AIBU - Sent a personal pic

[ThirdTimeUnlucky]

So, I've been dating a guy for 3 mths. We send personal pics to each other - no big deal. He requested one recently a bit more personal so I decided to send one today as he was stressed at work.
His response was along the lines of who's m*nge is that?
I replied 'just delete it' and then blocked him on WA.
He's now saying (via text msgs) I'm being unreasonable, he apologised for using the wrong terminology, said it took him by surprise (obviously not in a nice way). His last msg was 'I can't win'.
I was going to unblock him but he's just dug a bigger hole for himself.
Am I being unreasonable? He asked for the pic not so long ago. I even edited it with a X (kiss). I feel insulted that he didn't know it was mine! . Lol.

I don't care WHAT people think, I think it's gross and nasty for ANY woman to send pics of her fanny to ANYone, let alone some random bloke she has known for a few weeks. And then to say she doesn't care who he shows the pics to, speaks volumes about that woman.

And people saying 'some women may do this because they had bad childhoods and have low self esteem blah blah blah,' can bore right off. People who have low self esteem don't do THIS shit.

What's more, the OP does NOT fit into any category like that; she is arrogant, she didn't get the reaction she wanted from this man (that he didn't even ASK for!) and she is annoyed about it. In addition, she doesn't give a shit who sees the pics, and the more she comes out with, the more I am rolling my eyes.

@shmooboomoo

I think most women with a modicum or self-respect would not acquiesce to such a request after such a short time and most would be horrified at the prospect of an image of their private parts being passed around the office for fun, whether traceable back to them or not.

Agree totally with this. And no @AuntyElle , it is NOT 'judgemental bollocks!' Who, in their right mind, would take a photo of their fanny, and send it to some fucking bloke they barely know! FFS, what the hell is WRONG with some people here?!

Have to say; I am beginning to doubt the validity of the OP's claims, and what she is saying, and I think she posted this for a reaction, and to cause a controversial thread.

So I am not buying anymore of what she says, and I am OUT of this thread.

I think you overreacted to be honest.

You send the pic and he jokingly asked whose it was to check if it was 100-% yours. Maybe a little insensitive but nothing major.

I imagine you have other issues with this relationship otherwise it wouldn't register on your radar.

Nothing wrong with sending rude pics of you don't have face in and are an adult doing it out of your own free will. But if you're unsure about someone I'd advise not to do it.

But no judgments from me OP.

Also@dinosaurkisses I think that was very nasty of her to show it around to loads of people.

I received one once and only showed my then boyfriend as it was from a mutual friend of ours we had only seen half an hour before.

I was 17 and even then wouldn't have shown it around to people. I've had it done on me (didn't even know was recorded) so can honestly say whatever gender you are it's not OK to forward on and good riddance if police charge you for revenge porn.

People send dirty pics every day, just because you don’t agree doesn’t mean it’s wrong 🤷🏻‍♀️ As long as both parties are consensual. Op he probably wasn’t expecting a picture of your, ahem lady bits hence the minge comment. I mean it was a week later after all. Don’t take it to heart.

If you send a pic of your genitals to any man let alone a man you’ve only known three months then you run the risk of them becoming public. I’m not judging or stoning anyone. I enjoy sex and I am willing to try most things but I would never leave myself that vulnerable.

I personally wouldn't send pics but whatever floats your boat. But I'd rather have it called a minge than a pussy.
Pussy for me = cat = equals is called that because of fish 🐟🐟🐟🐟 !

Thanks Babe, feel like l can tackle the filing now

^^

Read this as 'filling', not filing, and thought oh wait, the boyfriend is a dentist

This thread made me laugh out loud. It was like an episode of the Ali G show.

To be fair to him, I once sent my DH a close up of my armpit folds - arm down (showing him a cat scratch), and he asked if it was a fanny photo.

It will be a lovely story to tell your grandchildren one day.

‘Do you remember when you sent me a crotch shot and you got upset because I said minge?’

‘Those were the days.’

No way I'll ever send a pic of my minge

Disgusting behaviour.

People who have low self esteem don't do THIS shit

So the OP maybe has high self-esteem...in which case I see no problem.

I just thought she was upset about it, but she's cleared that right up by saying she stands behind her right to send photos of herself to anyone she chooses. I applaud her for that.

What she cannot do is control other people's responses to receiving one of these photos. She just needs to find a guy she is compatible with. It could still be this guy if they talk and have it out (no pun intended!)

People send dirty pics every day, just because you don’t agree doesn’t mean it’s wrong

I think it is wrong, I wouldn’t even send a dirty picture to my DH and I doubt he would send me one even if I asked him, I think it is rather perverted!

I don’t understand what kick people get out of sending photos of their genitals.

What response were you expecting? I don't think anyone has ever complimented me on my vagina.... am I missing something? I mean I've never taken a picture of it either. I can imagine it's that impressive to look at and it would be hard to get the lighting right.

*can't imagine. I am not boasting about my impressive vagina...

I’m not sure I’d even recognise my own vagina in a picture...

I’m not sure I’d even recognise my own vagina in a picture..

Which is why mine is pierced.

So you sent a picture of your fud to him, randomly, while he was at work and you wonder why he asked who's it was?

Clearly the OP was not looking neither for advice nor opinions as to whether she should have sent the picture. As far as I'm concerned, she can send pictures of her body parts to whoever she wants.

OP, sorry that you have had a barrage of unwanted comments. But I do think that your response to his message was strange. Minge is no more offensive than pussy, and I suppose he asked whose it was as he wasn't expecting to receive a picture.

Just trying to work out what angle I'd need to take it from to avoid the tummy overhang getting in the way

halfwitpicker
I read It as filling too but took the "filling" part to mean filling something completely different 🤣 I.e the minge!

Amateur.

Everyone knows it’s the tits that are the joy bringers.

Full Brazilian!

What the hell? I get that this is how it's done these days but raise your standards!
3 months in and this is best it's ever gonna be ..keep him blocked.
He sounds like a slime ball, he'll have others he's also getting pics from ..he wanted a name to the minge 😖

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