!

Look at it this way - if he's known her for years and they have both been single at any point in that time, if something was going to happen between them, it would have already! You can't mention it at this stage because you'd be a bunny boiler, but there's no harm in just popping that thought in the 'hmmm' box, to keep and eye on just in case ;) Coz, it could be complete BS and she was someone he met on tinder last night....

Bless me mumsnet for i have sinned.

I got raunchy via messages with mr RYANTS. He's fallen into that booby trap of getting too frisky too early - 'ur so fit' - and i went with it because it was amusing and i was bored and he's so far away it cant be serious i believe. So unless it doesn't work out with YoungShy and he makes amends for rushing that's him in the friendzone.

This has pushed me right off! Hissy is the one that has said this board isn't a healthy place to be.

Pissed not pushed!

Has Hissy ever used this board? I can't abide people who judge something they know nothing about.

This board is so helpful to me. I don't have close friends IRL who are doing OLD, so it's hard for them to offer advice. This board of full of people supporting each other in similar situations.

Hi All

Hope everyone's having a good weekend Bop I too think Mr Rugby is lovebombing, tread carefully.
Love! good to see you back, I'm sure everyone on here thought you could do better when you told us about Mr Tinder, glad you have moved on and are free to meet someone lovely when you are ready.
Pudding you have too many surfer dudes, think you are taking my share!
Val what a shame there was no spark, glad you had a nice evening anyway, I have had a few enjoyable dates where the chap was lovely just not for me, and I had a date recently which I thought had gone well, and then he said I was nice but not for him, always best to be honest and no point taking it to heart as we all want different things.
Vet Good luck with Mr Sailor, although Mr DM seems good too, nice to have a couple of options.
My own love life is still a bit of a disaster :) Still on again, off again with Mr Local, I have reservations about long term, but still enjoy seeing him and we have things in common and a lot of chemistry. Not sure where its going but enjoying the journey so far.
Good luck to those on dates x

So Mr Doctor has suggested a place and time for tomorrow. I suggested somewhere else (it's nearer to me) and we're going with that. I'm shocked. I didn't think it'd happen. Of course, it hasn't yet...

Jax I always feel uncomfortable with men who have close female friends, I think it’s because I have always struggled to have just a friendship with male friends, most of them I have slept with even ifs just been a FWB type thing, I find men usually step over the line from friendship to FWB quite easily. This makes me extra wary when a man tells me his best friend is female. Maybe I’m just paranoid.

I’m not sure if I should line up a few dates next week, will see how tomorrow’s date goes. Tomorrow’s date has the same name as another old iron and I accidentally messaged the other one by mistake last week, he replied and now wants to meet too 😐 and Mr Rebound keeps saying he is waiting for me (I told him I needed time to get over Mr Tinder). So even though I’m not back on the OLD I have several possibilities to keep me busy and to help me recover from Mr Tinder.

I was just swiping through Bumble and Tim Lovejoy popped up!

love thats a bit awks with the name thing

good luck with mr doctor tom!! hopefully he just stumbled and has recovered himself and got with the programme now ;)

The Tim
love joy??

Yes!

I've heard some celebs mention they're on tinder and the like. First time I've actually seen one

I always feel uncomfortable with men who have close female friends

I don't know ANY man who has been able to be friends with a woman without wanting more, whether they let that be known or keep it to themself.

I had to google as didn't know who you were talking about. Not very up on celebs at all

I agree about men with female friends. There's nearly always some degree of attraction there.

What to talk about on dates ????😁

Excitedly nervous. He's been texting through the day so feel he's definately not bailing at the last minute 😁 bugger!

The weather
Things you have in common, pick a point from their profile or something you've already shared in a text and ask more about it.
Holidays you have planned for the summer, favourite films, music. Be guided by what info you've shared already.

Just about to sign up for Tinder. Have been on eH for a couple of weeks and found it quiet, too quiet.
So thought I'd try this.
Any advice for a newbie who is looking to find a nice boyfriend?

User eH is shite isn't it! Following with interest your experience of Tinder.good luck!

wheely I used to struggle with things to talk about but am now a pro and probably talk too much, you can’t talk about the weather, what you did last weekend, work, kids, hobbies, films, food, pets and I often talk about dating expereances (laugh at the bad ones).

Why can't you talk about all those things??

Thanks for the wise words. YES! I do have male friends who ARE only friends and he has shown me pictures of them at school together and talked about her. He could have got with her at any time I suppose but hasnt. He doesnt see her that way.

I will just have to take things at face value for now and file it under 'watch that one'

He did say she asked him to go on holiday with her and I laughed and said I dont think that Id be too happy with that, would he be if it were the other way round. Which made him think and he said no, he wouldnt.

Ive made my feelings known without being a bunny boiler I think.

If I didnt like him none of this would bother me in the least but I bloody well do.

Anyway we are out tonight, and Im sure he will tell me about everything. He is upfront and says and has done everything perfect so far.

He picked up a heart shaped stone at the beach the other day and gave it to me. Cheesy? Maybe to some, but I thought it was lovely and a bit romantic.

Jax I love heart shaped stones on the beach and think it's really romantic too.

Hello guys and girls....took me a while to find the thread! Nice to see you all still on here, I've had a busy few weeks, things going amazingly well with Mr beard and I've also had a lovely 2 week holiday in the sun with my friend and dd
So what's happening out there.... last time I looked most seemed to be really down with the whole dating thing after a lot of us had been through the mill a bit.
I have to say I am absolutely on the smitten bench with Mr Beard and have to pinch myself sometimes...... I honestly do worry that it is going so well, something ugly is going to pop up or ...I don't know, I just find it hard to completely trust someone after everything.

Last time I got on really well with someone they suddenly announced (after several weeks) they had 3 kids with 3 different women and started telling me I shouldn't be having holidays away with my friends if I was in a relationship....he got dumped!

So Mr Beard, wow! we just clicked on our first date after several weeks of chatting, we have been totally into each other ever since.
He is just 100% perfect
I truly hope things carry on, since I met him everything seems to have fallen into place, my marital home finally sold after a year, I've had an offer accepted on a great apartment somewhere I've always liked and a promotion at work

After the year I've had I was well in need of some luck