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AIBU - Sent a personal pic

255 replies

ThirdTimeUnlucky · 30/05/2018 14:25

So, I've been dating a guy for 3 mths. We send personal pics to each other - no big deal. He requested one recently a bit more personal so I decided to send one today as he was stressed at work.
His response was along the lines of who's m*nge is that?
I replied 'just delete it' and then blocked him on WA.
He's now saying (via text msgs) I'm being unreasonable, he apologised for using the wrong terminology, said it took him by surprise (obviously not in a nice way). His last msg was 'I can't win'.
I was going to unblock him but he's just dug a bigger hole for himself.
Am I being unreasonable? He asked for the pic not so long ago. I even edited it with a X (kiss). I feel insulted that he didn't know it was mine! Shock. Lol.

OP posts:
purestpetal · 30/05/2018 14:47
Confused What bit did you show him? Internal would be very difficult to pick out in a line up! Plus, l now feel ancientGrin
Original poster
ThirdTimeUnlucky · 30/05/2018 14:47

I'm not after opinions of what others think about sending them.

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SleepingStandingUp · 30/05/2018 14:47

So he's texting you saying he's stressed and you reply with a photo of genitals?

He hasn't got a clue why you sent it and didn't reply with oh yeah baby, not I'm horny not stressed, your pussy is so purr-fect and now you've blocked him?
Seems like a huge over reaction towards someone you trust with a photo of your genitals

SleepingStandingUp · 30/05/2018 14:48

What is WA?

FizzyGreenWater · 30/05/2018 14:49

Message him saying:

'Sorry about all that. My phone seems to have been hacked. Pictures of Godzilla closeups everywhere. All I can say is that the scales have fallen from my eyes (and a few other places if you know what I mean). Best we leave it here I reckon. Bye.'

purestpetal · 30/05/2018 14:49

some
What would be the correct response?
“ Thanks Babe, feel like l can tackle the filing now!”

purestpetal · 30/05/2018 14:50

So, third what do you need help with?

TheQueef · 30/05/2018 14:51

Presumably how unremarkable her chuff is.

MrsHappyAndMrCool · 30/05/2018 14:51

Why would you even send him private photos?

hellsbellsmelons · 30/05/2018 14:52

WA - I'm assuming is WhatsApp.

Takfujuimoto · 30/05/2018 14:52

Ugh, < shoves half eaten tuna & cheese toaster away>

3 months? Really? 3 months is all it takes to debase yourself over a guy.

Stop sending 'pictures' of yourself to him anyoneeveragain and find someone who won't reduce you to his personal instant porn hub.

DiagramFan · 30/05/2018 14:53

Diagram?

Original poster
ThirdTimeUnlucky · 30/05/2018 14:54

I was upset, ok!
He asked for a pic last week to cheer him up at work.
I sent the pic today as he was stressed.
He sent what I thought was an insensitive comment back.

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SleepingStandingUp · 30/05/2018 14:55

Wel tbf Tak she sent the photo unsolicited.

If this was someone saying that after 3 months DP had randomly sent a dick or anus photo to make her day better puerile wouldn't blame her

CardinalCat · 30/05/2018 14:56

What kind of opinions are you looking for then? On the acceptability of the word 'minge'?
I don't think it's universally frowned upon, and it doesn't personally bother me, but nor do I find it particularly alluring as a wooing tactic, to have somebody refer to it that way. Nor would I be turned on by him talking about my pussy either (but then I wouldn't get turned on by sharing pics, so maybe I'm just not the bets person to advise.)

It does seem that, in the great scheme of things, you have taken offence to one single, rather random, aspect of the whole situation. Did he know that you hate that word?

ittakestwo · 30/05/2018 14:57

Please stop making yourself so vulnerable. You are not responsible for relieving his work stress and especially by sending such pictures.

CardinalCat · 30/05/2018 14:58

Oh I see, you're offended that he didn't recognise your labia and suggested you may have sent a random one.

yes, I suspect the chap is no Einstein, but it also sounds like it might just be 'banter' and perhaps a bit OTT to get so upset about. Still, if that was your reaction, then own it, and move on.

Littlejayx · 30/05/2018 15:00

Tuna cheese toaster 😂😂😂

Takfujuimoto · 30/05/2018 15:01

Wel tbf Tak she sent the photo unsolicited.

Well you're not wrong Sleep, but that kind of makes it worse imo.
Makes me wonder, op has he whined about his day before and requested a pic to cheer him up?

Does he have previous?

PeppermintPasty · 30/05/2018 15:01

What a hoo-ha.

(Is that what he said too?).

Sorry, OP, I am not funny. Plus I am clearly very old. Why taf would anyone do this?!

summerinrome · 30/05/2018 15:02

Wow that is truly hideous. Why would you do it???
He could passing the photo around etc you have known this guy all of three months.

What a sad state of affairs.

What little self respect you have I would gather up and have a long cold look at yourself before starting another relationship.

Takfujuimoto · 30/05/2018 15:02

*Toastie! 😂😂😂, I really can't finish it now though 🤢

cjt110 · 30/05/2018 15:02

Minge.
Fanjo.
Fanny.
Vagina.
Lady bits.
Lady tent.
Muff.
Growler.
All words to describe the female anatomy.

Also, how many vanginas have you seen? Or is your that "yooniq" he would be ridiculous not to know it was yours?

Seriously, have some self respect. Grow a thicker skin if you get offended by a word someone uses for something.

Littlejayx · 30/05/2018 15:03

Next time get him a giant Millie’s cookie

cjt110 · 30/05/2018 15:03

PS. How old actually are you? You sound like a mini-teen