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Would you ever marry a guy the same height as you

279 replies

Sergio4 · 30/05/2018 01:58

I wanted to know if most women would ever consider this. What is the minimum you would settle for? How many inches taller does he have to be?

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Aus84 · 30/05/2018 06:15

Huh? Can you imagine if a guy posted "Would you marry a girl who weighs more than you" or something along those lines.

Everyone has the right to have personal physical preferences about the partner they choose to be with - just be aware that putting it out there makes you look like a d*

blueskypink · 30/05/2018 06:19

I suppose it depends whether you want to wear high heels or whether you love him.

WTAF??!!!

starsuniteonceagain · 30/05/2018 06:21

Personally no. I'm tall myself and always dated tall men.

RealityHasALiberalBias · 30/05/2018 06:22

It’s the presumption that is so eyebrow raising - the op assumes the default is to desire men to be taller.

The average height of a man in the UK is 5’7.

My husband and I are both 5’8. I may be a shade taller actually. I’m also (grab your smelling salts!) five years older.

memaymamo · 30/05/2018 06:23

Don't care at all. I find it very weird that people have standards of appearance for their partners like this. I have never had a 'type' based on looks, only based on personality.

AnyFucker · 30/05/2018 06:26
Biscuit
vinegarqueen · 30/05/2018 06:35

I know people find different things attractive, but surely if you got to the point of dating someone for long enough that you'd consider marrying them, then breaking it off over their height would be very strange?

Repealedthe8th · 30/05/2018 06:36

I married a shorter man, OP. It never occurred to me not to, possibly because I do not suffer from Ickle Pwincess fantasies. Does that make you go all shocked and quivery?

HRTpatch · 30/05/2018 06:37

I'm 5 inches taller than my dh.
With flats.

RealityHasALiberalBias · 30/05/2018 06:41

That should have read average height is 5’9.

Damn my giant-woman thumbs.

tomhazard · 30/05/2018 06:44

Of course. My husband Is quite tall but it wasn't part of the attraction. If we were the same height that would be fine.

Rarotonga · 30/05/2018 06:47

Hypothetically speaking (as already happily married), if a man ticked all the boxes I would probably not even notice whether he was the same height or shorter than me, it's a non-issue.

This reminds me of an acquaintance moaning about not being able to meet a decent guy. I introduced her to a kind, funny, generous and rather good looking friend of mine, but she didn't want to go on a date with him because she didn't like his shoes Hmm

piethagoras · 30/05/2018 06:50

sergio when you say the same height, do you mean wearing high heels, or flat shoes? And do you also consider what shoes the woman is wearing?

mindutopia · 30/05/2018 06:53

Probably not. I’m tall and grew up feeling self conscious of my height. Everyone was shorter than me for a long time! It made me feel massive and silly. I’ve dated guys shorter than me when I was younger and it just felt awkward. I didn’t start dating my husband because of his height. I just really immediately connected with him from the first day we met. But he’s 6’5 and certainly that didn’t hurt either.

BigPinkBall · 30/05/2018 06:58

My DH is about 2 inches shorter than me, we didn’t even notice for a couple of months until someone pointed it out. It doesn’t bother me at all, I don’t understand why it should? He a decent bloke with a great personality and we get on like a house on fire, those things are so much more important.

burnoutbabe · 30/05/2018 07:07

Not noticeable shorter no, but I am 6 foot and stand out enough without people pointing and laughing at the tall women with the short man.

Doje · 30/05/2018 07:12

To be honest, before I met DH, I would have said something like 'I just wouldn't fall for someone shorter than me' but then I met DH and fell in love.

He's about the same height as me (he claims an inch taller). It doesn't bother me at all and was totally a non issue. I still love wearing heels, he doesn't care, I don't care.

reallyanotherone · 30/05/2018 07:13

I suppose it depends whether you want to wear high heels or whether you love him

You do realise that you can wear high heels whenever you want? That the height of the man you’re with has fuck all bearing on your choice of shoes?

I don’t get why this comes up every time. You want to wear heels, wear fucking heels. Don’t base your choice on a man.

Fwiw i don’t give a flying fuck about height. I actually like shorter men. I can’t believe people would be so shallow as to completely refuse to consider a man because of his height.

Undercoverbanana · 30/05/2018 07:14

If a man wouldn’t marry a woman with small tits or who didn’t wear make-up we would be considering him shallow.

Same applies.

Ifailed · 30/05/2018 07:14

I wonder what the responses would be if a man posted that he wouldn't marry a woman that was heavier than him?

HRTpatch · 30/05/2018 07:16

burnoutbabe
I am six feet tall.
No one laughs or points at us. Why would they?

vampirethriller · 30/05/2018 07:18

My boyfriends have been taller, shorter and the same size. I'm 5"9. I've worn heels with the shorter one and he didn't seem irreparably damaged by being seen in public with me.

Theycouldhavechoseneve · 30/05/2018 07:21

I’m attracted to tall men but I wouldn’t not a shorter man if they were right for me. If meeting on OLD though it’s physical attributes that are the first set of criteria to be met so likely shorter men would not be in the pool I was paddling in.

IveNoImagination · 30/05/2018 07:22

I like that my partner is taller than me but I don't think I would feel differently if he was the same height.

Firenight · 30/05/2018 07:24

My husband is shorter than me. Never realised that was an issue?!