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Would you ever marry a guy the same height as you

279 replies

Sergio4 · 30/05/2018 01:58

I wanted to know if most women would ever consider this. What is the minimum you would settle for? How many inches taller does he have to be?

OP posts:
Khaleesi0 · 30/05/2018 07:59

It's a non issue for me, I go for men on their personality! I'm only 5'2" though so most people in general are taller than me...

Eolian · 30/05/2018 08:02

There's nothing wrong with saying you find tall men attractive - we all have preferences. It's saying that you 'need' a man to be over a certain height, or implying that it's somehow socially unacceptable to date a man shorter than you which makes you sound like a twat.

Xiolablueviolet · 30/05/2018 08:02

Same height and above is fine. One inch shorter would probably be ok.

I am 5' 7" so someone under 5' 6" would just be too short.

I have also found that shorter men are angry about this fact which tends to make them less attractive but that's nothing to do with their height.

Shantotto · 30/05/2018 08:05

I'm 6ft and a bit (not quite 6' 1!) and if I 'needed' to go out with someone at least 6'2" or above I'd have been single for most of my life!

I've had two or three boyfriends who were significantly taller than me. And they all turned out to be total dicks.

Thatsalritehun · 30/05/2018 08:06

What an utterly shallow and depressing thread OP.

Puttingthefootdown · 30/05/2018 08:07

Tbh I've always been into taller guys. Mine is 6ft and I'm 5ft 3.
But if I was in love with them, it wouldn't matter at all.

GobblersKnob · 30/05/2018 08:09

Why on earth would this be an issue? I'm 5'10" I'm taller than quite a few men and have happily, (well I say happily, tbh their height just didn't come into it), dated men shorter than me.

I have a close friend who is 6'2" she'd have been looking a long time, if the only men she would date were 'several inches taller'.

LizzieLongToes · 30/05/2018 08:10

Nope never.

ItIsUnnervinglyQuietInHere · 30/05/2018 08:10

I'd prefer a man who was taller than me. Bu then I'm 5'3 so it's easily achieved.

I know a man who's probably a similar height to me, maybe an inch or so taller if that.

If he asked me out, I'd say yes. I couldn't say at this stage if I'd marry him though.

Besides, I think he might be gay...

SoftBlocks · 30/05/2018 08:10

Er, yes.

JaretsGirlfren · 30/05/2018 08:11

I’m 5”0 and DP is 6”5 , we would probably look less ridiculous if we were a bit closer in height but I wouldn’t love him less if he was shorter! I have an ex who was shorter than me (through disability, so he used a wheel chair but was also shorter than me when standing) we split for reasons other than his height like chatting up my friend on plenty of fish

TammySwansonTwo · 30/05/2018 08:12

I’ve never paid the blindest bit of attention to height - doesn’t factor in for me. DH is paranoid about his height and i could never understand why. This thread explains it.

3dogsandcounting · 30/05/2018 08:12

Really? Of course.

hugoagogo · 30/05/2018 08:16

dh is quite a bit taller than me and I wouldn't change him.
Before I was married though I was seeing a guy who was about my size and it was really lovely to be with someone where you didn't have to crane your neck to kiss them.

diodati · 30/05/2018 08:16
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TheBogWitchIsBack · 30/05/2018 08:19

I'm 5ft 1. Not many men are the same height as me. However my husband is 6ft4 so ..no.

ImogenTubbs · 30/05/2018 08:24

Yes, I did! But then I am 6ft tall so I'd be dramatically narrowing the field if I refused to date men the same height. I have never really fancied men considerably shorter, but similar or same height, yes.

AIBU to feel mildly annoyed with very small women who date very tall men? Leave them for the tall women! (Light-hearted - sort of!)

SandyY2K · 30/05/2018 08:25

I wouldn't. I'm not attracted to shorter men. I'm 5 ft 8.

HuckfromScandal · 30/05/2018 08:26

I’m 5 11, my dh is 5 9
I am so glad that I am not as shallow as fuck’!

My god, just amazed at some people.
I have read it all now.

BillywigSting · 30/05/2018 08:29

No but only because I'm under 5ft tall.

Dp is short for a man, around 5ft5.

I have been out with someone who was around six foot before and honestly it was just a bit awkward. Anything above 5ft10 and conversation becomes difficult because they either have to stoop right down or I have to crane my neck right up

pinkhorse · 30/05/2018 08:34

I wouldn't. I just don't find it attractive.

Olddear · 30/05/2018 08:38

I wouldn't be calling a man shallow because he didn't want to go out with a woman who didn't wear makeup etc. It would be his preference to go out with a woman who did.
That would be his choice. Just as we are all entitled to choose not to go out with someone we find unattractive to us.

HRTpatch · 30/05/2018 08:39

Those of you who wouldn't....what is your reaction when you see a tall woman and short man?
Do you feel pity, shock......Confused

Olddear · 30/05/2018 08:41

No reaction from me. It just wouldn't be for me.

firawla · 30/05/2018 08:42

Me and dh are basically the same height. It’s not something I’ve ever cared about at all! He claims he is slightly taller than me though but we are pretty much the same height.