AIBU - Sent a personal pic

[ThirdTimeUnlucky]

So, I've been dating a guy for 3 mths. We send personal pics to each other - no big deal. He requested one recently a bit more personal so I decided to send one today as he was stressed at work.
His response was along the lines of who's m*nge is that?
I replied 'just delete it' and then blocked him on WA.
He's now saying (via text msgs) I'm being unreasonable, he apologised for using the wrong terminology, said it took him by surprise (obviously not in a nice way). His last msg was 'I can't win'.
I was going to unblock him but he's just dug a bigger hole for himself.
Am I being unreasonable? He asked for the pic not so long ago. I even edited it with a X (kiss). I feel insulted that he didn't know it was mine! . Lol.

If you're not bothered why did you block him ? Thing is you don't know that he's not showing his mates down the pub a pic of your fluffy bits. After 3 months you don't know the guy and from his response ....you definitely don't know him !

I'm sorry you're upset third - I think context is surely important if you're sending personal photos (not my thing so I may be very wrong). But if you were sexting and included a photo thats one thing but him asking for a photo and you sending one - apparently randomly - a week later does seem different. Presumably he wasn't expecting that photo, at that time? Perhaps this was behind his question...
But thats just guesswork - only you know the context of the texts around the photo in question.

Although if DH said I'm stressed, send me a photo of your pussy he would get this so maybe I'm the wrong person to ask

Oh OP I'm sorry I've just cross posted with you.

Sorry.

I can imagine how you feel. Like he's pulled the rug out from under you and you feel daft, yet at the same time you know it's at least partly the way you've taken it so it's quite hard to pull him up on it without sounding neurotic-!

It's just one of those AAAARGH moments.

It will be forgotten.

Have a sit down and think about the whole package - if he's generally lovely then maybe start the conversation again with a 'Ok sorry. It seemed a bit of a pisstake thing to say, that's all. Maybe shows that we might be best leaving the pics until we know each other a bit better eh?'

To be honest OP, this is the risk you run with sending pictures like this- you can never be 100% on how they'll be recieved and more importantly you don't control that image once it's been sent!

FFS you sent a man you have known for 13 weeks, a picture of your vaj?

What the actual, actual fuck?

I am not a prude, but I wouldn't even take a photo of my ladybits and give it to my fucking HUSBAND!

I mean, he can see it (obvs) whenever he likes, but he ain't getting a bleedin' photo of my wee box. Fuck that!

“ Thanks Babe, feel like l can tackle the filing now!”

ffs coffee has now come out my mouth, down my nose and over keyboard. Best comment I have read in ages.

Did you really send him a photo of your vagina?

Or was it actually of your vulva?

@FizzyGreenWater

No it will not be forgotten.

A virtual stranger has a PHOTOGRAPH of the OP's fanny. Forever.

I think YABU. I know you probaby feel a bit silly now and maybe a bit embarrassed because of his reaction but I don't think he's done anything wrong.

But what's the point of asking for opinions when everyone is having a laugh at my expense at the idea of sending personal pics.

I'm not laughing at you OP, my post was just giving you a humorous alternative if you felt at all pressured into sending him a photo.

@sweeneytoddrazor

You're easily pleased aren't you?

I've been with DH for 6 years and if I sent a fanny pic he would come out with the exact same thing

Just take this as a lesson OP artfully side boob pictures from now on !

@sweeneytoddsrazor

You're easily pleased aren't you?

Dh and I were cohabiting at 4 months so I think all the "he's a stranger" is a bit ott

What a time to be alive... Lol flylight

And tbh, I'm not sure I'd recognise a photo of my own bits.

Aren't they all, sort of, I mean, basically the same? I've not really looked at any others.

Thank you FizzyGreenWater

To other posters, ffs, we are having sex, what is so shocking about a pic of a vag. Also, I don't give a flying feck who he shows it to as long as it's not family, lol.

purestpetal
What would be the correct response?
“ Thanks Babe, feel like l can tackle the filing now!”

ROFL!

@ThirdTimeUnlucky you have said that you haven't asked for opinions on sending the photo in the first place - but in fact your reaction is intimately bound up with sending the photo BECAUSE of the nature of the photograph.

If you'd sent a photo of your garden gate, and he'd responded "fucking awful bleeding minge of a gate" you would have thought he was odd and moved on.

The very reason you are upset is BECAUSE you have made yourself vulnerable to a man you don't really know that well by sending a very personal photograph.

You really shouldn't do this especially with those you don't trust - he could upload it onto the internet- even if he does that anonymously would you be happy about that?

I think your reaction is due to sharing something personal and then reacting violently because you didn't get the reaction you wanted because it is so personal.

What reaction did you want exactly? It's just a photo of private parts - how much can someone really say. In a reverse situation, there isn't really much you can say to a picture of a cock that isn't either offensive or anondyne is there?

Maybe you were a bit cross cos his reply implied you’d don’t something shocking: you thought he would think you were sexy/cool, but it’s not come across that way.

To think in my day the answer to stress at work was a cup of coffee and a nice sit down.

being greeted beaver-first

weeping with laughter....

seriously, OP, sending photos of your genitalia to anyone other than a magazine who are paying for them is really not on. Unless you want it all over the internet?

and he probably recognises you by your face...

@ UserV

Yep

How would a pic of your minge reduce his stress?

There are many slang words for your private parts. Too bad the guy chose one you don't like. Just let him know you prefer "pussy". That's all you have to do.

What is more worrying is that he didn't necessarily think it was yours. Are you exclusive with him and you think he has more women sending pics like these?

Now, I am going to say something quite old-fashioned and I expect I'll be flamed as being out of touch, but here goes anyway. I am feeling brave today.

Whilst my past history would not depict me as a delicate Victorian maiden and I know times have changed a lot since I was young, I just think that a guy being able to ask for something like this and get maybe dozens of women complying just encourages him to become jaded and spoiled and for you to seem like just another easy-to-manipulate woman.

You are too good for this. I think that's why you are upset. Take some time out and meditate on this. Explore why you are so upset. I think you may find that deep down in your soul, you feel like you are being treated like a piece of meat for this guy's entertainment, no matter how cool this is supposed to be nowadays.

Your reaction to the ugly word he used about your body speaks volumes. You want to be more special than that. You deserve to be more special. Treat yourself the way you want people to treat you and you'll find they often do.

One day when you are happily married to the guy of your dreams, you will be glad that there aren't guys out there posting pictures of your private parts all over the internet for any perv to get his rocks off to. As will your husband, I'm sure.

(ducks down...awaits flaming...)