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Would you ever marry a guy the same height as you

279 replies

Sergio4 · 30/05/2018 01:58

I wanted to know if most women would ever consider this. What is the minimum you would settle for? How many inches taller does he have to be?

OP posts:
GreenMeerkat · 23/08/2018 09:44

My DB's partner is at least 3 inches taller than him

Isitovernow · 23/08/2018 09:47

My DH is taller and once he's an inch or two taller, that's cool with me. I don't think height would be the biggest dealbreaker for me but I don't like being taller than the guy. I was with a short guy once. I didn't care less but then he said to me 'you're not petite' in a critical way!

VickieCherry · 23/08/2018 09:48

My partner is about an inch taller than me. I don't like tall men, they make me feel loomed over and claustrophobic. (I'm 5' 5 and a bit.)

Electrack · 23/08/2018 09:49

Myother Grin

Not to lower the tone but in my experience, sex with a guy of similar height is easier and can be better in terms of positioning. My chap is 6ft but each of his legs is about 5ft 7 and it can be challenging, especially as I’ve got short legs!

To myother’s point, I met up with a curly haired guy who appeared tall in his tinder pics but he was actually standing on a stool I subsequently found out. He was a couple of inches taller than but with amazing black curly hair so i fancied him like mad. It was that experience that crystallised that a small height differentialcan make for good sex!

Datguy · 23/08/2018 09:54

Electrack, the truth is people have preferences etc but I don't think people appreciate it being vocalised. I definitely have a physical type when it comes to women and it has a lot to do with the fact that I'm in great shape. So I like that in a partner.

Electrack · 23/08/2018 09:58

I agree datguy. When I was using tinder I never swiped on guys who were clearly very sporty or fit as I knew I was unlikely to meet their expectations physically and also that we may not have common interests. It’s no idictment on those guys, or myself. It’s just the way it is

Isitovernow · 23/08/2018 10:00

And then there's the other side of that ... I met guys online who were only interested because of the way I looked. It made it impossible to meet someone with common interests as the selection process was so shallow.

Electrack · 23/08/2018 10:08

Isit a friend of mine uses a dating app for people interested in fitness, not primarily because he’s looking for a perfect 10 but because he wants someone to cycle with. I think though it’s a fact of life that appearance is the first test in choosing someone. Personally my preference is someone with a dad bod and I love beards, so the fit guys didn’t necessarily appeal. Though some fit guys do have facial hair too!

Musti · 23/08/2018 10:13

Without knowing the person I have certain physical preferences but I'm attracted to their personality. The last person I was besotted with isn't good looking but I was incredibly attracted to him.

So on paper I'd like a tall man etc in real life it doesn't make a blind bit of difference.

haverhill · 23/08/2018 10:17

I’m 5’8’’ and have always felt a bit hefty as I have a large frame too. Someone taller makes me more in proportion, so I preferred taller guys when single. However I absolutely would and have dated averagely tall people. DH is six foot but my previous bf was 5’8’’.

RingtheBells · 23/08/2018 10:30

I'm 5'10" and DH is the same height, I wouldn't care if he were 5'6" though
If I cared about height I would have had a lot less choice of men than someone 5 foot tall

armyangel · 23/08/2018 10:39

I am 5 foot 9 so could no way date a man who is shorter than me - I also have two brothers who are both 6 foot 3 and a father who is 6 foot 5 so would be weird to bring a short guy home

RatRolyPoly · 23/08/2018 11:19

The only guy whose shortness has been a disappointment to me was the guy who felt the need to lie about it on his online dating profile. Massive turn-off.

Frazzled2207 · 23/08/2018 12:27

My husband is half an inch taller than me. I wore flats at my wedding because I thought it would look odd with me towering above him. Ridiculous I know.
A good friend however married a short man- she is several inches shorter.

MrsDesireeCarthorse · 23/08/2018 12:38

Yes, although I'm only 5'2" and my husband is nearly 6'4".

If he's the right person, he's the right person whatever his height. Same as his view of me.

Racecardriver · 23/08/2018 12:41

Yes because I am not a twit.

MrsDesireeCarthorse · 23/08/2018 12:45

AIBU to feel mildly annoyed with very small women who date very tall men? Leave them for the tall women! (Light-hearted - sort of!)

Yes. Fuck off and grow up.

Summerisdone · 23/08/2018 13:03

No, but I am only 5ft1 so that would be pretty short for a man, and it may be shallow of me but I couldn't date a man that short.
I tend to go for men who are about 6ft but tbh I'd be fine dating a man from 5ft6 upwards.

NordicNobody · 23/08/2018 15:23

I'm 5ft2 and was engaged for a while to a man who was 5ft. He was a total cunt but not because of his height haha. Next 2 boyfriends were both over 6ft. My 5ft10 friend frequently (and seriously) complained that I should "leave the tall men for her". Some people are so odd.

IndieTara · 23/08/2018 15:32

I currently have a dating profile that states I'm looking for somebody taller than me. I'm 5ft 9 and 6 feet tall in my highest heels.
I just don't want to be with somebody I have to physically look down on or bend down to kiss. It's just not attractive to me.
Lots of the Male dating profiles state things like 'looking for somebody older than me'. 'I prefer slim sporty women' 'please have long blond hair '
That kind of thing, I just don't message those people. It's ok to all have our preferences

Moneypenny007 · 23/08/2018 16:42

I'm 5ft 10 and so is he... seriously more important things than height!

fourplusonemore · 23/08/2018 16:47

I have. DH is maybe half an inch taller than me but can often look a bit taller than that due to his hair. He's my favourite human, his height doesn't change that. I would LOVE to feel short next to him in heels and not Amazonian but we're both 5ft10 so that's never going to happen even with him wearing lifts WinkGrin

AnElderlyLadyOfMediumHeight · 23/08/2018 16:51

'I just don't want to be with somebody I have to physically look down on or bend down to kiss.'

But IndieTara, presumably it's OK for him to look down on you or bend down to kiss you? Why is that OK but the reverse not? Think about that for a moment, and what that means about your view of men and women.

SkaTastic · 23/08/2018 16:59

I couldn't be with someone who was shorter than me and that's not due to being shallow or not having more important things to worry about. It's about what I find attractive in a partner and because I'm 5 foot 10 I like someone who is 6ft2 or more. That's just what does it for me, short men make me feel like a clumsy Amazon!

HollyBollyBooBoo · 23/08/2018 16:59

Nope, I like them about a foot taller and a foot wider!

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