Would you ever marry a guy the same height as you

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I wanted to know if most women would ever consider this. What is the minimum you would settle for? How many inches taller does he have to be?

No I feel nothing when I see a woman taller than a man. It's simply a preference.

No

I’m 5”4 DH is 5”10

If he was the right man and he had integrity then I'd marry a dwarf

I did, 20 years ago, and believe it or not I still have eleventy billion far more important things to worry about. The height of my partner has never ever been one of them.

What @mindutopia said. I guess it depends on whether you've always been the 'tall' girls and you don't want that in your relationship too. I am 5.7 & I prefer 6.1+. Just feels right. But didn't stop me from marrying DH who is 5.11.

Why is it so terrible when women have preferences? It's not shallow it's simply physical attributes that you're attracted to ..like blue eyes or dark hair. It doesn't mean you rule out everyone else who doesn't fit that preference.
I'm short and plump but I don't get bent out of shape when men say they prefer tall, slim women.
It's a preference, nothing more.

I have also found that shorter men are angry about this fact which tends to make them less attractive but that's nothing to do with their height

Maybe their anger is less to do with how they feel about their height and more because they are being constantly rejected solely on that basis?

Height also being something that absolutely cannot be changed. I am actually struggling to think of anything else that is so physically unchangeable.

If men refused to give me a chance because of a physical attribute i have no control over, i’d be pretty furious.

You see, this is why so many relationship break down. People base too much emphasis on phoney things like looks, height, etc, instead of personality, caring, financially stable, potential to be a good father, etc.

My dp is around 5ft 6 and on the small side and I'm 5 ft 3. He's classed as a "short" man.

When I was talking to him and hitting it off through online dating my friend said "oh I'd never go out with a short guy (or a bald guy." I asked her but what I you hit it off and she was just very much "nope too short."

We've been together a long time now and have a real bond. My friend says things like "I wish I could meet someone decent and have a good relationship with" to which I respond "but you don't consider "shorter" men so you are potentially throwing away good men because of their height."

I genuinely don't get her thinking. She's the same height as me so it's not like she's over 6ft tall and doesn't want to look silly. It's like she thinks shorter men are "lesser " of a man or something or it's that whole "taller man protective" thing when in reality she's throwing away men who could actually be what she's looking for.

I am five feet tall so don’t meet many men my height. Have been out with men between 5’5 and 6’3.

Liberation Heard that phrase from one of my single friends who won't date a man under 6ft tall for that whole "I need to feel protected thing". But apparently even a 5ft 10 man who was a black belt in karate wouldn't give her that "protected thing".

I like really tall men, always have. I also like men who are stocky and bald.

I'm in fairly new relationships with an amazing man. He's 5ft 7, I'm 5ft 6 so barely anything in it height wise. Normally this would bother me.

He's bald, fairly overweight but I'm smitten with him. I've been single for 9 years and can't believe this guy has come along!

He's a perfect gent, funny, and what you see is what you get.

It's very early days but his height wouldn't stop me marrying him!

Those of you who wouldn't....what is your reaction when you see a tall woman and short man?

Hhahhhaaa No! Why would there be. No one is saying no women should be dating men shorter than them. They are saying it's their personal preference.

Why that would add up to shock and horror at a couple, where the man is shorter, I just don't get.

I don't mind if a man doesn't want to date me because he doesn't fancy me. Whatever the reason is. That's his preference.

I'm 5'10" DH is 5'8.5"
Together over 20 years.
And now I realise than there are people out there who have been laughing at us behind our back all this time.....
I'll file for divorce immediately.
Would hate to break any gender stereotypes.

If men refused to give me a chance because of a physical attribute i have no control over, i’d be pretty furious

Phyical attraction is part of a happy, healthy relationship. Some people don't like frizzy hair or green eyes. So what? Move on that's life

I definitely would. In fact reader I married him (DH is my height in bare feet so looks shorter if I wear even a bit of heel)

MN is weird about this. You will get loads of women saying they only date men of 6ft or more (or some such nonsense). I think DS (who looks like he is almost through puberty - at only 13 years old) is probably going to be arounf 5ft 10 (his height now) or maybe 5ft 11" if he grows a bit more. I look around and he is taller than a lot of men I see who are walking around with girlfriends/wives so I find it hard to believe that most womne would only marry men who are very tall.

Average height of a man in the UK is 5ft 9" and 5ft 3" for women. Of course that isn an average but by definiton that means a lot of men are less than tha!

Why is it so terrible when women have preferences?

Exactly. I don't like men of certain ethnicities. Does that make me a bad person? No

Think you'll find no-one cares Spandex so maybe take a deep breath and hang fire. It is simply a matter of preference. You preferred to marry a man shorter than you, I preferred not to.

Maybe their anger is less to do with how they feel about their height and more because they are being constantly rejected solely on that basis?

So you are saying women should date men, they aren't attracted to just so the men don't feel rejected and become angry? Maybe these angry men should accept that not everyone will fancy them.

Although, I can't say I have ever noticed that shorter men are more angry. So I don't agree with the other posters comment about that.

There are women out there (and men for that fact) who do class shorter men as less of a man for some strange reason. My ex, who is over 6ft tall, has referred to my dp as "the dwarf" before and someone at work called him "the man in the boys body." It's horrible!

Yet he's probably "more of a man" than any of those twats. He's a handsome, loving, kind guy who is a good father.

Men and women who dismiss shorter men are just twats and usually single themselves because they are searching for the ideal of a "tall protective hero" or something.

And now I realise than there are people out there who have been laughing at us behind our back all this time.....

Honestly, no one gives a shit about the height of a man you chose to marry. That's up to you. But you seem to take offence at other people's choices about who they date/marry.

No, not twats. We just prefer tall men.

Men getting hurt about being rejected because they are short = Woman getting hurt about being rejected because they are not size 12. Now lets never hear on MN again about people moaning about how men are shallow for not taking a second glance at woman >size 12. We as woman cannot have it both ways.

Men and women who dismiss shorter men are just twats and usually single themselves

Wow! So your personal preferences on who you fancy is a moral issue? For fucks sake.

Didn't realise that women should be dating people they don't fancy to avoid being called twats.

No one should be taking the piss out of people's appearance. For any reason. That's not ok. But it's totally different to just not fancying someone.

I generally don't go for blondes. The men I am attracted to, tend to have dark hair. Should I date a blonde so I am not viewed as a twat? Even if I don't want to.